Do people who commit suicide want to be counseled out of it?

Question

Are suicides avoidable, if only those who commit suicide can be counseled? Are they longing for some such counseling, or have most of them made up their minds, and wouldn't like the intrusion into their decision? Is the society doing enough to avoid suicides?

Answer 1

The road between having suicide thoughts and actually commiting suicide is very long. Close but unobtrusive observation of the would be suicider can give away tell-tale clues about their intentions.

It's human nature to look always for a ray of hope somewhere, even though distant. Hence, a very desperate person will also yearn for that single breakthrough that can lend a positive turn to their life.

Suicidal thoughts enter a person's mind for the first time when they begin to see that ray of hope, fading rapidly. Despite, they dont commit suicide and wait for things to get better. This provides an excellent window for people close to the victim to recognize symptoms and seek professional help.

Symptoms of suicidal thoughts include: a sudden interest in reading material related to life after death, interest in occult issues, interest in various kinds of deaths and instruments or objects that can cause death such as poison and weapons, close studying of railway tracks, gazing at heights of tall buildings and a general interest in everything associated with death. Self pity or sympathizing with some strange cause also indicate suicidal tendencies. Some may spend long hours trying to write a suicide note with all their jumbled thoughts.

The victim will also show apparent restlessness when they are contemplating suicide, since they are unsure of what to do and what will happen next. And will try and collect as much cash on any pretext to buy something that can cause death. They are not worried about repayment...simply because they wont be there to pay back.

However, when they resolve to commit suicide, the behavior takes a U-Turn. The victim will be calm and peaceful, very polite, well dressed, in high spirits wanting to enjoy those "last days" of life. Here, its best to look for instruments associated with death, such as a written or videotaped suicide note, weapon, poison or anything else unusual and rush the person for professional help.

Once the victim has resolved to commit suicide only professional help can work. Because suiciders take a sadistic pleasure in destroying themselves and believe they are enjoying the pain.

Is the society doing enough to prevent suicides: Honestly, NO. A lot more public awareness is needed against suicide, using whatever means possible. Religion can be a good weapon in the fight against suicides but it has been used for so many purposes, its gotten blunted. Awareness against suicide and suicidal tendencies has to be created among parents, children, teachers and counsellors and all sections of the society. And stricter laws against instruments of death are needed such as gun control.

Suicide helplines dont really help because as mentioned before...somebody who has resolved to commit a suicide, takes pleasure in the pain they inflict upon themselves and others. They will simply not call the helpline to give up their plans...because in their own minds, they are about to die for a cause, become immortal as martyrs.

Answer 2

If they have committed suicide then I wouldn't waste my time talking to the DEAD.

If the attempt it then that may be a cry for help, because there are plenty of ways to do it right the first time. If you get it wrong and end up in a vegetative state then someone has the burden of taking care of the person who couldn't even kill themselves the right way.

Why do you need someone to talk to?

Answer 3

I can only speak for my best pal. She was deeply troubled an addict & adopted. I did what I could to help but it was never enough. She had a great sense of humor & loved dogs. She was really a victim of a complicated world that turned against her yet she had a college degree. She shot herself on a busy street & died from head trauma at the hospital Suicide is a time bomb only very skilled professionals can make a dent.

Answer 4

I honestly think they are crying out for help and then one day just decide to give up. I think we don't pay close enough attention to change in behavior and moods from people. We tend to think they are just depressed or they'll get over it. I think we have to be more aware of these people with such tormented souls that they are ready to end their lives. Pay attention to people and if you start to see them change, separate thenselves from friends and family, don't call,etc. they may need help because they are in a state of depression. It is very sad. We are going through this with a member of my family right now and we just try to check on him, go by and see him and just stay aware of what he's doing and where his head is. I think some people don't want to be stopped, at least that's what they will say, however, when given a second chance at life, they are happy to still be here.

Answer 5

People who commit suicide are dead. They can't be talked out of anything.
Because the reasons for the act are infinitesimal, no society is strong enough to avoid all such actions.

Answer 6

Nope... People who ATTEMPT suicide want a way out of it...

People who commit suicide... are dead.

Everyone understands the right ways to get the job done if they really want to... Those who really want to, do...


There is very little you can do for someone who takes a dive off a building... Making that decision for yourself requires a certain amount of commitment...

Answer 7

I've beening feeling suicidal lately, but my guardians are pretty tired of me going to counselers & taking meds...blah blah.... So when I got off the anti meds, I'm feeling the same way again, but this time I'm trying to prove that I could live w/ myself. I DO want to be counseled, but I'm afraid what others would think of me now. They would think I have major issues & not take any of my advice b.c they think I'm insane or something. I've did in the past & it ruined my future chances.

Answer 8

Well, I could poke fun at the way you worded your question, but I will resist temptation....
My Great Grandfather, my second husband, my brother-in-law and my step-son all committed suicide. I was the unfortunate witness to my husband's. I truly believe that my Great Grandfather was the only one of the group who really wanted out of this world...the others, I believe, did not really mean to die...just get someone's attention that they were hurting and desperate...but, unfortunately, they ended up dying. I believe most people who get that desperation point, really just want someone to notice and help them....
IMHO...

Answer 9

There are two types. Those who want attention and those who make sure that no one will find them. Sometimes no amount of therapy can help. I've attempted it twice and I pray that I never try it again. Third times the charm.

Answer 10

It's kind of too late, if they commit suicide.