i realy want to move in with my dad i have been waiting for 3 years to and now i finaly can wat do i tell my mom
2007-04-19 11:04:16 · 16 answers · asked by !FIERCE! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her you need to broaden your horizons a bit and that you'd appreciate knowing you always have a home there with her too in case things don't work out.
2007-04-19 11:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by MBN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? What are your reasons for wanting to live with your Dad? Very often kids choose the parent who is going to go lighter on them. Will Dad follow up on your studies? Will he let you have a really late curfew? What is it? If it TRULY is nothing more than the fact that you'd like to experience life with your Dad for awhile (since you've been with your Mom all this time) - then tell her that. But if you are just trying to find the "fun house" of the two houses - that's not very good judgement.
If they don't live far apart - you can still spend SOME time at Mom's - right? Tell her that's your plan.
I'll bet your Mom only wants you to stay because she thinks it's what's best for you. If you can convince her that you're mature enough to make the best of this situation - and make it good for you - and everyone involved - go for it.
2007-04-19 11:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After reading some of the answers, I don't agree with most. it sounds like she might want to go live with dad cause he'll let her get away with more, If that's the case, I say she should stay with mom, I would love to hear her reasons why she's wanting to go live with dad, I'd also like to see how she's doing in life 2 yrs from now. Good Luck
2007-04-19 11:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a tricky one. The best advice I can give you is to sit down with your mom and let her know that you love her and appreciate all she has done for you, but you really miss your dad and would like the opportunity to live with him now. Just emphasize that it has nothing to do with her, and you just want the chance to be as close to your dad. I hope it works out for you , make sure to keep the lines of communication open with BOTH of your parents. Let them know what it going on with you. BEST OF LUCK!!!
2007-04-19 11:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to your mom WHY you want to move in with your father...let her know how you feel-and why-and possibly why you don't want to live with her[if thats the case]. assure your mom that you will visit her and call her etc., and let her know you love her all of that. that's pretty mcuh all you can do. your mom still may not want you to move-most likely just becuase she loves you and doesn't want you to leave. you know. just tell her all that and say you really think it's in yourt best interest. convince her it is the right thing for you. maybe you need a change in your life. if you really want to move,your mother should respect that.
2007-04-19 11:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by akay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle, but honest with your mom. It seems that your parents' divorce was bad so your mom has resentment towards you dad. She could be feeling betrayed. It's not your fault so explain to your mom that this is what you need to do right now. Assure her that it's not like you're never going to see her again unless that's your plan. In that case, don't fill her with false hopes. What's your relationship like with your mom?
2007-04-19 11:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to understand that you miss your dad. She's probably mostly upset because she'll miss you and she feels that you favor your dad. Have a mother-daughter going away celebration where you and she spend some good quality time together. (You could get a manicure, watch chick flicks, etc.) and be sure to tell her regularly (while you're there and while you're away) that you love her.
2007-04-19 11:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her, but you think it would be better to be with your dad right now. Try and visit often, she is probably looking for a little support and is feeling sad that you don't want to be with her. Good luck :)
2007-04-19 11:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by rachelak47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth, that you have been waiting for this and the time is here. The truth works! Your life isn't always about your mother, your life is for you! Beside you could always reasure her that you will still be her daughter and have times together. Good Luck!
2007-04-19 11:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by dlspeed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is being selfish. DO what is best for you. Move with your dad. She may be hurt but she will be ok. Just keep in touch with her.
I hope all works out
2007-04-19 11:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋