Are there husbands, who doesn't "own" the wife...?

Question

This question is the addition of a previous asker, about why husbands's want's to own their wifes?

So I'm curious to know ...is any of husbands equal and listen the other part, which means his wife, and let her say her an opinion and do something without pressure?

Honest asnwers please :)

Answer 1

I think husbands and wives should be best friends!

Answer 2

My partner does not own me, nor want to. He knows that giving me space and freedom that I will always make the right decisions. He has learn in the past that if he tries to force me to be a certain way or do a certain thing, that is when I get in the car and f-ck off for a few days.
My partner often asks me for advice and will do what I have suggested, just as I do with him. He lets me control the finances, so that all the bills are paid, and never says no when I need something or the kids need something. He wants me to be the very best that I can be, whether that is being a stay at home mum like I am now, or training which I a also doing or working. We are and have always been, a team.

Answer 3

I am a wife and no i am not owned. We have a great respect for each other and compliment each other well. We only have three rules in our marriage.
1. Would we say it in front of the other?

2. Would we act that way if the other was here?

3. Would the other approve?
We also have those same three rules for all our 6 children. It works for us. We are close and yet not in each other pockets. If I want to go shopping I go. I spend what I want when I want. I work, In fact I have my own childcare center. My own check book and credit cards.
These things my husband does not have. He is retired and stays home now and does exactly what I used to do. It does help that we are both democrats, but come football season it is WAR!! Hes Miami, I'm Florida, Our oldest is Fla. State.
This year I WON!!!!!

Answer 4

First off you can never own someone slavery was abolished many years ago. Except for very poor countries possibly. But really to answer your question I think it would be a terrrible way to live life if you were never able to express your own opinions especially in marriage. If this is you yourwith a Controlling Jack a ss that needs some serious help. Husbands and wives work as a team they are to be considered your best friend and you help each other out and use both your talents to come up with opinions and solutions etc.

God Bless and I will pray that this is not you.

Answer 5

There are lots of husband out there like that. Keep in mind there are some marriages where the wife is the one who runs the show and the husband is not allowed to have an opinion. The only way a marriage can last and be happy is if both people have an equal opinion in everything.

Answer 6

I'm single. And, I happen to believe that men and women are different. We want different things in life, in love, and in a relationship. I have never, will never, own a person. I have possesed a woman before. Possesed her life in every way; just as she possessed me and mine.

OK, someone Paw-Pawed there. There is a difference there and it is not just a play on words. When she possessed me, I didn't give up any part or responsibility to her. I retained my everything. And she continued to possess me with my permission.

Permission is the key, here. I gave her a blanket permission slip while we were in love. When that love ended, for me before her, she knew the permission had been revolked..

So, I am the person that posed the original question. Why does the spouse think they OWN their spouse. People here are overwhelmingly not owned. And, it looks like, the ones who do feel that way, won't answer.

Answer 7

Its a two way street. Men get "owned" just as much as women do. As a matter of fact I think more men, than women are in a controlling relationship. Women (and Im not saying always) seem to have a greater sense of worth. They want to be treated a certain way and if they arent, they seem to speak up to change it. Men seem to be more accepting, and instead of speaking out, they seem to withdraw into themselves. Very rarely will a man come out and say they are in an abusive relationship, but I know of hundreds of males who would never admit to being in an abusive/controlling relationship with their wives. I think if the truth be known, there are thousands of husbands out there being dominated by their wives. So, the reasons why people, men and women included, want to own their spouse is because it makes them feel important. I guess if you allow yourself to be owned then the problem lies with you. If you want equality in a relationship then you have to insist upon it. The equality thing should become clear when you are dating and if there is any hint that your "intended" does not see equality the same way you do, then dont marry because people dont change. Its a myth. People think they can change their woman/man after they get married. If you havent got a lot in common then you should never have married in the first place. Maybe if people took more time to get to know their prospective mates, not just on a romantic level, but on an intellectual level as well, the divorce rate wouldnt be so high. Love seems to lack logic, and Im sure you would have to agree on that one....just read the questions on here.

If you dont want to be owned, then dont allow yourself to be.

Answer 8

my husband always wants my input,and if we are not in agreement then we discuss and comprimise. I am the type of woman who will be submissive too so he doesnt have to be that way. He values my opinion because he respects me. I get so mad when I hear people use the terms own and submit and unequal. And alot of people refer these terms to statements in the Bible. you cant read one sentance in the good book and think you understood it! It does say that a woman should submit to a man and that woman was created for man, but it alsosays that a man should love his wife as God loves his church. That means he should respect her and value her, it doesnt mean he owns her. Generally speaking a wife who is treated with respect by her huband: in turn aims to please her husband! It is a womans nature to take care and nourish you dont have to make her do anything just show some tlc and she will do more than you could ask for. I guess I am one of the lucky girls in the world because my husband cherishes me not controls me, and I respect him in the same way. He doesnt have to make me do anything I do it if it needs done. And he doesnt pressure me to do anything, he trusts I will make the right choice. Sometimes he advises me but never pressures me. God blessed our marraige and I am thankful for that

Answer 9

I am a husband of nearly 7 years, for both of us this is our second marriage. For me, my 1st wife was extremely controlling. It was almost like being a prisoner in my own home.

Because of this, I have always been determined not to be like her. I think most other guy's simply don't get woman. I'd like to believe that I do get them more so than most.

Our relationship is extremely unique, we met at work and later I started my own company in which we worked together for over five years.

I have always done all of the cooking, handled all of the finances and we generally share in the cleaning. I am kind of like a Mr. Mom but also run my own business from home at the same time.

We decided recently that it might be good for her to go out and make a career for herself so we don't keep all of our eggs in one basket. I have been extremely supportive of her and she has worked very hard to do the best she can to move up in the company in return for everything I do.

I am not controlling at all as she is free to do whatever she pleases and I am free to do whatever I please. If she wants to go out for a girls night out or spend a day doing her hobbies that is fine with me and she allows me the freedom to do the same without question.

I think what most people fail to learn as that when you are married it is essential that each person feels like they have there own space and own idendity separate from the core relationship. It is also essential that each person does things for the other person that they may not want to do for the sake of doing something that is important to the other person. And lastly, it is very important to listen to your wife without trying to solve all of her problems. The reverse is also true. We do this often when my wife comes home, we will usually open a bottle of wine while I let my wife unload from the day. I don't try to be superman and try to solve her problems, I simply listen attentively to let her know that I care, then we talk about my day and she listens to me.

Hope this helps.

Answer 10

Mu husband doesn't own me. We talk about every decision we make. I am the one who forgets to fill him in on a lot of stuff. Like when I invite people over. He helps me with the kids. Four of which are from a previous relationship. He even says it's ok for me to go out with the girls if I want. If you are in this type of relationship, it will get worse if you don't talk it out.

Answer 11

My ex husband thought he "owned" me - that is why he is my ex. I don't know why some men think that.

My current husband knows he doesn't own me, and very much values that I am a strong individual.

I believe that a woman should be able to support herself financially, and if she contributes financially to the relationship she has an equal say in how their lives are run. I am teaching my daughters this also.