Ladies,advice pls-It's confusing!?

Question

I fell out with my close female friend-we didn't speak for 4 months-we got too close for comfort, I fell for her,she didn't feel the same.To deal with this,I broke contact-(not the best idea-I know!)

2 months ago we met for the 1st time since I broke contact,there was terrible tension bwt us-she didn't want to talk to me,snapped at me a few times!.I apologised for hurting her(when i broke contact)she snapped bck 'You never hurt me,ok!' -1. DID I HURT HER?

I iniated contact by asking if i can add her as a friend on Facebook,she said yes.I asked if we're still friends,she said YES,but replied bluntly+rudely! 2. WHY??

Contact has increased just THIS WEEK via Facebook(SHE INITIATED IT) It's like it used to be! 3. Why the sudden increase in contact?

I invited her to a roadtrip and she will join us!

I'm surprised we're in contact as she said "the friendship is OVER!" 4.Why she say that?

5. She ever like me?

READ 1st: BEFORE WE FELL OUT! She opened up to me saying:

1)She cares about me a lot,2)thinks about me a lot,3)can only open up fully to me (no one else), also told me many personal stuff from her past 4)really enjoys spending time with me (one on one),5)she only wants to txt me at certain times,i.e after a long day/travelling home. When I told her I felt the same (as above), she said she don't see me in that way and nothing more would happen!

She didn't want to go further,I found this too painful to accept!To save the friendship - I broke contact!!!

She said she finds me attractive,but couldn't say why we wouldn't get together!Only reason she gave was that I was too available!

Answer 1

Wow, it really sounds like you have a lot going on with this girl. I'll do my best to give you the best advice that I can.

1 - Unfortunately, you did seem to hurt her. I'm sure that her snapping at you wasn't intentionally, but more of a defense. It hurts a lot when someone close to you just stops. And while you miss them and you want to be friends with them again, a lot of times you can't control your emotions and have a tendency to 'attack' the person that hurt them. So try to not hold that against her.

2 - In regards to this question, it's the same as the first. She is hurting and it seems like she's sort of letting it out.

3 - It's really good to hear that you two are talking a lot more on facebook. A reason for this could be because she made the decision that she wants to really get your friendship back like it used to be and so she's doing her best to just look forwards instead of back. I would really try to focus on that instead of what happened. If you missed her and now you have her back in your life, that's what's important.

4 - She probably said the friendship is over because she was really hurt and shocked. People say things that they don't mean when something comes up and surprises them. That's just a habit and you shouldn't hold it against her.

5 - From what you've said, it sounds like she did like you, but there could be a reason why she didn't want to date. But, I wouldn't push the dating issue with her, especially since you two are just starting to be friends again. Just try to take things as they come and try to be a good friend to her like before.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

Answer 2

Your friend is very confused, sometimes we often admire things in other women and confuse this with love, your friend obviously has done this and realised this was also her mistake by leading you on, i think you did the right thing by breaking contact for a while and now things are good again don't be drawn in to having the same feelings, it sounds as if your friend may be confused about her sexuality and could be using you to try this out on,, be careful and let ur friend know from the start that your not willing to loose her friendship again and wont confuse your feelings again, you have then left the ball in her court if she tries something on stop her and question why she is doing it let her know again that neither of you want to be hurt and does she really know what shes doing , she car'nt blame you then if things go wrong..
good luck.

Answer 3

Wow this is complicated and convoluted. It does seem like she is sending mixed signals to you and not being clear about her emotions/reactions to what you say/do.

I suggest you let her deal with her feelings and you concentrate on dealing with your own feelings. To form a healthy boundary is important both in relationships and in friendships.

If you insist on figuring out what she is thinking/feeling, I'm thinking that it is quite probable you will never get to the bottom of things AND you might get increasingly confused and waste a lot of your energy, time, and feelings on the matter.

I do hear that she is important to you though. So...one of your options is to put yourself out there, be vulnerable and come clean with your emotions in a responsible yet assertive manner. Remember to OWN your emotions/reactions...and tell her how her words/actions affects you without being accusative...

If I HAVE to guess, I would say that she was hurt by the breaking contact. After all, she seems pretty involved in the friendship and seems to rely on you a lot too. Despite that, she also says that you are too available (contradictory!). And if so, then her reactions reflect someone who is rather selfish and not respectful. I say this because she wants to continue to want to be close friends and do not respect your need for a healthy amount of space...

Answer 4

Wow - I'm now as confused as you! Get over it, if you are now friends that's what you wanted isn't it? You just need to learn about being friends with each other again - enjoying each others company etc. If you cannot get over what happened in the past you will never be able to move on. Personally, I think you need to (a) be friends or (b) don't be friends - it really is as simple as that - don't read too much into it,

Answer 5

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Answer 6

She is upset that you broke contact with her and is trying not to show it. She wants to be friends with you but is being tricky. Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't want to be friends tell her the friendship is over for good this time. Good luck!!x

Answer 7

wow i'm confussed as u now lol.
i'm not sure maybe she likes u but she's to shy to show it? i hope mi'd help soz i'm confuzzed my self lol

Answer 8

And i thought i had problems. do you ever spank the ham. seriously