He comes in bed with the computer on his lap. He wakes up and first thing he does is check the computer. It is taking up so much of his free time. I have talked with him about how it bothers me but he won't stop. Am I wrong to ask him to give up a hobby he loves?
2007-04-19 05:39:07 · 19 answers · asked by Rockinrobin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not pull him away from it, he will shun you for it for the rest of his life if you do. Sit him down and just ask to comprimise, Say this to him "I will let you have your fantasy sports whenever you want but you cant bring it in to our room, period" That way he can enjoy it but at the same time, when it comes to personal time, you still get to enjoy each other.Good Luck
2007-04-19 05:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by chase.casey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hobbies are extremely important for a couple, but I realize that sometimes hobbies turn into obsessions. If this is the case talk to him, and come up with a compromise. He obviously enjoys it a lot, so ask yourself what is it that you don't like it? Are you jealous? Can't see what he sees in it? He's become a different person?
If he is a supporting husband and supports you for your hobbies then I think you should give him the same respect, however if he doesn't then you shouldn't have to either. Come up with a solution possibly by asking him if he could avoid bringing the computer with him into bed. Honestly though regardless, it's your choice to confront him if you do I can assure you he will have a little resentment towards you. Does he have friends in the league? It's often a male bonding thing. It may work for some couples to share this time, watch ball games, play fantasy sports, however my girlfriend is not into it, and I love that she gives me my time and space after all I'm not into the tv shows she watches in the living room either Grey's Anatomy, Desperate Housewives, etc. You don't have to do everything together and that time apart can actually help, you don't have to compromise anything, you and your significant other can have their cake and eat it to!
2007-04-19 05:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't beat him, join him. Take interest in what he likes. I'm sure that you knew this when you met him but you like most women think you can change him and make him want to be with you more than the sports but it doesn't work that way. Many of my co-workers have had to learn all about football to spend time with their husbands and they even grew to like it. My husband loves all sports and if he is home with me and not out cheating then I let him have it. It can be frustrating at times but you should show a little interest in what he is doing and you maybe surprised about how you can enjoy it just as much as he can. Some men go overboard with it and there is just no competeing for his attention when it comes to sports. Sundays are big sports days for my husband so I'll ask him to take me to breakfast or lunch and we hang out or do something before the game comes on or after it goes off, just because he doesn't give you the attention at the time you want it doesn't mean he doesn't love you and want to be with you, just work around it and then try to enjoy it as well, just try it and its not as bad as you think.
2007-04-19 05:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I enjoy sports together. Our first date was watching an NFL playoff game at the bar her mother owns. Since the Tigers started kicking butt last year we've been watching a lot of baseball together too. We also fish together. She got into fantasy football last year, and other leagues this year. I'm learning fantasy baseball now and kicking her butt in 2 leagues.
I think taking the computer to bed with him is a little obsessive. He shouldn't be doing that. But try to take an interest in what he's doing. You might enjoy it and find it brings you closer together.
2007-04-19 06:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by bugs280 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make him give it up, but make him exercise a little more self control. Tell him you don't want to be around it, no laptop in bed, he doesn't need to check the scores every half hour because once you set your lineup nothings going to change, he can check the box scores in the morning like most sports fans. Tell him you only want him to have say one team per sport.
It doesn't have to be all or nothing, but you need him to not be so excessive about it because it's starting to get in the way of his other responsibilities, namely being your husband/friend/life companion.
2007-04-19 05:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by fanodabuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful it's not fantasy something-else-on-the-computer he has interest in! Have you tried (forcing possibly) yourself to take an interest in this as well? Get him to explain what he does online and who knows, maybe it can be something you can do together in the future. It worked with my wife. I am big into basketball and my wife always left the room when games were on. I asked her to stay to watch a game once and I explained the rules, and conduct and now she loves the sport as much as I do. In fact "her" Pistons did much better than my Celtics this year and she rubs it in constantly!
2007-04-19 05:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sussex Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Fantasy sports is for bragging rights. I'm currently in 8 or 9 leagues. But as long as you keep a balance you're ok.
This past basketball regular season, I finished in 2nd and 3rd place and I fnished the march madness in 1st place. Bragging Rights. Be glad he's not out planning to do bad stuff.
2007-04-19 05:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by howardlee1977 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a sports team too. I am addicted with what started as just a football team last year. Now I have a team in every sport and 3 baseball teams. This year my husband decided to try it and we do it together. It is a harmless pasttime when there ain't shi* on TV.
2007-04-19 06:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by kristal3962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a mistake to ask him to give up sports watching, but you can start by asking him to make some space for you. Remind him that you can also be fun and even exciting at times, and you are a real person who wants and needs his attention on a regular basis.
2007-04-19 05:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with him doing that? It's just a hobby. I'm also addicted to fantasy sports. It's a fun diversion and helps to better understand sports. I say let him along and let him have his fun.
2007-04-19 05:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋