Aren't you people HYPOCRITES?

Question

Repeated for the spelling monsters.
Let's see. You all believe that it is terrible to have an affair unbeknownst to the wife.

Aren't you the same people who are friends with people who leave or have left their spouses and kids for someone else? Aren't you the same people who say that you "can't judge" so you still have these adulterers over for dinner? Look around. How many of your friends started out as affairs on one of your other friends and you welcome them into your home?

OK. Begin the excuses, diffrentiation and personal attacks.

Answer 1

It is terrible. You wouldn't like it is your wife was banging the next door neighbor and he was putting it down better than you. People can dish it, but they can't take it!

Answer 2

I am an attorney, and I used to do a lot of family law.
What I found was that the person who has the affair is oftentimes not the monster that he or she might seem.
In some cases, the marriage had been dead for a long time, i.e., the couple had not had sex in a year, they rarely spoke, they put on the appearance of a marriage when around family and friends. The person who then had an affair was doing it mainly because he or she was lonely. And he or she was just bringing about the official end of what had already unofficially ended.
You really never know what is going on in another person's marriage.

Answer 3

Just because I don't believe it right to have an affair does not mean that everyone believes that. It isn't being a hypocrite to have friends that had an affair, it is if you tell them it isn't okay and then go out and do it. I think it is wrong and I will tell them friend or not if I think they are doing wrong, but that would only be my opinion, and they have a right to make the decision. How is that being a hypocrite.

Answer 4

It is terrible for anyone to have an affair, man or woman. I personally have no friends or family that started a relationship by cheating, but even if I did, they would still be my friends and family. Just because you do not agree with their actions does not mean that you cannot be their friend. I assume that you support everything every one of your friends, if you have any, has ever done because if you felt what they did was wrong you would not be their friend anymore. You must be a very lonely person.

Answer 5

So, you say you keep NO ONE close to you who has ever cheated on another person? You've never had a friend who left their spouse for a legitimate reason & THEN found someone new?
YOU sound like a religious zealot with an axe to grind, my friend. "Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone."
Evidently, you are without sin; a shining, Saintly white soul who's never done an ounce of wrong in his/her life, right?
Sure, I've have friends who have cheated on their significant others. People make mistakes. It's called the HUMAN CONDITION. God FORGIVE, but evidently, you are of a higher calling than God, seeing as you can judge EVERYONE who's ever been in such a situation without even knowing their story.
You are the worst kind of close-minded bigot. One who tries to turn people's short-commings around on them. This is,simply put, YOUR OPINION. People will continue to go on with their happy, adulterous lives well after they've ready your RANT; they will continue on doing whatever it is that they please, because they ahve this thing called FREE WILL. Sinners or no, adulterers or no, they go on & ONLY they are responsible for their own actions. If their friends decide to keep them, then that is THEIR buisness. YOUR issue, little person, is that YOU can't CONTROL what you HATE. So sorry.

Answer 6

Anybody in any situation will critize someone for doing something they believe is wrong. But when the situation hits home, they make good of it. Maybe I'm just naive, or haven't had to deal with this just yet, but let me ask you a question... have you ever been in the same position? Do you look at someone on tv who's left their family and children for the sake of another? What runs through your mind? But most importantly, who runs through your mind? It's a messed up world out there, but for every little thing that we critisize, we've been in that position or know somebody who has. This website provides guidance and an outlet for all your worries, but why waste five points to state the obvious?

Answer 7

I personally can't really be good Friends with someone who cheated because if I or my husband can accept that behavior then how can we say we will never do it, As far as family members go who have done it, I don't agree with their actions and I won't lie or support them in their actions but I will continue to love them.
No I am not supposed to judge but if my husbands best Friend is cheating then who's to say if my husband did it I could trust the Friend not to lie to me.

Answer 8

It sounds to me like you are angry over being hurt yourself. Life as they say happens. Adultry is wrong no matter what but life goes on just as it does when someone we love dies. We shouldn't judge the person for doing wrong things we can and must only judge the behavior and use their behavior as a helpful guideline to help ourselves from doing the same thing or to do better in our own lives or to help someone else who may be close to doing something wrong. In my life it has been my experience that anyone outside of my family who has committed adultry or has been the victom of it has moved away from our friendship. I think it is because they feel too guilty. Please get some counseling for you anger.

Answer 9

All people are hypocrites, some of us don't go around pointing fingers (unlike you). And just because someone cheats doesn't mean it was the right thing to do, but unless we walk in someone else's shoes and find out "why" the cheating was done, then it's not up to me, you or anyone else to place blame.

Answer 10

You asked for our opinions and you got it. You know that you're wrong and all you want is for someone to validate your behavior. You can do what you want to do just know that it WILL come back to bite you in the *ss later. I used to be a cheater and I ended up paying for it everytime. Now I know better and I do all I can everyday to become a better person.