How can it hurt if HIS WIFE WILL NEVER KNOW?

Question

What harm can it do?
An old boyfriend and I want to meet up once a month for you know what. I don't want him. He is married and lives 1200 miles away. He goes on with his life and I go on with mine.
Don't have any diseases. Not seeng anyone else.

If I didn't know, there is nothing to feel, right?

How can she be hurt if she doesn't know? I live in PA. She lives in Montana

All men cheat. I was a nice, beautiful, availasble, martha stewart, good wife for ten years and what did it get me? Being cheated on.

I'm using him. Don't want to remarry.

Answer 1

do you not have a conscience?

Answer 2

Sure. It's perfectly OK. After all, you were cheated on when you were married. You were hurt. So, why not become a cheater too? Heck, I'd bet that you've been overcharged for something you bought- so it's OK for you to rob banks. And, I'll bet somebody has cut you off in traffic, so you have a free pass to ram other cars, or even run down jaywalkers. You've probably had an inconsiderate neighbor blast music late at night, so you can blast music as loud and as late as you want. Lady, only one thing will stop you from sleeping with married men. Morals and pride. If you don't have morals or pride, be as scummy as you please. There are plenty of scummy guys you can betray some other woman with, and you won't even have to travel far. Scummy cheaters are a dime a dozen. It's not an exclusive group, anybody can join.

Answer 3

thats why he chosed you because you would say how can it hurt,(dah) if his wife will never know.... what harm can it do

those ideas are his not yours but you are repeating them like a perit......... what about if you are the wife and this is done bahind you how would you feel about ur self or your cheating son of....
its clear that he doesnt respect you nor his wife and him self , he is looking for pleasure only not love ,he got a nice caring pritty lady at home dreaming of a nice happy family and good times ..but thats what she got from this ....l and you are helping him..if you did that you will be like him
my advice to you sister is to wake up and find you distney dont follow someone far far away and not available ..also left you behind his back long time ago and did not bother to call you look arround wait for love it will come in a better and mutch cleaner way take it or leave it its the truth

Answer 4

This can do alot of harm and how can you live with yourself and your conscience knowing you have done this to him and to his marriage and that you are the other woman???? My conscience would bother me really bad if this were me and i really would hate being the OTHER woman. What happens if he is sleeping with other women then just you? What happens if he is not so clean as you think he is and you get an STD or you end up pregnant for that matter then what???? You obviously want him if you are wanting to have sex with him and you are both using each other if you ask me and this is not a good thing at all and I sure hope his wife DOES find out about you and what he is doing to her and his marriage. There is alot of harm in this if you ask me.

Answer 5

You know it is wrong. This happened to you, now you are doing it to someone else.

Trying to rationalize adultery never makes it right.

By the way, not all men cheat, so don't demean my gender to try to make yourself feel good about cheating with this man.

Do the right thing and find a good man and therapy.

Good luck.

Answer 6

How would you like it if your husband did that to you behind your back? Would you want to know? You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you just want sex then it's better if you find someone else to do it with. Cheating is wrong whether you're the cheater or the person being cheated with. His wife may never know but karma is a b*tch. One day it may be you who's in the dark.

Answer 7

You homewreckers really make me sick. Put yourself in his wife shoes, if you found the man of your dreams and married him but there is a trick from his past that is offering to do a dirty deed with him and he takes her up on it, how would that make you feel? better yet what if it was your daughters husband would you tell him to continue on as long as she didn't find out about it. Get your own man and then you wouldn't have to sneak 1200 miles just to get laid.

Answer 8

"How can she be hurt if she doesn't know? I live in PA. She lives in Montana" And how will you ever know she doesn't know? Just because HE says she doesn't doesn't make it true...99.9% of the wives DO know, but they try to block it out because they would rather not think of the alternatives. Do you have a 100% guarantee that his wife doesn't know? Will you ever have a 100% guarantee that his wife doesn't know? Do you enjoy being used like a whore?

Answer 9

So let me get this straight...you have been cheated on and after experiencing first hand the hurt and humiliation you would inflict that on someone esle?!? Wow...if only I could be like you...I think I'd shoot myself...

You need to get a life and leave that man alone. He is someone's husband now. He is married and whether or not that means anything to you it does mean something to his wife...Leave him be.

PS I have been cheated on too and I would never...I repeat NEVER inflict that kind of pain on another person...Shame on you.

Answer 10

Dont be such a whor_! How did it feel when you were cheated on? Women need to stick together and stop trying to get with other women's husbands. Go for a single guy since all you want is sex, I am sure you will find someone willing.

Answer 11

When your husband cheated on you did it hurt you? I bet it did. Why on Earth would you want to make another woman feel as hurt as you did? Also it is just plain wrong. You would be no better than the man that cheated on you! And by the way not all men cheat, my husband loves me and has never cheated. In fact, this is his second marriage, the first on broke up because SHE cheated on HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!