Should I name my son after his father.?

Question

My so called boyfriend keeps saying he wnt a dna test. I know it is his child 100% but he really isn't that great of a dad to his other child but this is his first son.. Also the father doesn't have that great of a rep. I don't know if I should even give him his last name or my. I really want him to be a jr but I need some advice. So should I name him all three names witch makes him a jr, Name him just 1st and middle name and use my last name or a all together different name. I am due in 2 weeks. Please help?

Answer 1

If he's being a jerk then give the child your last name. If you guys work things out & he wants the baby to have his last name then you can always get it legally changed later. My sister is going through the same exact issue as you & that's what she decided.

Also, to be honest I wouldn't give the child the same first & middle name as the Dad....it causes waaaaaay too many problems down the road. I know 2 families where the father & son have the same name & it's a nightmare. In one instance, the son is completely irresponsible & undiscliplined to the point that he has caused his parents to need to file for bankruptcy. This is because, having the same name, he has his dad's credit card & is able to use it all the time (& does!) with no ID issues arising.

In the other instance, the son is constantly getting in trouble cause his father & family are f*ck-ups & there's a huge problem with their mail situation. The son has bad credit due to not getting & being able to pay his bills cause they end up going to the father's house & his father & stepmom would never tell him about them or give them to him....partially cause the stepmom is a complete b*tch. This is bad because he himself is married w/ a 10 month old son. They were gonna do the Jr. idea too but realized it was a bad idea due to what he's been through.....so they varied it. Him & his father are Robert D [last name secret] so he switched it & gave his baby son a D first name & Robert as the middle name. If anything, try that idea so that it's still the same concept.

Congrats on the baby by the way =o)

Answer 2

Based on my experience - GIVE THE CHILD AT LEAST YOUR LAST NAME!

If the father isn't going to be a major part of the child's life, and he's an @ss like you say he is, you will feel really awkward if the baby has his last name. That's how it is for me with my daughter. For me it wasn't even an issue, I always felt that a kid always got the father's last name, regardless, and to me it was weird when a kid had it's mother's last name. My bf and I were together before and after baby, so it was no question she would have his last name. However, now that I've learned how much of a jerk her father is, and that we have been split for over a year now, I wish I had considered giving her my last name in the beginning. It is really awkward, especially when you don't deal with the father often, for us to have different last names. She will now forever be associated with him (at least until 18 anyway), and I don't like it at all. I know a lot of moms and kids have different last names for different reasons, but you really don't know how it feels until it happens to you. My best suggestion is to at least use your last name. I would maybe go as far as using your bf's first name for the baby's middle name, so he is still 'connected' to his father in some way.

Answer 3

If the dad's name is one that you really like no matter where it came from then go ahead and use it. If you're just picking the name in hopes that the dad will feel more bonded with the child and be inspired to be a good dad (despite all evidence to the contrary) I'd skip it and pick something else. In either case, I personally would give the boy my (your) last name. To me a junior or any namesake is in honor of a great person, doesn't sound like your ex qualifies to me. Good luck in deciding.

Answer 4

no i don't like it in any respect. a sparkling toddler is a sparkling individual, not a duplicate of their Dad. PLus they (frequently) have the father's surname so i don't see why they pick the comparable first call besides. possibly as a 2d call it may well be ok i assume. IMO because of the fact the toddler gets the Dad's final call the mum could chosen the 1st call or use one from their relatives in the event that they pick! Worst feasible call is comparable as Dad!! the place i stay (italy) they only handed a regulation that that's against the regulation to call a baby after the father if the father continues to be alive.

Answer 5

Why would you want this baby to be a "junior" of someone whom you really don't seem to have too many positive things to say about? I am personally against the idea of "juniorizing" babies even if their father is a good role model, because I feel like it saps them of some of their individuality. Especially in your case, though, I would advise against it. As far as the last name goes, if the baby daddy doesn't even seem to want to take responsibility of this child, I think you're better off giving him your last name and being his sole guardian, meaning, don't even list this guy's name on the birth certificate if you can help it. He doesn't deserve you or your sweet little baby boy.

Answer 6

No,do not name the baby after his father,use your last name,and yes give him the DNA test,when your son gets 18 tell him cautiously.Remember men like this can't be good fathers.

Answer 7

The question you need to ask yourself is, do you want this man in your life? Regardless of what the dna test says (I would suggest you get one or else this guy won't ever leave you alone about it), is he really going to be around to help you raise your child or is he just going to bail on you and leave you hanging?

As for his last name, unless you're 100% certain he's going to stick around and help you out, I would give your child your last name. If you want to give your child his last name, then hypenate it with your last name in the front.

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 8

From what youre saying, this guy that got you pregnant doesnt even sound capable of being a father, so why give him that honor of having the baby named after him? It's really all your choice, but you have to also think of whats best for you. Maybe just use one of your bf's name.
Good luck :)

Answer 9

When our son was born my husband said he didn't want to name our son after him to be a jr. because he wanted him to have his own identity. so we gave our son my husband's middle name. My husband is Eric Andrew and my son is Trevor Andrew. For the last name, I would give him your last name. I know we are not in Mexico but in that country the children take the mother's last name because they are the ones who carry, nurture and suffer the pain at childbirth. Hope this helps.....

Answer 10

If you aren't married to the guy you should definitely give him your last name. Especially if this jerk is convinced it's not his. I wouldn't honor him that way. If he's backing out already, what is he going to do when your son is born. If you want him to be a jr, then name him Junior. But I would hate to set my son up to associate himself with a deadbeat.