It seems to me that my friend have moved in life and I am still at the same point waiting for her. I had have a hope still that she would come back once she finishes all her work and now when she did finished it. She has not been in contact like before I thoght she would be but to my disappointment she had not. Its hard to accept it. She knows it that I have been waiting for her to finish all her work and now when I know she is not having any special responisibilty still she is not there for me. Does it mean, she does not want to be there for me like before, I have also been there for her more than she had been there for me. If she have moved on with life, how do I move on?
I have many friends but she is the most precious one.
I dont know what to do.
2007-04-19 08:08:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think u should talk to her. I know its hard to talk but it will clear misunderstanding if there are any.
As u had told her to contact u only when she can or wish to so she is doing that only. It could be like she thought that u dont want to be in contact with her very much, so maybe she thought that she needs to give u a break. She thought that maybe she will lose u and with that fear she is giving u space, maybe so much space that ur feeling that she does not need u or care for u like before.
Talk to her and let her know that u miss her and u would like to get her back in life like before.
Just give a try!
2007-04-19 08:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by smile always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those situations where you hate the answer ... this is a wound that only time can heal. Sounds like she's moved on with her life. Does she contact you at all? Why would you want to be friends with someone who has no intrest in being friends with you? Maybe you should take some time to yourself and reflect, perhaps there was something that caused her to shy away from you? Or you could just ask her what is going on with her that would make her not want to be close friends anymore. The direct approach may be your only way of figuring out what is going on. Once you hear her reasoning ... maybe you two can fix things ... or maybe her reasoning will be childish or immature and you can realize that you don't need a friend who just ignores you when they feel like it. Friendship is a two way street ... just like you're there for her ... she should be there for you. Hope this helps ... Good Luck with your friend!
2007-04-19 08:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not live your life in lieu of someone else, you have to live each day like it is your last. So many changes come and when they do, they alter our lives and the more we wait, the longer w dwell or the longer we put a hold on our own lives waiting for others is precious time that cannot be retrieved.
You need to do whatever you want for yourself because you are the most important person in your life, and if it was meant to be, it will be, if not, you didn't waste a whole bunch of time on a dream
2007-04-19 08:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Frankee06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like your relationship is a little one sided at the moment, with you putting in all the effort.
Maybe you should give it a couple of weeks and see if she contacts you. If she doesn't then I would give her a call and ask what is going on. It could be she has other things going on that you are not aware of. If after a couple of weeks, and a phonecall you have still not heard from her/gotten any answers, then I would accept that your close friendship has ended.
2007-04-19 08:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by louloubelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think her actions (or lack of them) are telling you the answer you already know. It's time to move on but maybe a heart to heart chat with her without any begging or pleading on your part will help you to do this. Respect yourself, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you back? Take one day at a time and before long you will find that you don't miss her as much as you did before and then your heart and mind will be more open to receive the thoughts of someone new. Good luck.
2007-04-19 08:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well move on. Friendships change over time. She may eventually restart a close friendship and you can decide at that time whether you want to pursue this. For now, even though it will hurt, go ahead and move it. It won't hurt so much after a while
Friendship should NEVER hurt like you are hurting.
2007-04-19 08:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a best friend growing when i got in my teens and we went everywhere together. She was like a sister to me,but one day i got married and we just grew apart. I missed all the good times we had together,But sometimes in life you just got to go on.It's hard at first but as time goes by you will soon get used to it. And if you have other friends that will help. I know it is hard,but i wish you well.
2007-04-19 08:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends are meant to depart.if she's not the same anymore then dont wait for her.she's moving on towards her practical life and you should too.that happens and is quite normal.first you will feel a bit sad but yo'll get over it with time.
2007-04-19 08:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 07:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on sounds like she already has.So why stay misarable?it makes no since to sit there and pine for somone who said what she thought you wanted to hear. It is diffucult but for youre peace of mind move one and dont look back. Looking back only brings more pain. good luck..
2007-04-19 08:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋