He says that it is their house and that he can come in whenever he wants to. ps. He spanks me if I lock the door.
2007-04-19 08:11:30 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
so you have a daughter you want to send to boot camp and an 11 year old too and still live with your father and he spanks you? interesting...
2007-04-19 11:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by KAT. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol i went through that problem a few time in my life and the best thing that i can say is try talking to him and explain the different scenerios that can happen if he just walks in on you. For example like changing, just wanting to be alone, entertaining friends. See your probably between the age of 14-17 and you can tell him that yes you will always be his baby but your growing up and becoming more of a woman and that if he continues to keep coming into the room with out knocking there can be serious consequences for him (ie police involvement0 *which i doubt you or your family would want that*
2007-04-20 13:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by preaciousbutton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try explaining to him that you are not asking for permission to lock the door, but simply to have a moment's notice before he enters because you may be changing or writing in your journal or doing something private. If that doesn't work, ask if you can set up some sort of Private Time (maybe, like, an hour a day or something) where you can be in your room with the door closed without being bothered unless it's an emergency.
Hope it works out!
2007-04-19 15:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by lmef0312 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Put a note on the door please knock and if he doesn't listen to that then lock the door and if he threatens to spank you just don't open the door..Depending on your age if he spanks you, he can get in some trouble..Talk to your mother about this as well and let her know you need your privacy and dad won't listen.....
Do not let your dad take your privacy so what if it is their house, they chose to have a child to raise. It's not only their house it is your too afterall you are apart of the family...
2007-04-19 15:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom. You could be changing, writing in a journal, and not to sound weird but going through hormones and...experimenting what feels good with your body. (hey, it's only natural) You need privacy. It's not a matter of who owns the house. It's a matter of common respect. Respect for you, and the fact that you are growing up. You're too old to be spanked for something stupid like that. Tell him (or your mom) that it's embarrassing for you and him.
2007-04-19 16:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on your age, i think the older you get the more privacy you need in your room. Talk to your mom and tell your dad that you dont feel comfortable with him just walking in. If that doesnt help, try writing a sign on your door to plz knock first.
2007-04-19 15:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by babalu2 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him seriously and tell him that you are getting older and you need your privacy. And if he doesn't get it right when you know he is going to come in undress half way so when he does act all insulted that he didn't know after you asked him to but make sure he doesn't see anything that might be wierd but good luck oh and tell him you're too old to be getting spanked.
2007-04-20 15:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Enanis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i could help you with this one, but it is his house. If you are changing then that's one thing, like put a note on the door that says i am changing, but other than that if he feels the need to bust up in your room without knocking, he has every right to do so.
2007-04-19 20:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♪2 kids+1 wife=magical♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well don't lock the door but put a laundry basket or something to block the door to give you a warning that he is opening the door. I really think he should give you some respect and knock first. I mean you could be changing clothes for god sake.....good luck
2007-04-19 15:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that the best way to teach is to lead by example. If he wants your respect, he needs to give you some.
Like everyone else says, speak to your mother about it, then talk to him and explain that he may walk in on you changing.
If that still doesn't work... i know it sounds weird, but i would make sure he DOES walk in when you're changing ( don't be naked or anything, have short and a tank or bra or something.)
Then make a BIG deal about it... Kinda like a "I told you so" scenario... Then you can make him feel bad by telling him how embarrassed you are and upset and uncomfortable... Make a big deal. I think that would definitely do it.
2007-04-20 00:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can't. You must have some privacy.
Ok, locking doesn't work.
I have a really mean, low solution for you. It involves subtle manipulation of your dad. In this case, I believe it is justified.
At the dinnertable, start a conversation. What does your family think of fathers (we're not naming anyone) who walk in at their teenage daughters hoping to catch them undress?
What if a father walks in to his daughter undressed and he gets aroused. Is that a criminal offense?
Read up on it a bit. Make sure you can keep the conversation going for at least a few minutes. Don't let your parents change the subject into 'why you want to know this'. Of course you 'just want to know it'. You want to hear their opinion!
The conversation will stick in your dad's mind. It is not unlikely he will knock the next time.
If he does, one last thing: Thank him for respecting your privacy.
2007-04-19 15:56:44 · answer #11 · answered by mgerben 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋