Any truth to this? - Homosexuals deep down desire to be the opposite sex?

Question

I know that thats transexuals but maybe homosexuals are transexuals in the closet?
Its actually eazier to be gay than transexual, its a more difficult life. I know a few people who are actually transexuals but havent done anything about it coz of all the difficult processes so they've just stayed the same sex and gay.
Any thoughts?

If you love being a girl, why do u want another one of u? Look I understand how it is, but i still cant help but think, Im trying to figure it out how it works, so if u are a girl and have a vagina...why need another vagina or another one of u? and vise versa for males?? No need to get offended I am LGBT but I still cant help but wonder , why it is that things are this way, I want more explanations rather then just "coz it is"

I understand what your saying Jayelle but I'll let uz in on a little secret, Im a girl, who is into girls, but when i fantasize about being with a girl, I imagine my self as a male figure. I prefer to dress into guys clothes then girls clothes, but I have a huge ego and I dont belive in plastic surgoery, and even if u get one F to M, you are still not guranteed a great male body, and on the other hand there is some things i love about me being a girl and as I said I have a big ego and a strong believer in embracing what nature gave u so I guess I cant stand the thought if i was actually ever serious about wanting to be a male.

Well it is eazier to be "gay" than a tran coz this way you just want to be the same sex with the same sex, there is no operations involved and heart-ache and anxiety involved? There is no waking up and looking in the mirror and seeing wot u dont see urself as in ur mind, there is no wondering which public toilet to use...

Answer 1

Uhm, I'm a man, I like being a man, I don't want it any other way. I have no wish to feminize my body, it would do nothing for me, it would end up making me very unhappy.

I've wondered about it in depth actually, because it would be far easier. But I like being male, and to be forced to change my body like that to conform seems a terrible fate. I could never really be happy that way. I'd be lying to myself just as much as if I were to try to be straight.

I'm merely a man who likes men, it doesn't make me a woman in a man's body. I like my body, I like men's bodies. One doesn't have to do with the other, as I'm not attracted just to men with the same body type as mine.

The problem as I see it is you're mixing up personal sexual identity and personal sexual orientation. They're 2 independent things. Transsexual people are stuck in the wrong body, this is their sexual identity problem. Literally their brains don't match their bodies, there's a physical difference. It doesn't tell you who they're sexually attracted to, for example some MTF transsexuals are considered lesbians because they're attracted to women.

So for me, my personal sexual identity is male, I wouldn't have it any other way, it wouldn't be me. My sexual orientation is towards men, so a same-sex attraction. It doesn't mean that I want to be a woman, it has nothing to do with my sexual identity.

I hope this makes sense and answers your question, it's about as clear as I can get I think.

Answer 2

I'm going to act as if you have a working brain and actually want answers. Of course the answer to your first question is HELL NO. I'm going to answer other questions.

There are other ways for two people to be complimentary besides gender. I am a chubby woman from Florida with long hair, in love with a skinny, shaven-headed Siberian woman. She's quiet, I'm really vocal. She's serious, I'm goofy. She spends money freely, I cut coupons. And so on, and so on. We're not the same kind of person just because we happen to share a gynecologist.

This is true in many other couples, too. Even two women or men who look similar have personality differences. There are many more differences within genders than there are between them--does that make sense? I'm sure you don't like all people of your gender.

I'm going to toss this out, too--how often do you see, say, an athletic blond Christian man with an athletic blond Christian woman, both about the same level of attractiveness? (You can use other traits as examples, too.) You wouldn't accuse them of secretly wanting to be something else...right?

Answer 3

I'm gay and, while I am certainly jealous of the far better choice and variety of girls clothing, I certainly don't want to be a girl. I am very happy being a boy who likes boys - I don't trust anything that bleeds for fours days every month and doesn't die! Only joking ladies.

But yes gender and sexuality are completely seperate things. Most cross dressers are actually straight and those who actually undergo gender reassignment surgery do not change the gender of partners they choose. In other words a straight man who has surgery to become a woman is very unlikely to stop having relationships with women.

Answer 4

There's lots of evidence pointing to the idea that homosexuality and transsexuality are different degrees on the same scale. Both are caused by "errors" in the sexual differentiation of the fetus during development (this is theory and not fact!). So yes, there are some homosexuals who are envious of the other gender, or who feel they would've had a less conflicting life had they been born the other gender. And there are many who don't feel that way at all. The homosexual world is vast and diverse as the heteronormative world, the *only* uniting factor between us is our preference for partners of the same physical sex for sexual activity.

Answer 5

I think you are confusing sexual orientation with gender identity. Trans people can be gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, just like anyone else.

And I'm not sure about your claim that it's easier to be gay than trans. It really depends on where you're talking about in the world. In Iran, for instance, it's illegal to be gay, but sex change operations are subsidised and available to anyone. So in that case, it's actually easier to be trans than gay.

Maybe some homosexuals are actually straight trans people, but it's not true of everyone. Some trans people don't go to the same lengths to change their bodies for various reasons. Some trans people simply don't have the funds, access or support to do it, while for others it's just a personal choice.

Answer 6

Your question is like comparing apples to oranges. Your comparing sexual orientation to gender and neither one has anything to do with the other. Just because you are homosexual, that means you like someone of the same sex as you. It has nothing to do with you wanting to change your own sex. Sex is between the legs, gender is between the ears. We create our own identities of what gender we are by our own concepts impressed on us by society of what is the "norm" for females and males. A person who defies traditional gender norms can be considered "transgendered". That transgender or transsexual person can be either homosexual or heterosexual. Not all transsexuals started off as being gay. As a matter of fact, for example, if a person was born male and was labeled as "gay" and liked men, then became a woman who still likes men, then that person was never gay to begin with..does that make sense? It was SOCIETY who labeled "him" as gay in the beginning, but SHE saw herself as a woman that was attracted to men, therefore making HER heterosexual. However, too many people define sexual terms by our external genetalia.
They think if two penises are together, that's 2 homosexual men. If two vaginas are together, that's 2 lesbian women. Sexually speaking, yes that is correct, but speaking for GENDER one cannot make that assumption. For most transsexuals, they view the genetalia they were born with as a birth defect hat is incongruent with who they are, and how they really see themselves. Their external genetalia may have no correlation to their sexual orientation at all.

Answer 7

No. The sex you are attracted to and the sex you internally identify as are separate. Most gay people are perfectly comfortable with their own biological sex and have no desire to be the opposite sex. Some transgendered folk are attracted to their opposite biological sex.

Some gay men and women express some characteristics typical of the opposite sex, but this is not an indication they desire to be that sex, it's just their personality.

Answer 8

Not me. I have never wanted to be a woman, deep down or even superficially.

I personally can't understand why you WOULDN'T want another sex organ of the same sex. I know how good it feels to me, and I know how it works. And I want to make someone else feel like that too.

Answer 9

sorry, I don't like dressing up as a woman, but I love sleeping with men. So no, there is no truth to that. but you are right... to an extent. being gay is easier, but still not easy. I thank you for not being rude, and I hope you now understand.

Answer 10

Umm, what??

Are you ignorant?

I LOVE being a girl, and I lke girls!

Sometimes--maybe its horomonal, maybe you were born in the wrong body--you desire to be the opposite gender. But I have known male-to-female transgenders who were still sexually attracted to females, and female-to-male transgendered who still liked males.

Sexuality has NOTHING to do with gender!