31 and divorcing.....?

Question

Hello,
Been married for seven years...no children...and am getting divorced. I fear I will be alone forever. Do you think 31 is to old to start over again. I work in an office with women years younger than me most married and have children...I feel like an old maid....how shall I feel? What do you all think...should I sunk into a major depression????

Answer 1

You are younger than you think. This is a great time to go to college and meet men. It is a time for you to be successful and go for a Doctorate. Go dancing etc.

Why fear about fear? ! work with a Divorced group of singles and most of them went on to another love after a year or two and they are happier then ever!

If you dig yourself into a hole you will only have to look up and know anything is better than being in a failed relationship. Learn from your and his mistakes and when all of the guys want you, choose the best one that is 300% better than the one you have now!

If you believe; Stay close to your God and ask Him to guide you in your life. He has a soul mate for you that will treat you like a Queen and be the best of friends.

You and him will be the center of the universe!

Answer 2

I got married when I was 22. It lasted only five months before she cheated on me. I got married a year and a half later and have been happily married for 9 years in August. You will not be alone forever. The last thing you want to do is to go into a deep depression. I hurt just like you will and are. It takes a little while to get over. Don't force yourself to going out and finding your next spouse. Your going to have alot of up and down moments, but just stay positive. Who cares about the other people in your office. So what if they are 20 years old with kids. In a few years they might be just like you. You never know what will happen.

Answer 3

I divorced at 30 after 8yrs. marriage (no kids). Though I feared I would be alone, it was better than the alternative.....living in misery with my ex.! Strangely enough, I was married within 6mos., and trying to get pregnant. I've now been remarried for 3 1/2 yrs. and have 2 beautiful children. Never thought it would happen that way, but it was the best decision I ever made. Divorce can be the beginning of lots of wonderful things to come.. be patient

Answer 4

Do not worry - I got divorced when I was 35 and I am now happily married again (10 years later).

You are in the PRIME of your life! Make sure you have a social network - friends, activities, interests, and hobbies. Wait a while before you begin dating again though (at least 9-12 months)- you have to let yourself heal and you have been someone's wife or girlfriend for quite some time. Learn how to be YOU.

Have fun & good luck!

Answer 5

31...your still a spring chicken!!no children? that just means more time for you....have you ever been abroad? save some money and go out and adventure....you say you work in an office with younger women, that just means they dont have the experience and know how that you so...use it to your advantage, though you may not like your co workers (?)
invite them out for a ladies night...join a group take a class at the college, get out there in the world dint view this as a divorce view it as a new beginning to a new you.. good luck

Answer 6

well Bunny, look at thius from a fututre point of view, there are several things that could happen to you, you could end up happy, in the clergy somehow, a gay spokesperson, or a simple woman whit a simple story but there's the rub, nobody women or men want to be simple or normal until they've had enough of being ina realtionship, relationships are like flowbeds in a way, they look good if they get water and sun and they arent crowded but they all die off at some point and you have to plants to replace the old ones. life is work, this aint like you're sliding down a trillion mile rollercoatser just sitting there having fun.....feeling old isa just part of life and you cant avoid that, depressioncan be treated but it will only set in if you let it or if you are simply too unable to fend for yourself.

Answer 7

man. that's nothing. i was married for 11 years with a 7 year old daughter and a 4 year old son. a beautiful house in a gated community, 5 bedroom/3 baths. a great life and the x decided to throw it all away for a guy that had a dead end life w/2 kids and a wife. i was down, really to the lowest point of my life a year ago.

i kept my faith in god. i strive to get my life together. i focused on me and getting it all back. i am back stronger and better. i found a new love in my life, buying a bigger and nicer home, a wife that had accepted me who i am and living a life w/the lord and my kids are doing just fine with the situation.

i've move on to a better life. it isn't the end. it is just a beginning for you. if one doesn't want you, there's always someone there for you. i'm 32 and starting out my new life. thank goodness that it was all revealed to me that nothing can bring a good man down. :-) good luck brother.

Answer 8

You are young. You can remarry and have kids. You wouldn't be alone. Don't worry about it. Once your divorce your is finalize you will feel better about yourself. Just hang in there. Like I said hang in there. Besides people now in days are waiting to have children in their late 30's. So you have plenty of time to meet someone and have babies. Just enjoy life as it is right now. Do not focus on other woman and their marriages remember you do not know the full story of their marriages you only hear what sounds fine and dandy.

Answer 9

Girl, the real happiness is not being married but loving your life and who you are.
So- get yourself some new funky clothes that you love wearing, get a new sexy hair cut, go out with your girlfriends, do some social activities you never did while with your husband (dancing classes, yoga, hiking, etc), enjoy your life as a single gal! And you will look so fresh, happy, self assured, that men will ask you out ALL THE TIME! Then you'll meet that special someone. Trust me, you still have some beautiful years ahead of you- just enjoy and love will come naturally.

Answer 10

At 31 you are still young. Be grateful that your unhappy marriage did not produce any children. Do not compare yourself with your co-workers. Some of them might already be single parents when they become the age that you are now. You still have a good 10 to 15 fertile years left. Go for it.