He says that now as he would be at uni he would do what he wants like going out to clubs etc ,come late at night. my freind is very worried ,what should she do?How can she be sure that all will be well?
2007-04-19 10:43:13 · 8 answers · asked by sm 3 in Travel ➔ United Kingdom ➔ London
well he'll be legally old enough, so theres nothing she can do. all uni campuses have a private club which are very safe and obviously close to where he lives! he'll be fine
2007-04-19 10:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by hana woo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ever not...?
Hes human and young... he aint going to be into bowling with the fossiles
To make good honey bee need pretty flower not old prune.
He needs to go to parties, to nightclubs etc and actually inc squat ie illegal parties
to grow up.
Into the music, getting snoggy with girls etc to develop social skills far more important then any degree.
No good having a cure for aids if everyone sees you as to nurdy to take seriously as anything other then to bully and with no girl ever liking him and no furture family etc.
All he needs to do is learn not to over do it. Not to party so hard he's too tired and hungover to do lessons.
To avoid bad clubs (many are full of very nice people who just want to dance, socialise and hopefully meet somone yummy to get snuggly with).
Not all are full of yobs.
Infact the alternative sceen like goths, metallers, emos, hippies, ravers , and aussie backpacker places with fancy dress nights and party games are very nice, sfae and friendsly and teach good morals like looking out for each other.
Your freidn has been smothering him and if you smother someone they sufforcate and die or end up killing themself as they life if just lonly and painful and they end up having to date 16 year olds when 28 or 38 as they never developed and matured so hcan only realte to someone that age.
Your freidn should have tught he to be streetwise, fight and no how to be grown up, responsible and balance everything out.
Luckily hes now free from parental control so hopefully can get a life and clearly needed to get away from home to grow up and get a life.
Whats the point in working when you have no life, no mates, no girl/boyfriends etc?
Thats when you friends kid would start thinking about things like self harm, cutting self suicide or say doing a school shooting.
persoanlly doing a little dancing in clubs and snogging somone nice in a corner is a lot better then topping yourself
2007-04-21 22:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by N-BS ANS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is old enough to leave home, be responsible for himself, go to University and get a degree. Perhaps he is also old enough to do what he want?
The more someone is told not to do something, the more they will want to do it. The best thing for your friend to do is to talk to her son. She should just make sure that he is safe when he goes out - i.e. dont split up from friends, dont take unlicenced minicabs, dont leave drinks unattended, dont carry large amounts of money. Also, if he knows that she is there for him, rather than telling him what not to do, then he will be more likely to go to her for help should anything happen, rather than trying to hide it from her.
Everyone needs to grow up at some point and stand on their own two feet - University is the perfect opportunity for this. He will be making new friends and learning more about himself.
2007-04-19 20:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by imicola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you cant be sure all will be well but people have to get on with their lives in their own way. When my grandson was going go to uni my son and I had to take out and teach how to buy a pint of beer
2007-04-19 10:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't be sure. You have to let them grow up some time. He will want to have fun, go out, be normal. It would be more worrying if he stayed in his room every night and never went out!
2007-04-19 11:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he is old enough to go away to university, he is old enough to look after himself. Your friend can't keep him wrapped up in cotton wool all his life!
2007-04-21 14:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the kids life he is an adult now let him fall into his mistakes and learn from it.
2007-04-19 10:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by Successor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please let him live is own life, and make his own mistakes. he is old enough and he will learn the hard way. let go now and he will come home.
2007-04-19 10:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lorraine/Keith M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋