how can I increase my sex drive??

Question

I am married and I have 2 kids they are 18 months apart and my husband always wants to have sex and I can never get into it. what can I do?

Answer 1

If you are not exercising, give it a try. I know two young children can take its toll on you, but chances are that by the end of the day you are drained and sex just does not top your list of priorities. Exercise will help get things back in check and you will just feel better about yourself too.

Answer 2

First of all, don't watch porno. It will give your husband false ideas about beauty and sexuality. Pornography is a great big lie and a huge money racket. It will also fill his head with images of other women and men don't get rid of those images easily.

Like you, I have 2 small children that are 13 months apart. I am very tired at the end of the day and quite frequently just want to fall asleep at night.

But I absolutely love my husband and think he's incredibly sexy so the problem is just me. I have to make myself plan ahead for sex so it doesn't become a last minute thing.

It's important for women to not only feel sexually attracted to a man but also emotionally attracted. That's why people joke about a man doing the laundry is so sexy. But what it means is that the better you treat your wife, the more attractive you become to her and she will want to be affectionate with you.

So..in regards to your husband....on those days when he is just really so sweet....start thinking about intimacy and how wonderful it would be to show him you care. Start getting yourself in the mood so you'll be ready at night instead of feeling jumped on.

That said.....there will be times when your husband will initiate sex and your not quite in the mood, but it is always good to go for it. You will feel good afterwards, I assure you.

Answer 3

Your husband sounds like a total self-centered clod. He's only thinking about himself and totally forgetting about you. Find someone who can take your two children for a weekend and make plans for a romantic weekend someplace of your choosing. Enjoy romantic dinners and time with your husband. Make him "date you" again and treat you the way he did prior to getting married. See if that doesn't help.

Answer 4

It may be difficult but try to get enough sleep and some daily exercise. If that doesn't work, talk to your doctor, they can give you hormones to help this situation. Bio-identical hormones are the ones you want, they come in the form of a small patch. They work wonders!

Answer 5

Gaze into his eyes, let him kiss your neck, talk sexy to him, kiss him back, have him push 1 or 2 fingers inside your warm core, have him put those fingers in your mouth, then do the 69 , the missionary, Then make a deal with him, have him go down on you, and promise you will give him the BJ of his life~tell him he will not be disappointed. Then f*ck each others brains out...Thats all I can think of and I hope you don't pay me back for the kindness by reporting me for foul talk. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Go to the gym. Number one - getting some exercise will boost your metabolism and hormones - you'll feel like it more.
Number two - the male pheromones in the air will also help increase your desire.

Answer 7

Ask him to back off for awhile until you can get yourself together. Tell him if he wants sex he has to help more around the house so you are not so tired.

Answer 8

Watch a porno movie - these days they have movies that are geared more to women. Or maybe try acting out a fantasy or two.

Your doctor may be able to prescribe something to help raise your libido, but it's only going to help short term.

Answer 9

Even though it may be difficult for you,(with two children) walking at least a mile a day may help.

Answer 10

Watch movies of Brad Pitt?