Aren't you people HYPOCITES?

Question

Let's see. You all believe that it is terrible to have an affair unbeknownst to the wife.

Aren't you the same people who are friends with people who leave or have left their spouses and kids for someone else? Aren't you the same people who say that you "can't judge" so you still have these adulterers over for dinner? Look around. How many of your friends started out as affairs on one of your other friends and you welcome them into your home?

OK. Begin the excuses, diffrentiation and personal attacks.

Hypocrites. You know what I mean. Good thing I have a secretary.

Good for you sky. Rare, sadly.

Answer 1

What's a 'Hypocite'?

It sounds like a cross between a hippopotamus and a parasite. In that case -

No, I'm not.

Answer 2

Affairs are wrong no matter how you look at it - Everyone should be honest and trueful - they are wrong - I don't care! but if my friend brings over their lover I am not going to be rude and tell them I don't agree and that they have to leave, I suppose I'd be happy that they are happy b/c obviously they weren't before the affair started right!? But will I ever have an affair No! Have I had a friend bring their lover over while their husband or wife sat at home waiting for them to return - no! I would however tell my friend never to do it again, not to involve me and that it is wrong. Some people wouldn't care and would think that it is none of their business - which is true but if they are bringing the lover to my house then they are making it my business I may even go as far of telling the spouce after I told them my intentions! Thats just me though!

Answer 3

actually no, I am not a hypocrite, I do not believe it is ok to cheat on your spouse or for someone to have an affair with a married person, whether they are a friend of mine or not. I have a few friends who are in difficult marriages, they want out, but because of kids and or financial reasons they haven't left yet, I have told them that they should not start a relationship with someone else until they leave their spouses.

It is wrong you can try to turn it around on everyone else, but it doesn't make it okay.

Answer 4

Is it hypocritical for me to misspell a word or two now and then and yet think you're a boob for misspelling "hypocrite" and misusing as well as misspelling "differentiation"?

Probably. Dang it!

Hey not *everyone* here thinks affairs are wrong.

But if you are asking do I associate with known sinners, then yes.

If you have the unmitigated gall to sit there and tell us you are perfect and you do not let imperfect people into your life then I'll sit over here and tell you to your face that you are a liar and you are full of sh*t. And by the way that makes you a HYPOCRITE, the thing you despise most among others.

Your perfectionism is merely insecurity gone wild. Think about it.

Answer 5

Where the H*ll do you live? People "all arround" dont have successful relationships that begin with cheating... sorry, you are thinking that because that is what you subconcously want. I personally dont have friends like that, and even if I did, it would be something i CLEARLY disagree with, and it woud drasticly DAMAGE my image of them. Also you answered the question before when someone asked if the Man is has children... you are selfish. You mean to say that you are going to ruin the lives of not only him, his wife, his kids, and your self esteem? You would not be soo upset if the answers you have been given didn't have some ring of truth to it. He is not the only man in the world, find another one. One that would honor you and you alone.

Answer 6

How do you know that I have friends that have cheated? You cant make a base judgment like that. As for telling that woman what I did, she asked what I felt and I told her. Her point of view was that what the wife didn't know wouldn't hurt her, but it does. Any time that you lie or are lied too, it hurts the relationship between the people involved. And you can love someone, but not love or even like the things that they do.

Answer 7

You are very upset about this and you probably need to take this up with the person who hurt you, when you come to us with the question all we can do is simply answer it to the best of our abilities. To tell you the truth, I do not condone adultery in any way, shape or form. I had a friend that told me she was seeing a married man and I let her have it because I don't believe it it, now she heard what I had to say about it but I can't stop being her friend because we don't have the same beliefs but I will never go out with them on a date or hang out with them or even have them over to my house because I disagree with what they are doing so by me not having contact or associating myself with "him" that is my way of not condoning wha they are doing. I hope this helps but you really need to talk with someone about you anger on this issue

Answer 8

We can believe the affair is terrible and still love the person. We can hate the act but not the person.

Answer 9

I didn't respond to your original questions. However, if you choose to post questions like these, you should be prepared for answers that you don't want to hear. It seems that you just want someone to justify you having an affair with a married man.

Answer 10

Fortunately, not all of us are. My older brother left his wife, got another woman pregnant, then divorced his wife and married the hoochie. Out of five other siblings, I am the only one who will only have very rare contact with him - I cannot even stand to see him, who did that to my sister in law and nephew after 14 years of marriage. Other siblings treat him normally.
Over the years, when I was in my 20s I dropped two very close girlfriends, who I knew at separate times - were involved with having sex with married men.
We do not have any friends or relatives in our lives who are cheaters. That is just not acceptable in our sphere of belief and the way we live.
Hope that gives you a glimmer of faith....