How do I deal with an alcoholic who is very manipulative?

Answer 1

Talk to him when he's sober and try to get him to get help.
Tell him him you care about him and it hurts to see him that way. I know people like that too and you just can't talk to them when they're drunk.
If you can't get him to change maybe you should just get away from him, things could get worse. Good luck, Take care .

Answer 2

Read carefully...whether your married, a friend, co-worker, or neighbor if you care about this individual you could try Al-Anon. Manipulation is one of their(Alcoholics) greatest traits! There are other traits too...denial, verbal abuse, mental abuse, and physical abuse. There also could be an underlying personality trait, that's been around since they were small. It all goes hand in hand.
It's great that you at least know of the manipulation that tells me your self-esteem is very intacted, and that your not weak! Care for yourself first and remove yourself from the harm. You deserve much better! Good Luck!

Answer 3

By now you know from experience you cannot win an arguement with and alcoholic and he is manipulative on top of that, its a no win situation. Don't subject yourself to this type of behavior, I dealt with someone like this for a year and I hate it because it was a year of my life I can never get back...my advice to you is to run-fast and never look back

Answer 4

This is hard, because obviously you love the person, and you want them in your life. The fact of truth is, you dont deal with it. You take yourself out of the situation. I know that it is easier said than done, but believe me, in time it will only get worse. I hope that you find the strength inside, to know that you are better than that, and nobody deserves to be manipulated or emotionally taken advantage of. Good luck dear.

Answer 5

My mother had the courage to divorce the alcoholic who was so handsome and so charismatic..........manipulative......drinking up the money she'd put aside to feed the family of many children. She had to. One thing about mama, though, she always said, "I didn't divorce him because I didn't LOVE him. I divorced him because I couldn't afford him."..............Affording someone can mean many different things to different people. It is not always about money. She couldn't afford the stress of not knowing what he was going to do, etc.. So, when he got SO drunk and rambled in one evening, WITH a lady he'd been with, Mama kicked him out. (he was very drunk and had no clue as to what he was doing, bringing a lady home with him.).
The important thing for you, is to see how his drinking does affect you and your life. It is important for you to have the courage to kick him out, or to get a lawyer and have him kicked out. If that's impossible, YOU go. If you are asking yourself where could you go, you need to realize that he must have assets that you share, and that a lawyer could help you get enough help to live a life without this fellow. Living with an alcoholic is life on a roller coaster that never stops. Save yourself. You cannot save someone from themselves. Save yourself.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, you cannot deal with them really. They are only out for themselves and the issues tend to be deeply embedded in their psyches’. Believe me the only way to deal with them is to leave. They have to hit rock bottom before they will ever change and even then most do not. Get away before this person tears you down where you can't get back up.

Answer 7

Become drinking buddies. If he's an alcoholic and you are also sloppy drunk you two will cancel each other out. Alcoholism will no longer become a problem. Only sober people have problems with alcoholics. If you can't beat em..join em.

Answer 8

when you use the term alcoholic it refers to the disease of addiction. all addictive behaviors manupulate. don't try to deal with it instead you need to get yourself out of the situation. when you deal with it you enable the person and the situation. perhaps intervention may help the person. AA is an excellent source to utilize for recovery. Best of luck One daay at a time.

Answer 9

LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!! if not, someone is gonna get hurt. ignore his manipulations, dissapear, hell, you can come to my house. been there done the alcoholic route with my ex. you can find a way out, you deserve better. everyone does.

Answer 10

Start watering down the bottles....!!!!!!
Or get out, you dont need that in your life, you are your own person and should be able to control yourself. I watered down the bottles and am still doing so to keep everything to a minimum. 4 years now and he doesnt notice.