how does marriage kill love and why?

Question

all of my married friends told me that marriage killed their love and i can't understand why

does marriage have to be next level of love:? or smt like that

Answer 1

It doesn't kill love. Falling in-love wears off and then being in-love starts. The problem is that we often don't know the difference.

The first is almost involuntary and totally delusional; and the latter takes real thought and devotion. Yes ... marriage is the next level of love.

Answer 2

Who stated that marriage kills love? sounds like someone who has a fatalistic view of a lower than stellar previous. Marriage would not and may't kill a element, man or woman, or position. even if, human beings no longer invested in a wedding ceremony, can kill a wedding ceremony. in basic terms as those similar human beings can kill love. a tragic actuality is that love is a comfortable element contained in the incorrect palms. i favor good love, friendship, and recognize-how formerly marriage. those are what a wedding ceremony must be equipped upon. enable's see extra love, extra romance, and extra friends getting married. i imagine that this little voice, antagonistic to the sweetness marriage represents, must be silenced via the love of even one good loving marriage. So, I in basic terms received't placed any inventory in one of those remark in any respect. Yay Love! sturdy success and Goddess Bless.

Answer 3

It's not suppose to kill it but what happens is you get married not realizing marriage takes work. Kids come into the picture and they take away time with your spouse and then you're both working most of the time to support the family and this is very stressful, before you know it you are just working and struggling to pay bills and taking care of kids. In the mist of it all you forget or don't know a marriage needs to be nurtured. Before I got married I felt just like you did and even when people told me the deal on marriage I just didn't get it. But man after you take that step what a major dose of reality. My advice to anyone if you are having problems before marriage they will be worst after marriage and don't get married until you are at least 35 years of age. If I wasn't married I wouldn't get married. Its Hard Hard hard!!! Anyone that tells you its not is lieing.

Answer 4

Not if you are truly in love. Although love and trust are key in a realtionship, relationships are hard work and even if you love someone it doesn't mean you'll stay together. Too many people move to fast and marry after a few months of dating and they don't even know the person they marry. If more people would take it slow, get to know each other, and get an idea of how married life would be for them then more marriages might actually work out.

Answer 5

I don't think marriage kills love. When your married sometimes after awhile I think couples will start to take one another for granted, and that's not good. As long as your connecting with the things that brought you together in the first place everything should be ok. I does take constant attention and constant affection to make a relationship go the distance. Can't be lazy and not work on it, is I guess what i'm saying.

Answer 6

I think people take each other for granted in marriage, I think there is a lack of appreciation, I think too people take it out on the people who matter the most, they know they will be forgiven. Having said that what is love, it is such an inadequate word. There are different kinds of love and the love you feel when you marry is not the same kind of love you feel as tiem goes on. In all of life's hassle love should find its own way but I think it is unrealistic to expect it to reamin the same, nothing does, so why should love?

Answer 7

What kills all marriages is selfishness, prioritizing every thing else instead of each other.

Blame, Greed, impatience and Anger all come from selfishness.There is not one marriage that fell apart that honored their vows. Marriage is not about self.

Love is not about self.
John 3:16 For God so LOVED the world that He sacrificed His only begotten Son (self) for the sins of the world.

Most marriages break up because couples don't understand how to resolve issues constructively.
It turns into Me vs You, instead of what are We going to do. Not all of us are raised with Faith,Hope and Love. Every Human needs F.H.L.
God forbid a couple that becomes parents that don't understand Faith,Hope & Love.

Without faith & hope it's impossible to Love

Answer 8

Marriage doesn't kill love. Living kills love. Living as in the daily grind year after year doing the same things over and over. Getting out of a rut can revitalize a marriage.
Marriage is the most special relationship in the world. Giving yourself in a totally commited relationship to another person for as long as you live.

Marriage is a commitment, not for the faint of heart. I don't know what the "next level of love" means. You may love someone but that may not mean you'd marry them.
Marriage involves real sacrifice and putting another person ahead of what you want even when you may not agree w/ them.
It's really cool, trust me. Being accepted as is by another person is really cool.

Answer 9

What kind of freak friends to you have? Apparently, they are relationship losers. I KNOW I love my wife more now than when we got married 15 years ago. It was inevitable. When you love someone, being with them always, just increases your feelings. Sure, sure, marriage isn't heaven. Yes, it takes compromise, and effort. But, every friendship requires that. With marriage, you get to sleep with your best friend, and you can count on ONE person, to always be on your side, and support you. The longer we are together, the better we know each other, and our memories just keep getting richer and richer. We share private jokes that nobody else could possibly understand, and even have invented our own private codes and language. We are comfortable with each other, and often even know what the other is going to want or say, before they know themselves. Yup, we are married, comfortable, and happy. True, we don't have nearly as much excitement or drama in our lives, as those who wail and rant about the faults of their mate. By the way, all these married people you know, that had their love killed by marriage, why the heck are they married, if they don't love their spouse? I would divorce my wife if I didn't love her, and I'd want her to divorce me, if she didn't love me. Make up your own mind about marriage. But, humans have tried hundreds of ways to live together; and NOTHING has worked as well as marriage, based on several thousand years of experimentation.

Answer 10

Marriage doesnt kill love. People do by giving up too easily. They always look for an easy out. Instead of working on their problems, they choose to divorce. It is pathetic.