My wife had a black man's baby?

Question

My wife of 6 years had a black mans baby about 4 months ago. The affair was with a man in our neigborhood and everyone knows about it now. I am so embarrassed, what should I do?

Answer 1

I would leave her (him in my case) as soon as I found out she (he) cheated on me. I also think your neighbor should take care if his child and your wife now.

You will always know that the person you love betrayed you by sleeping with someone else, and you will always look at that child as "a fruit of their love". One day you will turn insane.

Divorce the b*tch and find a lady who will cherish your love.

Move out and move on.

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My wife had a black man's baby?
My wife of 6 years had a black mans baby about 4 months ago. The affair was with a man in our neigborhood and everyone knows about it now. I am so embarrassed, what should I do?

Answer 4

I used to work with a woman who had an affair and then had a black man's baby.

She didn't say anything throughout her pregnancy because she wasn't sure whose baby it was. Obviously, she figured it out after he was born.

The couple actually worked things out and are still together....I believe the child is now 15 or 16. And on top of that....they are happy..

This is not something I would wish upon anyone, and I'm not saying that there is any excuse for an affair, but maybe find out WHY she had the affair and see if you can work past it. If you truly love her you'll listen to her.

HOWEVER, if this is something that you don't think you would be able to get over.....then leave. If you can't get past it and are going to continuously bring it up and blame her for it whenever anything happens....then you should definitely leave now.

There are many relationships that do last past an affair. It just takes work, and you better make damn sure that she is going to prove herself to you that she is sorry, and she sincerely wants to make her life work with you. You can't just expect yourself to trust her again....but you can work towards that.

You just have to go with your instincts. If you are more worried about what other people are going to think.....nothing is ever going to change. Even if you leave her, people will still know that your ex-wife had an affair...

Answer 5

Wuz up Upsethusband. I would be pi**ed off myself. Leave her. It's not yours anyway. But whats so wrong with a little mixed baby; if it was a white baby you wouldn't care huh? I guess the black man had more to give, because you know what they say man/woman if they can't get it at home they'll get it somewhere else. But I do feel for ya. All your neighbors know your wife is a *****. but that's ok you can still live your own life.
-Twister

Answer 6

Whether you decide to leave her or not, see a lawyer immediately!!!! Most states will require you to pay child support for any child your wife has whether it is genetically yours or not if you don't deny paternity in the first few years of his birth. So even if you do decide to stay and work things out with her, make sure that your pimp neighbor pays for the child support and not you. Otherwise, if she cheats again and you finally decide to divorce you'll be left paying support for the next 18 years.

And don't listen to these idiots implying that you are prejudiced because this upsets you. Being tricked into taking care of a child that isn't yours is about the closest thing that a man can come to being raped by a woman and I'm sure that the racial difference makes it even more public and humiliating.

So before deciding what you will do, think if you will be able to love and raise the baby as if it was your own if not it is best that you leave her just as most women who are raped give the child up for adoption. Good luck :)

Answer 7

I understand where u are coming from. If he were white no one would know. He could blend in . A black child has to stand out. I know it is embarrassing. If you love her and the child u shouldn't care what anyone thinks. She should be emmbarrassed. Just stay with your wife. No need in moving because of what others may see. All I think about you so far is ur a good man. What I think about your wife is different so don't worry about this.

Answer 8

I am so sorry. Things alway hurt more when someone attacks your heart. I think you should get some space between you, so you can heal. While you are healing you need to determine a few things. How does she feel, and more importantly is the man in your neighborhood wanting to be apart of the childs life? If she has cheated before, she will do it again. If she is/is not remorseful will determine if she will do it again. You have a lot of decisions to weigh, but you will get through it. This has happen to other men before, so try to find a website to find out what others have done. My heart does break for you, and remember the phrase "what doesn't kill you...."

Answer 9

If you can love her and forgive her for the wrong she has done, you are a better man than most. If you want to stay with her, you need to accept the baby as your own and adopt the baby and become the baby's dad. I know that is an embarrassing situation, but no one is perfect. I would go through marriage counseling before you call it quits, if you are thinking in that direction. GOOD LUCK, and Sorry!!

Answer 10

It was an affair and nothing more. One thing came out of it and that is a child. That child is an innocent, no matter it is and innocent. That child was brought into this world for a reason. The next step is to ask yourself, What do I really want? You would be just as embarrassed if it was your friend or co-worker. It is not your fault she strayed from the marriage, it was a conscious decision one her part. Now she has to look everyone, and remember what choice she made. Now you need to think of what choice you need to make. Keep her as your wife, accept this baby for the gift that it is. Or divorce. No one can answer this for you. The road will be hard, when you choose choose carefully. You might even want to go to marriage counseling first. Especially if there are other children involved. Remember, If you cannot forgive her, Who can?

Answer 11

I think I understand why you mentioned the man was black, If she would have had an affair with a white guy then maybe everybody in your neighborhood wouldn't have known she had the affair. Since the baby came out half black it's kind of obvious the baby isn't yours.