my brothers won't stop it. they're 12 (twins) and ones the "very sensitive science geek who knows everything" and the other the "laid back tough guy slacker who plays video games all day". they're usually best friends and do everything together but now they won't stop putting each other down. Kyle keeps telling Zack he's stu pid and will never make it past the seventh grade and Zack keeps telling Kyle that he's a wi mp and suc ks at sports and girls will never like him. how can i get them to stop? i've tried talking to them (seperately) but they won't listen. I found Kyle crying in the tree house yesterday because he keeps trying to do better in sports and can't do it right. now Zack's being obnoxious and rude to everyone. its driving us up the wall. any hints on what's going on in their 12 yo heads and how to get them to stop?
2007-04-19 02:41:37 · 9 answers · asked by Sk8er Chick 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's a phase, they will grow out of it, they are trying to establish who they are seperate from eachother, leave them be.
2007-04-19 02:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by juggalizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to find something they can and will want to cooperate in. What is happening is that they are forgetting that they are the greatest partner either will ever have, and instead succumbing to sibling rivalry.
One sure way would be to pit them together against a group outside of themselves. That way they would have to depend on each other, and realize that through cooperation they will be better off.
We all know it. You family and true friends are the ones that matter in life. The problem is that when we are young we have trouble seeing must past our own nose. Another problem with twins is that they can become so competitive, needing to show that they are an individual.
Which brings me to my second suggestion. How about letting them spend some time apart? Let them go off on their own and see how they do in separate activities. It would not be long before they missed each other I think.
Good luck!
2007-04-19 02:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Scott D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww..What a good sis!! I think your last user name was bigsis.. right?n e ways.. Talk to your parents about it.. Tell (the twins) to watch Zack and Cody they are both 12, twins,boys, Cody is the smart one, and Zack gets all the girls and they fight and so-forth...If I am correct it sounds to me that Kyle is the smart one.. so spend some time with him, don't talk about Zack just have a day where you go to the park or go out for ice cream.. If he doesn't like the idea that he will be seen out in public with his older sis why not ask one of your brothers to talk to 'em!! BTW..like eveybody said they are growing up..Horomones, Puberty, etc.. Most of the time it IS a phase that boys will go through, (same with girls..) But Kyle sounds like he has no self-confidence...Try and boost it up.. Now for Zack he has TOO much pride in himself.. try to lower it down a knotch....If you know what I mean.. Well I will edit later if I get the chance! E-mail me.. we can talk some time!! I am 14.. dominican_princess_11@yahoo.comm
P.S. Kudos for Scott D. and you for asking this question!!
2007-04-19 03:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that every time you catch one or the other insulting, you'll take something they adore. I.E. a video game or an accesory to a computer, etc. If that doesn't stop it, step it up. Take away the game system or the computer. Also ask them at separate times (apart from each other) why they have such a negative view of the other one. If you haven't noticed, they're yin and yang. They are exactly what the other person is "missing". Try revealing traits of the counterpart in each boy.
2007-04-19 02:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by shark805 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's part of the process of growing and maturing. Separate them some, encourage each to do what they do best, and try to wait it out.
2007-04-19 02:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are just 12 and there is prolly some rivalry going on. just tell them they are not stupid and don't have to excel in sports etc. reassure them.
2007-04-19 08:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by Liv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you are such a fantastic story writer!! Very smart!! You should write a book!!!
2007-04-19 02:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by raadsgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im with the 3rd answerer..
2007-04-19 11:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant really.........you just let them hadle it their is nothin you can do........thell make this work out by them selfs
2007-04-19 02:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋