i am in love with a girl. i am with a guy...?

Question

i love him....dearly.i couldnt imagine being without him.


but my past relationship with my ex girlfriend hasnt passed on me yet....i broke up with her after a year an a half of dating hoping that it would help with my current relationship,and because i thought she loved a man instead of me.

but i still love her..she doesnt love me i dont tihnk...she was with a man while with me, and we fought about it a lot..
i dream about her, i tihnk about her, everything.

my boyfriend, unsually, didnt tihnk to fondly of my sexual orentation.(you know, the typical guy would get verryyyy happy knowing his chick likes girls)
i was upset with this, because of him not eccepting who i am.

what do i do?

i didnt cheat on him. he knew i was with a girl, before we dated.

Answer 1

It sounds like you just need to vent more than you need advice...

but I would say this...we can love someone without needing to be in a romantic relationship with that person...Especially since you have good evidence that your ex-gf does not think of your feelings and relationship as a priority in her life...(OR it could be that your values are just too incompatible)

As for your boyfriend and him not accepting who you are...I'm guessing that you feel disappointed and lonely because of that...What you decide to do is entirely up to you though...and what you want from your relationship (both right now and in the future)...

I hope you have a good network of friends who accepts you...

Answer 2

Well of course you still have feelings for her! You weren't really ready to end the relationship with her from the sound of it. You and that girl still have unfinished business between you that has nothing to do with your curent lover. Talk with your ex girlfriend face to face and get all the issues out and be HONEST about your feelings. Find out what her feelings are. I'm sure you both had fights about men because like it or not, bisexuality is a difficult thing for lots of couples to deal with. Once any relationship evolves into something deeper, it's no longer acceptable to bring another person into the picture. Relationships evolve and people typically become monogamous. It's unfair when one person in the relationship still expects to have other lovers once the relationship gets deep. You never know what the future holds... You and her could get together some day and marry. Maybe not. As long as either of you are going to put a man first, you won't have a shot with a girl. And even though you 'can't imagine being without' your boyfriend, it sounds like you weren't ready to move on and have a relationship with him any more than you were ready to break up with your exgirlfriend. Bisexuals run into this problem more than other people do. I don't meet many people who want to be serious with someone who still wants another lover.

Answer 3

I'm not familiar with this stuff but I think no matter what your sexual selection is go with your heart. How do they care for you? How do you feel around them. Who makes you sing and heart beat a flutter? He's probably resentful and playing the your gay card to lash out at you. Stay strong in your beliefs no matter what "they" say! You are talking about it and that's always a great start. All the best. K

Answer 4

My dear maybe ur relationship with ur girlfriend didn't work but u can't stop here .She is not the only girl in the world & someday agirl will come and she'll love u as u r.About ur friend I think a real friend should help his/her friends.So u can find afriend who helps u and accepts u as u r

Answer 5

I don't really get the question... if your ex-g/f doesn't love you anymore as yo state, there's not much you can do.

And it looks like you "love" 2 people at the same time?

So, I'd say, try to decide what you really want.

Answer 6

So you were cheating on your boyfriend with another girl, and you are mad because he isn't accepting of that.

What do you do? Thank whatever deity that you believe in for having such a decent boyfriend.