am I doing the right thing? my bf is a spoiled brat..?

Question

I have been dating this guy for awhile now.. took me this log to realize that he is a spoiled brat.. never had to work a day in his life.. his family/parents pay for everything.. including the million dollar home he lives in/expensive car he drives.. even the gas.. and his cell phone.. I on the other hand am working on getting my medical degree.. and have a rather poor family.. i'm tired of the self centered remarks he makes.. all he does is goof off and go on vacations.. I care a lot about him.. he says that he cares about me.. I just don't know if i'm making the right choice.. he is an awesome guy/person.. someone I could see myself with for hte rest of my life.. he just has no ability to express himself.. I send him kind emails/texts all the time.. and when I ask how he feels he says he sucks at expressing himself.. doesn't have a "loving" family... I just don't know what to do.. I talk to him about it.. but he will never get nor understand my lifestyle,money doesn't bring happyness

I don't think I am jealous of him.. if he didn't have his parents he would have NOTHING, when he is asked what he does.. he has no degree/job.. all he is able to say is I work for my family.. he says he honors my drive to want more out of my life..

Answer 1

What's so great about him? Sounds like a jerk to me.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I can't really answer this because that kind of person is not someone I would even have gotten involved with in the first place. I'm a very simple, open minded, loving person. I don't rely on material possessions and I live very simply and frugally. I mean hell, I've even thought of living on a hippie commune, if THAT tells ya anything, and one of my ex g/f's was a true hippie that followed the Grateful Dead tours and helped organize her own commune and was a board member for the NORML organization. So a person like your b/f is just totally out of my realm and it would have been an instant turn off for me.

Answer 4

If you really care for him, you can try to make things work. It sounds like you've allready made up your mind about things, though. If you want him to express himself, and he won't, you have a choice, go on the way things are and accept the fact that you'll never really know how he feels, or move on. If he says he cares, but doesn't like to get all mushy, that's not a big deal. He sounds like he's inconsiderate too.
I would recommend you do what your heart tells you is the right thing for you. Deep down you know what that is. I don't and won't try to tell you what I think.

Answer 5

I'm the same way about folks that the silver spoon bit.. Take him to a shelter show him the other side of life. Get him to volunteer to help other folks in need, Or meals on wheels just spending with some can go a long way. Hope this helps

Answer 6

More power to him. Good for him. But I don't know what it is you see in him if this worries you so. People have a hard time appreciating the good things if they've never had to make do without them. You can't have good without bad, happy without sad. He may never get it. If you feel that has to change, maybe he's not the guy for you.

And Doris is a jerk.
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Answer 7

Sounds like he has low self-esteem. He's also unlikely to make any changes while his life is comfortable. Unless he's willing to find work and start paying for his expenses, then his mom and dad are running his life for him. Stay in a relationship with him and it's his mom and dad in there with you too.

It could be that he's suffering from depression as well. Help him to find his goals and purpose in life. Suggestion: Get him to volunteer for something he could believe in to help him to start building his self-esteem. In turn this will help him to find a career choice.

But be ready to leave him if he his unable to meet your needs.

Answer 8

So you despise him for being born into wealth. If you think that somebody from a lower financial bracket will be pre-disposed to "appreciate you" more, think again. Everyone is self-centered to some extent, and pretty much everyone secretly thinks that their life is somehow harder than other peoples'.

Answer 9

Here go doll. If you're not happy with him now you never will be. Count your losses and move on. There's a lot of people out there so don't settle for something you're not happy with. ~Good luck~

Answer 10

i'd say leave him now before you get more attached. imagine if you 2 start living together, trying to pay the bills while he's off wasting money. I don't think you'd be happy with that.

Answer 11

Ever hear of a "kept-boy"? It certainly sounds like you are one to him.

He'll keep you around as long as he needs you, then he'll drop you for someone else.