I find that many men who try to bring up the issue of violence against men at the hands of women are often called p*ssies, wimps, cowards, etc. This is a rising issue apparently and deserves the kind of attention that violence against women rants are receiving. I keep hearing more and more stories about women killing and sexually abusing their boyfriends or husbands it's disturbing...just recently I heard about a GA woman who tried to set her boyfriends genitals on fire and we all know about the stories of women cutting off male-appendages. What do you think of this rising social dilemna?
2007-04-19
07:57:32
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Baba Yaga if you insist on spreading your hatred of men please do it on someone elses time...we all know the statistics of male on female violence...I was simply raising awarness of female to male violence b/c people like yourself show so little regard for the well-being of those to feel victim to. I'm sorry you see the world through such a dim-lit perspective.
2007-04-19
13:49:10 ·
update #1
Steve si you are absolutely right...lucky not all see the world the world the way she does...I suppose it's feminists like her that spur on the questions we see under this category, just hoping to get a rise from the infamous baba yaga.
2007-04-19
13:54:16 ·
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The "Hmm.. thank you for your story, I'm glad to see other females taking responsibility for the fact that the world is veering towards more violence.
2007-04-19
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It happens more frequently, but is not taken as seriously as male on female violence. Because women are not as likely to do permanent, life threatening damage as men.
And, men are expected to just take it. Which is why female on male violence is consided a joke, as you can weekly on sitcoms. So, there is a clear double standard.
The man-hating wing of the feminist movement dispels any such thing as total myth. (see answer #7 above).
2007-04-19 12:51:13
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answered by Anonymous
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For the most part it is ignored, unfortunately. It is also very under reported like rape is. It is hard to report anything that makes you seem like a victim, or helpless somehow, but it is on the rise I believe, but the reasons for it are different. Women who abuse are generally reciprocating a behavior learned from a past relationship. There usually has to be a lot of rage, to sexually abuse someone. (for both sexes not just women) and as women are abused more often, I would say that more of them are saying enough and unfortunately turning into abusers themselves. So until it get reported more, it will probably be thought of as a non issue, until they hit the wrong man and then get killed.
2007-04-23 08:13:50
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answered by Penny K 6
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I know awareness of female on male violence has risen over the years, but the issue remains much less discussed and dealt with compared to male on female violence. For me it's a matter of "two wrongs do not make a right". Abuse and violence against anyone no matter what gender category you or they fall under to me just is wrong and should not be acceptable. Just to clarify I mean violence other than self defense.
When I took women's studies in college (I estimate 18 years ago, I forget exactly what semester or year of college I took it in), the common answers about female on male violence included mentioning that males did tend to be stronger than females with few exceptions so females did not abuse males as much as males abuse females and also the male could do more physical damage to the female than the other way around. Still most in my class agreed that "two wrongs don't make a right".
2007-04-20 00:19:31
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answered by Thorn 2
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I have seen myself a lot of media showing violence towards men. I've seen it in T.V. comercials women slapping men in the back of the head such as the H. R. Block comercial when the wife slaps the husband in the back of the head just because he paid the bill and threw it in the trash. Another one is the comercial about a man eating a womans lunch and she all out assults him. There is even the sprint comercial when a woman hospitalizes two men for having her cell phone device. There are many movies that show a man being the villian or a simple bystander and a woman always ends up killing him in a graphic way such as smoking aces. There are many other movies that shows violence towards men. I am quite sure you can turn on the T.V. now and see a woman put some kind of hurt on a man.
2007-04-20 03:59:00
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answered by dovadave 1
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I saw a similar topic on here a while back and was glad this was finally being brought up. Our society tends foster certain stereotypes regarding how a "real guy" should be: tough, stoic, unemotional, impenetrable... etc and that's one of the main reasons there's this silence regarding violence towards men.
"if you're a guy and you suffered from domestic violence, or sexual abuse, especially from a woman, don't say a thing". That what our society say every day when we show images of guys being bullied or harrassed, even in a jokingly manner when they show any sign of "weakness". We use words "p*ssy", "pushover", or even "f#gg#t" when we see guys who show any sign of vulnerability. Even in bathrooms and health centers men don't get the same messages regarding violence when compared to women. Posters geared towards women often say "beware of sexual violence" or "protect yourself". Whereas posters geared towards men say "sexual violence is against the law" and other things regarding punishment. Our society just doesn't view violence towards men with the same seriouness as violence towards women unless it's gang related or drug related. We also tend to have different emotional responses when hearing about violence towards women vs hearing about violence towards men. When it's against women, the repsonse is almost always "how can he do that to her". Whereas when the violence is against a man, the response is often "what did he do to deserve this?". I think if someone knows that they're going to be blamed for violence inflicted on them, they're gonna be less likely to report
A recent publish study stated that domestic violence towards men and towards women occur at almost equal rates .Until let go of unrealistic gender stereotypes and expectations, until we as a society can realize that all kinds of violence can happen to all kinds of people, and until we can send an equal message to everyone that no matter who you are, you don't deserve to be harmed, someone is still gonna be left out and things will not change.
2007-04-23 13:12:23
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answered by cassalecs 3
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I think it's a type of violence that's less likely to be taken seriously and therefore should be pinpointed and addressed much like feminists have done with female on male violence.
Is it a "rising social dilemma"? I don't know about that. But I think that female on male violence, male on female violence, female on female violence, male on male violence are all equally deplorable, but the circumstances aren't quite the same (male victims might react somewhat differently than female victims, for instance). Each of these situations deserve their own kind of attention.
For instance, female victims of male violence/sexual abuse aren't going to have their femininity questioned, but male victims are going to have to deal with a blow to their manhood. Others might tell them that they were not really a victim and were actually "lucky". I mean, some people even believe that it's physically impossible for a man to be raped.
I wish feminists would do more about these kinds of issues rather than dismiss them as statistically insignificant.
2007-04-20 05:35:36
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answered by koreaguy12 6
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Society has not opened its eyes from the 1950s yet. A new era brings new problems. It doesn't make since why it should be okay for a woman to be "weak and need help" but when a guy needs help he is ostrasized.
Men who are abused should speak up about it like women do. I think it is in their nature to remain secretive, but really, society should not criminalize the victim because he is a male.
In many cases, a woman can rape a man, but people will often side with the woman out of prejudices on the "docile nature" of females.
In addition, guys should be allowed to be fashionable without being "gay" or "wimps." It saddens me that a man who acts out of the norm is verbally, and sometimes physically, abused.
Society needs a new revolution again to rid of double standards.
2007-04-19 10:17:43
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answered by Jasumi 2
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Thanks for asking this question.
A lot of the answerers have provided little glimpses of the truth, and sadly, some have denied it.
If you've ever taken a look at the Justice Departments statistics on violence, the numbers and percentages are shocking.
One answerer talked about male-on-male violence. He's right. Most victims of violence are male, and the perpetrators of that violence are most likely male. But that's looking at the totality of violent crime.
Things start to look quite different when you start to talk about DOMESTIC violence.
Female-on-male DV is nearly as common as male-on-female DV. Women are more likely to use weapons against men than men against women. Many states with "must arrest" laws automatically arrest the male even if he is showing clear signs of being the victim. The total number of domestic violence shelters for men in the United States is ONE.
2007-04-20 03:46:55
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answered by Egghead 4
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Yes it is. Probably because of the common notion that males are physically stronger than females. However this does not make it less wrong. Violence to anyone regardless of gender, age or ethnicity is wrong. I am a woman and i hope that awareness on this particular issue be widespread just like violence against women is.
2007-04-19 22:15:22
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answered by Ricz87 2
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Hello Jaquay!
Violence against ANYBODY is wrong. If the women are treating their men like this, how are they treating their children? It sets a terrible example, and the double-standard of "men should just be tougher" needs to go away, or they might wind up retaliating when they can't take it anymore, often with tragic consequences. Excellent question, btw!
2007-04-19 09:08:52
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answered by Paul Hxyz 7
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