is it a womans duty to submit to her man?

Question

should we keep quite and do as a man says should he ahve the say in what goes

i feel as if i should be more submissive and do as he says but at the same time it makes me mad when he makes the decsions

i love him and wanna keep him i respect him i know the bible says women should submit..does this mean the man is the authority

ive been told it is is the bible atleast but where at? isthere any online bible sources on this

he says im spoiled and i have it made cuz he :"helps " around the house(not as much as he act like he does)

Answer 1

Biblically yes, but a man is supposed to submit to his wife, also.

Answer 2

Only if we were still living in the old testatment times! Women's rights are here for a reason. Men don't have to be totally dominant. In todays world it should be a mutual thing. Compromise and discussion not demanding from either party. Most men appreciate and respect a womans independance and strength and if they don't they are totally living in the dark ages. It takes both to make it work, why should one person have to continuously submit to the other to stay together. Does it make you happy to be submissive? If it does, go for it. I'm a firm beleiver in equal rights all the way and although I want my man to be strong and stern, there's a huge difference in that and having to submit to demands. Growing up I watched my mom bow down to my father and at a young age I knew that I would never be that way. If you believe in your own opinions then you have the right to voice them. Don't get me wrong, I don't condemn anyone who is happy being submissive to a man, I just don't beleive in it myself. It just seems like a total lack of respect to the woman to expect those ways to be upheld. You decide what makes you happy and that's what should matter.
Hope that helps put it in a different prospective for you.

Answer 3

Yes because the Bible tells us to.Submitting to you husband does not mean you are his slave and must do everything he tell you to.The Bible tell us that man and woman are equal.Someone(the man) has to be the head of the home.But that doesn't mean that he makes all the rules or decisions.The husband and wife are suppose the talk things out.But if they can't agree the husband is the head of the family.Just as our president is the head of the country.There are many responsibilities with being the head of the family.He is responsible for the safety and general well being of the family.He is also the spiritual leader of the family.He is suppose to love his wife as Christ loves the church.In that since he is not suppose to be a slave barren.Some times it is really hard to understand unless you read the Bible and really think about what it is saying.When I was younger I didn't understand it either but with study and having others explain it to me it all makes perfect since to me now.

Ephesians 5:22 tells wives to submit to husband.
But you need to continue reading the remainder of chapter 5 to get the true meaning.

Answer 4

Yes, I am from the old school and I believe the wife should be submissive to a point. If the husband is doing something that you know is wrong and you can see that its will cause someone to be hurt then I think you should speak up but you don't have to be confrontational about it. There are ways to disagree with your spouse without yelling and screaming but I am submissive to my husband but when I think he is not making the best decision, I will confront him about it and in a very positive way let him know what my concerns are a let him know what I suggest and he always listens and sometimes my way is the better way but for the most part he runs the house but we both have a say so as far as finances because he know that I will shop every day if I could and he will have to tighten his wallet at times but all in all , we have a pretty good relationship.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with one being submissive to the other, as long as You don't mind being the sub. Just imagine how tough it would be if both were dominate, constant fighting.
If You cannot accept the role of the sub (which is fine) then You have to work out with him., because being the dominate means You take the lead.
In many relationships, it is the man who defers to the Woman. Both are fine.

Answer 6

Before I was looking at my answer and I know I keep changing it because I don't want to sound as harsh as I did before. Personally I don't like to think of what some old religious text really has to say about the matter. Personally I do as my husband has me to do because it is my pleasure not my duty. I don't have to; I mean I could put up a huge fight; I don't because it is not my nature to do so. I love serving my husband; making his stay at home after a hard days work as easy as possible. For this reason alone I literally go out of my way to do things for my him, such things as always having nice clothes on, the house being cleaned the meal on the table, never refuse him sex (most important) and at all times a very kind word and keep complaining down at the very bottom of the totem pole. The last thing a man needs to hear is complaining; it is so unbecoming of a woman.
I really like this question.

Answer 7

Submit - oh, read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger

Obey means to 'align with' and if men really 'cherished' women it would probably happen naturally.

On the other hand, typical abuser want to control a woman and will use the type of agruments your guy is using to control you. Good luck.

Answer 8

Maybe during the Victorian era. If you don't speak up and take a stand on something you aren't quite pleased with or disagree then you've set women's rights and her standing as an equal in a relationship back 100 years.

Nowadays any man who subscribes to your question should be be considered a Neaderthal and sent to the Museum of Natural History for stuffing.

Answer 9

Don't think of it as a duty and do it out of compulsion. Remember you're pleasing not only your husband but God as well. You seem like a very good wife. One that wants to do the right thing. The right thing is to respect your husband as the head of your family. That is God honoring. You would want somebody that has to ask you out of fear of getting yelled at would you. Look, I know it easy for me to say and everything. Woman have a much more difficult time in dealing w/ this issue. Think of it as training for him in making deceisions for later on in life when the stakes are even higher.
All that being said, a wife should never let herself be abused or anything that is certainly not part of the deal. And you should never go against God's word just b/c your husband said so. God is the head of the husband. Yuor husband should be seeking cousel from God by praying about it. Both of you should pray together.
It's in the Bible, that's true, people have already quoted that. What you need to understand is God likes a cheerful giver, not one out of compulsion. I hope you learn that it is good to submit. He needs to learn not to just call out the passage at you to get something as it also says "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church". He should be putting you needs ahead of his at all times. Keep that in mind as well.
I hope that you can trust in him and God in this issue. I know it's hard for a wife. Also read Proverbs 31, it has some wonderful examples of being a good wife. Best of wishes to you and your hubby.

Answer 10

first off the bible does say that but it also says a man is the head and decision maker but the woman is the concious and voice in the household. ultimately he may make the final decision but you should have some say in it as well a woman should submit but a man submits as well your body is his his body is yours as far as where in the bible that is I forgot but beleive it is before psalms or maybe part of psalms remember he may make the decisions but you have a voice in the matter as well maybe you should split the decisions like he decides on outside the house and you decide on things inside the house or something (I am assuming you are a housewife in this case) NEVER use sex as a weapon we as men resent that and will quickly get tired of it divorce you or find someone who will want us there are many bad sides to using sex as a weapon so here is a little insight to a mans thoughts
men don't necessarily cheat because they don't like their wife anymore they many times do it because of all the hoops they have to jump through to even get a good kiss or feel from their wife many a woman has been known to use sex as a weapon so much they won't let their husbands touch them unless they want something and if she doesn't want anything but he feels randy she just says oh well that is his problem and still won't let him touch her or touch him herself it happens more than you want to know
yes I can hear the women now saying such innane things as what should we just do it whenever he wants it or something like that NO that is not what I am saying but just as a woman likes to feel she is wanted (usually form other men) a man likes to feel he is desirable as well is it to much to ask our wife finds us sexy or wants us sometimes or do we just want them and she doesn't feel one way or another

Answer 11

You should definitely have a say in what goes on. Marriage isn't a dictatorship, it's a partnership. That doesn't mean you can't submit to him if that's your choice, but everything should be equal. Does he want you to submit? You two may need to get some counseling to work this out. I wish you the best.