Young girls, please read!?

Question

Ok this isint a question but I want to take a sec. to give my two cents. Ive been on yahoo answers for a really long time, i was even one of those 17yr old girls who wanted to know if it was the right time to have a baby and what everyone thought about teen pregnancy,ect. The answers I got were ones that i didnt want to hear, i thought how would any of these people know anything about my situation cause im so different.haha. well i did get pregnant, but it was unplanned, im 18 yrs old now and i know that i wouldnt give my baby up for the world, but i did realize that everything that "these" people had to say were exactly right. I should have waited, i should have let myself be a teenager, be 18, be 21..but now my life will be changed forever. My babys dad isint here to help me because he now denys my little girl, if you think it wont happen to you, think again. I had to realize that this isint a fairytale, this is life, please think about everything before a decision becomes ur future

Answer 1

Thanks for sharing that. I hope some of these confused little girls will read it and wake up. We only come down on them because we care.

Answer 2

Good for you! It takes a lot of courage to admit that you were wrong to think that everyone was out to get you when you were asking if you should have a baby at 17. I know how hard it is to eat your words in this matter as well. I was young when I got pregnant and thought I had the world by the tail, and couldn't listen to anyone trying to give me advice, because I thought they were all just trying to rain on my parade.

Girls-listen to this very wise woman. She has been in your shoes and knows exactly where you are coming from. While some people are just being crappy and hateful, there are some that are really trying to make you look at your decisions, not just how they affect you right now, but you and your potential baby in the future.

Good luck sweetie! From someone that know where you are at right now, being a young single mom, you will be fine. Just love yourself and your baby, and no matter how hard it is, you will look back on your life and be able to smile because you did it!

Answer 3

Thank you for taking the time to post this. Most of these young girls are either living in a fantasy world or they have the "it won't happen to me" mentality. It's sad how they will allow guys to use their bodies just so they feel loved or grown up. I was pregnant at 16 and had my daughter when I was 17. I only wish I would have had someone who cared enough to talk some sense into me and warn me. It's not a game, if you want to play like a grown-up you will have to face the grown-up consequences. It's sad all the young girls on here who are having sex and pregnant. Thanks again, Hopefully you helped someone today!!

Best Wishes to you! It is hard, just be the best mom you can be and protect yourself against future pregnancies until you are older and ready. You'll be glad you did!!

Answer 4

I'm 23 and pregnant with my 1st. I know that I'll be a good mom because I want what's best for my kiddo and I'll do whatever it takes, but honestly... I'm scared half to death. I don't know if I'm actually old enough to be having a baby. I was one of those teenage girls who thought that my life would be so much better if I had a baby, someone to love me. I thank God everyday for not having kids until now, so you go girl. Great advice I just hope someone listens before they have to look back and realize that you were right.

Answer 5

That is the best advice that an 18 year old can give another 18 year old going thru the same thing. I am sorry that you had to go thru this type of pain but, hang in there. All is not lost. Not to many your age has realized that yet. Pray and ask God to protect you and your bundle of joy. I will pray that everything works out for you. Be encouraged.

Answer 6

I'm 16 and I'm 19 weeks pregnant. While I owuldn't give up my baby for anyhing in the world and I am excited 99% of the time, sometimes I wish I had been more careful and everything. It's something I have to live with nd I don't want to tell my kid that he/she was an accident. I'll love it no matter what though. (I find out the gender tomorrow!!!)

Answer 7

what you have to say is true. i have many friends that have been there. I am 19 and happily married and if i get pregnant i get pregnant. we arent really pushing it but some months we are. my husband and i will both be 20 this year and all we talk about is our 21st and how much fun we are going to have but yet i think that i might be pregnant and i dont want him to be upset with me. even though it takes 2 to make one. I know that its hard. but i think that i will love my baby the best i can and give it the best i can. i have a best friend that got pregnant on the pill and she was a wild one her babys daddy and her dont even get along anymore and she left him to make him realise what he has before its gone. and of course it woke him up and now hes the best dad in the world after he realised what he had lost. so im glad you put this out there.

Answer 8

so true girl, i did the same thing but at age 16!!! then i got pregnant and D@mn did reality hit me!!! I'm now 24, I have a 7 year old son who I adore but it has been a long difficult road for us both. His father left and I was alone for many years, we haven't seen him since my son was 1 year old.


I am now pregnant with my 2nd baby at age 24, I have a career, a house, a car and a wonderful fiance.; Believe me ladies this experience has been alot more joyous and pleasant for me and all those around me. It's just alot easier when your older and settled. Please wait till your in your 20's to have these babies, it will be so much easier in the long run.

Answer 9

Reminds me of the time my uncle gave me the advice "The person you would marry at the age of 18 is not the person you would marry at the age of 25." Just like you I thought, he doesn't understand our love, blah blah blah. Well, I didn't marry that guy and once I was 25 I remembered what I'd been told and looking back its totally true. That guy was great and we're still friends 10 years later, but he was not what I ultimately wanted in a life partner--something I didn't know at the age of 18.

Answer 10

High 5

Answer 11

thanks for telling your story but i do not agree i was also 18 at the time i got pregnant! had a beautiful baby boy but the only diffrenece from you i had the support of my fiance my babies dad! and even though like in your situation if i have been left with only single parenting my child i would have thrived as well. I know it may be hard to be an only parent and not having your boyfriend to give you his love and support but you will pull thru . yeah you may be thinking is easy for you to say but right now who actually isn't a single parent there are so many moms out there who are independent and hard working moms who love there children. and they have all my respect as well as you for doing the right choice and owning up to having your baby even though it was not planned. mine also was not planned but i would not change anything for the world. I love my son and he is my world and i have never regret not even for a second to have waited. i think my son was a blessing in my life and just to think that i will be here more years with him to watch him grow,go to school,date, and eventually marry and become a father one day.i think things like motherhood and having a child is the best thing that could happen to a woman! regardless her age. i hope this will help you understand more of what your situation is and if you want to talk more with me then go ahead and email me at [e-mail]. congratualtions on your new baby!