What should I do?

Question

I was pumping breastmilk when my mother in law sat next to me and pulled my shirt up over both my breasts.This was not welcome!She violated my privacy...when she saw I was uncomfy she says,"If you dont want me to look at your t*tties,you can say so." I had them covered!!....I no longer feel comfortable talking to her..she lives out of town..so we don't see her often,but I don't want to be around her anymore either.Hubby says if we comfront her she'll just throw a temper tantrum..but I think that's why she did this so boldly..because she knew we wouldn't say anything because of her anger problem.I feel violated..it's been almost a month and I'm still bothered by it..What should I do?

She's never done anything like that before.But in the last year she'd started makig comments about my breasts everytime she was around..or always veering the conversation towards my breasts. I blew it off before..but it did seem rather consistant this time.

My hubby even said something about her comments this time.I didn't think she'd do that though....

Answer 1

I probably would have slapped her, LOL.....no seriously, I would have.
Confront her. She has no right to come into your house and make you feel uncomfortable. If she throws a fit, throw her out. Problem solved. Good luck!

Answer 2

That well teach you to do that in a locked room. You must have known her personality and that there was a chance she might pull something like this. At the very least you should have pulled your top down the moment she did it so she would know how you felt. You have a lot of years with this women in your life and you might as well get over it and start sticking up for yourself when things happen instead of complaining to your hubby after the fact. You're a big girl defend yourself.

Answer 3

That was as much as violation as if a strange man had come up and yanked up your shirt. Shame on that woman for thinking she even remotely had the right to do something like that and I don't blame you for being upset. I don't even begin to know how you feel, but you do have my sympathy. What an awful thing to happen. I think if I were you I would seek counseling, because, no matter who did it, you were violated and your emotional well being is at risk. How dare she do something like that! It makes me angry just thinking about it. Please find a way to deal with what she did, because she won't care enough about your emotional well being to help you deal with it - that's for sure! Lots of luck, Hon!

Answer 4

Well...Your house, your rules.

If she thinks she can come over and push her weight around, she should know what her limits are.

Talk to your husband and act as a team. If she sees her son will back you up, she will get the message..(hopefully!)

Some parents have trouble accepting their grown up kids' decisions. Maybe she is unsure of her standing now that her son is married...I understand your feelings....but try not to let this kind of thing blow out of proportion....Life is too short!
Good luck!

Answer 5

Oh H**L NO! That is totally crossing the line... I have heard of mom-in-laws doing many things but that is just plain rude and crude.....You really should say something who cares if she gets mad you are upset right....so are you the only one who is allowed to be mad.....And futhermore your hubby should stand up for you and ack like the man he is suppose to be.......This will only get worse...If she got away with it this time whos to say that she wont do something worse next time and expect for you to keep your mouth shut about it.....SO TAKE UP FOR YOURSELF ALWAYS.................

Answer 6

Well, since u and hubby already noe her character. Try to avoid doing things right in front of her. As for you, dont depress urslf with all these things. Dont let all these affect ur life....... Always remember, each of us have the right to be happy n no one shud take tat away fm us...............