Mi dad cheated on mi mom and broke up the family. Should I 4give him or not??

Answer 1

Try to. He is your father and he loves you no matter what happens between your mother and him. You are entitled to feel anger and hurt, talk to him about that. Sometimes just getting the feelings out helps alot. On a side note, if either parent talks badly about the other...speak up. Do not let them use you to bad mouth the other...that is poison that you do not need.

Answer 2

No matter what this guy did he remains your father.
Regardless of the story you got from your mother I'd bet you have not heard his side.
It is undeniable that children cannot understand what goes on in the relationship of the parents. You cannot know what is, or is not, going on behind the bedroom door.
Cheating is destructive as you have seen. Rarely is it one sided. There is very nearly always some blame to share for both people.
If you have forgiven your mother then you should forgive your father. Remember that his transgression was against your mother not you. That it affects your life and home is something that must be reconciled . That cannot be done if you are not spending time with him.

Answer 3

Yes, you eventually have to forgive him. When you hold a grudge against someone that's a negative emotion
that's dwelling in you. Forgiving a person really benefits you because it allows you to release bitter feelings and be able to move on. It's terrible what happened to your family. Don't force yourself to forgive, just pray about it and when the time is right, you will know in your heart. Believe me when I say that I'm sure your dad is really feeling the consequences of his actions.

Answer 4

I think you should forgive him. You probably don't really understand what went on in their relationship and I am not excusing him for what he did but the marriage was probably in trouble for a long time. He went about doing things wrong, I think he should have filed for a divorce and then moved on with his life but however he handled it, its now over. Now because he is not with your mom any more does not mean he does not love you anymore-give him a chance to prove to you that he still loves you and wants to be in your life. If he attitude doesn't change towards you then allow him to be in your life.

Answer 5

Yes you have to forgive him.
You have not to judge him.
And your mother has not to judge the way you react to this (very important).
Her cheating husband is and will always be your father.
And a divorce isn't Armagedon. It's sad, especially for the one who is let, and the kids, but there is a life after that.
Good luck

Answer 6

Forgiveness is never a bad choice.
Although it hurts, find it in your heart to forgive him. Maybe by talking to your dad and asking questions will make forgiving him a little easier.

Answer 7

It's your choice and your loss if you don't. You won't be hurting anyone but yourself if you don't forgive him and have a relationship. You will be the one feeling the loss the most as children have a need for their parents love. If you don't want to do it now, then nature will force you to do it later.

Answer 8

Yes you should. People fall out of love all the time. Your father helped bring in making you

Answer 9

yes. The answer is yes. Move forward with your life in a healthy way. Doing the right thing is not always the easiest thing...sometimes it is very hard.

Answer 10

some times you just fall out of love its not that he doesn't love you guys, hes just not in love with your mom. don't feel bad it happens to the best of us. its happened to me. so don't hold that inside.
the best thing for you to do is talk to your dad, and try to be there for your mom. she needs her family more then anything right now. let her know that your here for her and never let her feel like shes alone. it hurts i know but stay strange.
much love, best wishes to you and yours