I was bullied and made fun of constantly throughout the years that I was in school, so does that mean that I should've gone around shooting everyone who I was harassed by?
2007-04-19 08:51:37 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in News & Events ➔ Current Events
No, it wasn't fashionable then
2007-04-19 08:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why did this question/answer session turn into a liberals vs. conservatives issue? We're all part of the human race no matter what "party" we side with and we need to quit fighting, especially when we're facing such a tragedy. More than 30 people have died at the hands of a deranged gunman here - who gives a sh*t about liberals/conservatives right now?
Anyway, I think bullying is a huge problem, but that's no excuse to be irrational. I think this man was mentally imbalanced long before the bullying even began. It's a piece of information being shared perhaps to help people draw their own conclusions about this man because we're never going to know exactly why he did it.
2007-04-19 09:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tiptop22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is the fact that we have to take because of the changes of this world. Where there is a factor, there is its consequence. A happening actually leads to another next. Apparently, the culprit of this shooting, Cho was traumatized or haunted by his past memory that many schoolmates pushed, teased, bullied and laughed at him with the word starting with letter 'F'. Somehow, we would ignore and forget to attend this sort of person. Consequently, tragedy took place that has struck us and so was the shooting in Virginia Tech. Sometimes, I feel that American should not be vulgar nor rude as what they did to Cho....If American have been mild, gentle and caring, this would not have happened. This shooting is not related to racism or racial prejudice so please don't take it as racial war. Chill out and do not overreact, stirring up the unnecessary racism or discrimination. There used to be the similar cases of shootings in America but done by Americans themselves in schools. Therefore, it's all about the lack of kindness of US, leading to all these tragedies. By the way, so far, guns and riffles are so accessible and approachable in US so that might be a reason. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO PAY DUES, JUST BEHAVE YOURSELVES
2007-04-19 09:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Justice comes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No silly, you were good not to go around shooting those who abused you.
Society attempts to understand these people because we don't want our kids shooting up our schools, and the pragmatic approach is to understand why they are doing this. If bullying has something to do with it, we study it.
Why some kids survive abuse and others don't is an even more differentiated level of study, and a fruitful one. Survivors like you have something to teach scientists, who can take what they learn to help inoculate the abused with better counseling, teaching and parenting.
I'm sorry you were made fun of constantly in school. That's such a waste. Society can do better than that I think.
2007-04-19 09:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Wave 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're right. Being bullied and bullying back is a part of life. It's a part of growing up and learning how to interact with other people.
Cho claims there were 100 billion ways this could have been avoided. That's a bold number, and we cannot take it seriously, since he has not even provided us with an example of one of these supposed ways.
Being picked on is not the problem. It's how the person decides to react. Some people, you push and they fall. Others, you push and they push back. Very few are pushed and then snap.
Cho made a conscious decision to be antisocial. People tried to talk to him, and what did he do? He ignored them. It's okay to be quiet and keep to youself if that is what you like to do. However, it seems as though he is trying to claim that it was his only option. How could this possibly be true?
The world does not owe anyone an easy ride. Life is difficult. We all have to make the best of it. We're all different in our strengths and weaknesses, and that's something that people like Cho should realize. While he excelled at math, others struggled. At the same time other people found making friends easy, while it was difficult for him. How does someone get better at math? Study and try harder. Seek help. How does someone get better at socializing and making friends? It's NOT by sitting around being mad at the world for being imperfect according to your standards and refusing to acknowledge people.
Cho was a coward, and only because he chose to be. He was too scared to speak in front of his peers and could only make himself feel less intimidated by them with a gun in his hand. I cannot think of anything more cowardly.
I knew plenty of kids in high school who were picked on. Many people thought these kids might show up to school one day and go on a killing spree. It could have happened. I mean it REALLY could have happened in some cases. But it didn't. These victims of hazing and such decided to instead GROW UP and get on with their lives. Cho could have done the same thing, but instead decided to blame everyone else for his problems... much like the kids in the plays that he wrote, as ironic as that may be.
2007-04-19 09:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter. Unfortunately, we have raised this new generation of kids under the impression that the world is fair and if they don't think so, they can throw a tantrum and people will bend over backwards to make it all better. Kids today are not punished or disciplined for any wrong doings. They are coddled and pampered and spoken to like adults. They are allowed to make decisions for themselves, but when they screw up, they aren't told that it happens, they are comforted by parents who don't want to "mentally damage or hinder their individula development". It's total crap! My parents spanked me when I lied, broke the rules, talked back, threw a tantrum...you name it. It's what their parents did to them, and so on, and what I do to my kids; Who I am constantly told are EXTREMELY well behaved and polite and NOT SPOILED!!! Kids are not allowed to stand-up for themselves against bullies in school and they are not taught how to be productive, rather than destructive, about their emotions, especially in a stage when there are so many. Everyone has been so terrified about "stunting a child's emotional state" that they have made an entire generation of cry-baby's who lash out for the wrong reasons and idolize the wrong people.
2007-04-19 09:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness you didn't. But wouldn't it have been better if you weren't bullied? Nobody deserves to be treated cruelly or ostracized just for being different or disabled. You were obviously able to cope with the bullying, and you are probably not mentally ill. The VT shooter was obviously mentally ill and was not equipped to deal with and tolerate the bullying, so he acted out. You never know how an individual will react to adverse treatment, so it's always better to help out when someone is being bullied.
2007-04-19 08:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by true blue 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that being bullied should give him a free pass or anything.
However, knowing that he was bullied helps us to understand the 'making of a serial killer'. It's just understanding another portion of the magic formula.
People with certain mental conditions are suspect to certain events that act as catalysts...whether this be bullying, watching the three stooges, smelling roses...whatever. They can't handle certain stimuli that the rest of us can handle.
What bugs me is that knowing that he was identified as a problematic individual and knowing that not enough was done to try to keep him from harming others. There are so many failure points to identify here...from his family, the school, law enforcement, the mental health clinics, etc.. All had a part in letting him get one step closer to realizing his sick vision.
2007-04-19 08:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by BAM 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What that person did was terribly evil and cannot be pinned solely on bullying. However, there should be a real concerted effort on the education system and PARENTS to teach acceptance of individuals who are different as they are often the targets of really horrible things. Often a blind eye is turned and this really needs to stop. I have a special needs child and he deals with ignorant bullying little ******* everyday. They are usually reflections of their parents from my own experiences.
2007-04-19 08:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by chikkenbone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank God for Christ. I was bullied, put down, and suffered at the hands of southern rednecks for all my youth. I am still turned out by the christian community. I don't like it but will not kill because of it. Some will crack and the message is that we need to have more tolerance and compassion towards others. Satan made points in the US this week.
2007-04-19 09:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by mohayrix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is now saying we shouldn't be listening to Cho because that is what he wanted, to be famous and to get his message out.
Listen, this kid did not have a political or religious message. He was not using a mob mentality. He was a loner. He was severely mentally ill and slipped through the cracks. We all need to know what he has left behind for us to hear and what schools and classmates know about his social history, religion, sexual thoughts etc.
2007-04-19 08:59:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋