I married 2 months ago, but still cry each day for my ex-boyfriend. This has made my life horrible, I feel so terrible. I dated my ex for 4 years and I waited for him to marry me (one time we were going to do it, but then he wanted more time and said he wasnt ready) but he never did it. I suffered alot when he changed his mind, but we got back together and things were good. Well, it became longdistance the past year and I met another guy and after 4 months of dating, he asked me to marry him, I really didnt know what to do, but decided to accept as I was happy and thought my ex would never do it. My ex tried to convince me and even came to my country 2 times to try to get me to change and marry him, but it was too late. Now after 2 months I am married, but I always cry for my ex bcs. I know he is sad and so hurt . It has made me hurt and I feel horrible each day. Why do I feel like this? Do I still love him? I should be happy right?? Should I be crying so much? Why?
2007-04-19 04:48:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are still in love with your ex-boyfriend.
2007-04-19 04:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have made an adult choice and decision now act like one and let the ex bf go and build a life and great relationship with the man you took vows with not so long ago.
Past relationships always look better when we look at them because the bad fades and the good stuff remains. Remember this man that you are still pining for wouldn't commit to you!! He wanted to have his cake and eat it too.
Who says that if you were to go back to your ex he wouldn't have the same song and dance about not wanting to commit once you were free to do so.
Step up to the plate and make the marriage you chose work or have the decency to let this man that loved you enough to actually commit and marry you go and find a woman that is grown up and ready for a mature relationship.
2007-04-19 11:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let feelings dominate your life sweetheart. Your holding a torch for an ole boyfriend soooo, if that hadn't ran its course , you wouldn't have married the new Joe. So if you are getting too strung out now--- then get thee to a counselor. Your problem is not some old guy, its a girl living in a fantasy world of make believe--- life is real honey and you in your good sense moved on. Marriage is a let down for young women cause its just a little too real and not so romantic anymore!
2007-04-19 12:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that your ex is not as hurt as you think he is. He had plenty of time to marry you. He continued to drag his feet for 4 years, which suggests that he really did not want to get married. If you've found a man who makes you happy, don't cry over one who didn't. The only thing your ex has done is make you feel guilty, when you have nothing to feel guilty about. You have a new husband who obviously loves you. Don't betray his trust by crying over sombody else. Best wishes!
2007-04-19 12:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got married to your husband as a way to take away the pain of feeling rejected by your exboyfriend. I can imagine how hurt you felt when he changed his mind about marrying you. I feel you decided to get married to your husband for all the wrong reasons and this not being fair to him. You have to know that it is not right to play with a person's emotions that way. Now you are left with feelings for your ex that you never really got over to begin with. If you are not truly in love with your husband, regardless of any feelings for your ex, then you owe it to him to tell him. PLease think this through carefully. You found a man who was willing and loved you enough to take vows with you, your ex had to think it over and still decided not to. You have too much to lose if you decide to put your faith and hope of your ex marrying you. Do not base your decision on what to do solely on the hope that your ex will marry you, you must base it on what you feel for your husband. As this is what needs to be looked at and made right. Best of luck to you!
2007-04-19 13:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you got married on the rebound. You are still in love with the ex boyfriend and only married your husband because he wanted you when your ex didn't.
I have to say, I feel sorry for your husband. I sure hope he doesn't know you cry over another man every day.
If you believe in divorce, you need to get one now before you have kids and make this even more complicated.
You don't love this poor man and you are going to end up making his life miserable.
2007-04-19 11:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your husband? If not then get out of the marriage while it is still early. Explain you didnt think it through enough and feel you have made a mistake. Its never too late, but dont drag him along if you know you dont love him.
2007-04-19 11:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Christine R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh I understand how you feel. What one doesnt know is the future and the person you want to be with and who you marry may not be the same person. You know in your heart and mind that you married for the wrong reasons. Either accept it and continue to feel poorly or get out and let your current guy find someone who will give their full heart. peace
2007-04-19 12:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously still love your ex. Now the question is do you love your husband more then your ex? If not then it wouldn't be fair to keep him in this marriage if it's just a sham.
2007-04-19 11:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth hurts.Past hurts too,But does your present marriage hurt you in any ways.Think him as your husband whom went thru marriage vows with you to gain you!Sometimes it is better to forget and move on!Time is very precious once it goes it never comes back.
2007-04-19 11:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still in love with your ex.
Why did you tell your now-husband that you'd marry him? That's not fair to him and you need to talk to him so he can decide if he wants to be with somoene who is in love with someone else, or if he wants to be with someone who will actually love him this time.
What you did was cruel to everyone involved.
2007-04-19 11:56:54 · answer #11 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋