Me and my boyfriend got into a huge fight yeasterday and we kinda work it out on the phone but we still have that fire that we had yesterday when we was fighting. He said he would come over so we could work it out but i am scared that when he comes over we just gonna fight. can anyone tell me what to do in order for us to not fight and work it out. Thank you
2007-04-19 05:47:35 · 19 answers · asked by mrs.foster8_11_09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
baby girl, first understand why he's upset. put yourself in his position. and he needs to understand where you're coming from. reconcile and find a middle ground.
2007-04-19 06:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want it to work out it will. Wether the problem actually gets resolved or not. Best thing to remember is try and keep your temper under control, even if he loses his. Don't yell and scream and cuss becuase that is not productive for anything other and burning anger energy. Plus you will end up saying things you don't really mean. Without knowing what the fight was about I will tell you that you might reach a point where you have to decide if you want to be right, or be happy. Sometimes you cannot be both. You cannot always make the other person concede to your way of thinking. Which is a good thing, relationships would be boring if we all had someone that thought and acted exactly the same as us.
2007-04-19 05:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid that things are still where they were yesterday I suggest you call him back and let him know that the both of you need cool down time and now is not a good time to confront one another. Give yourself time to weigh the pros and cons of the relationship and then decided if you want to continue. I am sure this not the first arguement that you've had with him. If you spend more time fighting and not enough time getting to know each other, the relationship is a bust anyway, give yourself time and when you come together it will get better or you will know its time to move on.
2007-04-19 05:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no fix it answer. What's going to happen is going to happen. Just let nature take it's course. And if you do start to argue, just leave, or tell him you thinks it's best he left, before someone says something you'll both regret later. Then give each other a reasonable cool down period, even to the point where you miss each other so bad, that when you do see each other again, you'll forget what the hell you were fighting about in the first place.
2007-04-19 05:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you actually sit down to talk, speak clearly and with out playing the "point the finger game" be clear on your feelings and calm voiced. relax before hand as well and make sure you both know where you both were wrong in the fighting. use some key words like "when this_____ happens i feel like_________" when discussing where wrongs were made. despite where and what you do if he really aint ready to talk things wont go far give things time to cool but dont brush issues under either solve them now, hurt feeling left un resolved can lead to grudges and make more issues down the road that can condemn any relationship to fail, be honest and not afraid to say that you want things a certain way like in the romance categorie for instance, dont expect him to know what you want and feel, men arent mind readers and seet hings differently than women do, the may feel the same but act different and its ok:) just keep in mind that these differnece are what make us unique and blessed good luck to your in you relation ship :)
2007-04-19 05:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by patricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it another day for you all to cool off. Don't talk if you think that you are going to fight. If you let time go by the fire will die down, then talk.
At times, I make notes on what I want to say. If you take notes then you can let the other person talk without interrupting them and still express your opinions.
2007-04-19 06:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first poster might have a good point, both of you should get in a good mood first, if not sex go out for ice cream and talk about things. Or even to a resturaunt. This way you arent in the same place you started the argument.
2007-04-19 05:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by chase.casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my bf get into fights over the phine sometimes, he comes over to work it out and it always work. in order for you not to get into a fight you must sit, stop talking, and listen with an open mind to the other person. If what they are saying is false deal with untill it is your turn to speak.
2007-04-19 05:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by kirbyluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont have him come over. i think that the both of you need time to chill out and having him over will just add fuel to the fire. give it a few days, talk on the phone, and after that then meet up. good luck!
2007-04-19 05:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by buzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when he's talking just hear him out and try to respond as calmly as you can, more less you try to be the calm and collected person, so seeing that your not as mad may he wont be as mad either. Maybe you should hug and kiss him when he get there and things will turn out for the better. Send him a text say'n that you love him so when he gets there he wont be so mad.
2007-04-19 06:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you want to talk about it and work it out, but if he is going to start getting loud and fighting your not going put up with that, and it doesnt get you guys anywhere and youll talk to him about it when neither of you guys feel you would start fighting
2007-04-19 05:54:33 · answer #11 · answered by lalala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋