Men, is it true that a stressful job can kill your sex drive?

Question

My husband has his own construction business with one employee. He is doing fairly well - I am able to stay home with our baby, which is great. The problem is he hasn't been interested in sex, but I know he sometimes masterbates. He says he is still attracted to me, but that he doesn't think about sex. Does this sound right? Can stress cause an otherwise loving man to reject his wife sexually? If so, what do I do to bring "it" back? Thanks

Answer 1

Not neccasarly, just the stress.... its going to come down to how he handles that stress, really. Hmmm, if this hasn't aways been an issue its going to come down to getting him to talk about it. Its hard to believe that he would turn all sexual desire off, so maybe this is going to come down to over coming some situational problems.... but it can be a sign of some more troubling problems, at the worst possible infidelity and at best an inability to relate completely with you, which is darn common and easily remedy by some conversation... good luck, and talk to him about it with as much heart as you can muster, and do your best not to get upset or anger with his responses, and should be able to get some ground.

Answer 2

A stressful job and definitely not doubt your sex drive. Sex can burn up the guy's testosterone. He may find it difficult to leave the job at work. Since he is in his own construction business he will have a lot a worrying he has to bring home with him. He can't just leave it at work and expect someone else to do it he's the boss the owner.

You say you do know he sometimes masturbates.... that actually may be a normal reaction in this particular situation. He stressed and he certainly needs sexual release but he can't concentrate on an enough to initiate and go through all the steps with his wife. Masturbation is easy simple and fast. Unfortunately that's the cold reality.

He probably is still quite attracted to you I don't think that's his issue. I think he's in stressed city. It's not that he doesn't want to be romantic is just but being romantic takes time and energy. You may want to go about setting some time aside just for the two of you. At first make this a brief encounter... Maybe an hour or two only.... you both have to commit to the time and be comfortable with the. You might want to dress up in just a construction apron and ask them if he has a tool that might help you. You know make it interesting.

Don't try to go for a long weekend or something like that as others have may have suggested. If these truly busy in his own business than he might not have the time for this and this would stressing the even more. Concentrate on small time periods at first. If you can talk openly with them tell him next time he wants to masturbate.... just come and take you... he doesn't have to do anything but enjoy himself. He may be feeling that he has to put a lot of effort into lovemaking and this will change as thought pattern.

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Answer 3

Know exactly what you are going through. And I am sure you are feeling pretty bad at the moment, but don't - it has nothing to do with you. I tried everything, but in the end we decided on a weekend away (without any mobile phones!!!) that seeing a doctor was the best thing.

He is now on really mild antidepressants and they are working!! He isn't so stressed, which means he's in a better mood and his sex drive is back to normal! But if you decide to talk to him about it, be gentle, I am sure he is a bit embarrassed about it!

Answer 4

some adult males have a subject with the hot photograph of their spouse as a mom. they like the horny "lady" they married, yet making like to a "mom" might turn him off thoroughly. His intercourse rigidity lives on because of the fact he's self alluring. attempt letting the newborn spend a night at grandma's, placed on some horny underclothes, serve one in all his well known nutrients and notice in case you will no longer be able to reignite the flame.