ok heres another question how long should you wait before telling people about the pregnancy???

Question

a few close friends know and my mom and sister know but my boyfriend is scared we are going to jinx it if we tell friends and he hasnt told his family yet any suggestions?

Answer 1

When I was pregnant with our daughter, we told the family when I was about 8 weeks along. The pregnancy went very well and the baby was born perfectly healthy.

Last year, I was pregnant again. When I was 8 weeks along, I had a miscarriage. We had been planning on telling the family when I was about 12 weeks along. I was very glad that we hadn't told anyone about the pregnancy.

We found out in January that we are expecting again. This time around we waited until I was 16 weeks along to tell anyone.

We did not wait because we thought that we would "jinx" the pregnancy. That just isn't possible. If a pregnancy is meant to end in miscarriage, then it will happen. It a pregnancy is meant to end with a healthy baby, then that will happen. There is no jinxing anything.

We chose to wait to tell anyone for a two reasons. First, because my husband's parents are older and we didn't want them to have to deal with the loss of a grandchild if we ended up losing this baby too. We weren't sure what the event would do to them.

Secondly, I didn't want to have to deal with people trying to tiptoe on eggshells around me because they knew what had happened but didn't know what to say. I also didn't want anyone trying to help me grieve. God help anyone that said anything like, "well, you've still got your daughter", or, "you can always have another". I would have slugged anyone who tried to brush it off like it was no big deal. I would rather have it the way it was with my miscarriage last year. No one but my husband and I knew, and because of that we were able to deal with it on our own.

Anyway, your boyfriend may have his own reasons, and I believe that you should respect them. Of course, if you get to be 5-6 months along and he still hasn't told his family, I would start to question his motives.

Good luck.

Answer 2

The OLD etiquette is to wait until you are showing (6 months).

The most dangerous time for babies is during the first 14 weeks. If the baby survives that long, it has a great chance of surviving.

For that reason, most modern day etiquette says to wait until you are 3 months pregnant.

It is really up to you. You don't have to tell anyone until you are ready. As for "jinxing" it, you could lose your baby even if you DO tell people about it....there is nothing superstitious about it.

I told my family the minute I got a "+" on my pregnancy test, but some people wait until they are about to give birth.

Answer 3

I would wait until I had an ultrasound, and I was out of my first trimester. I waited until 14 weeks to tell my boss, 20 weeks to tell coworkers, and my family will know at 25 weeks. My boyfriend told everyone at 12 weeks, right after the second he knew. Coming from someone though who has had alot of miscarriages, it is alot easier to keep a secret for a few weeks then it is to have to tell everyone you miscarried. Hope you don't have to go through that, good luck and hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy.

Answer 4

There's nothing anyone can do to jinx u. Dont believe in such. If u have faith in God, U'll know what I mean.
but for me, I tell no one except my spouse. And my reason? Well I just like springing up surprises, to be far gone (like 5-6months) b4 anyone ones and by the time they're still counting 6-7, am already inviting them for a feast on the birth of my baby.

Answer 5

We were going to wait until about 12 weeks, just in case something happened. I got cracked at work due to doc appointment, then everyone found out. People knew at 6 weeks, but I think I will wait until 12 next time. We had a scare at 9 and I don't think I want everyone to know if that happened again.

Answer 6

I am also in this stage. I have told family and close friends. I am almost 6 weeks pregnant. I think I will tell my work after I go to my first OB appt. just to make sure everything is going well. It's funny, I have the same fear as your boyfriend. I keep telling my mom that I hope everything is going to go well and the baby is healthy and growing because I have been telling people and celebrating. After my first appt. I will have a huge sense of relief just from hearing a doc. tell me that things are on track.

Answer 7

Some people wait until after the first trimester because the risk of miscarriage is greater then. I personally couldn't wait. I told everyone within days of finding out. It doesn't really matter as telling or not telling has no effect on the pregnancy.

Answer 8

I have a 10 year old step-daughter. My husband and I didn't tell her until I was 4 months. We wanted to wait until the second trimester. Just to make sure everything was safe as could be. She tends to be really sensitive and gets really upset over things so we didn't want her to get hurt if something was to happen. Now Katelyn is 14 months and the two get along great. :D

Answer 9

It's not that you're going to jinx it. The thing is that if you tell everyone early, and god forbide something happens, it makes it all the harder on you. You have to explain to everyone. I'd wait till your about four months. I had a miscarrage when i was about three months, and i had told everyone. And it wasn't good when everyone saw me and asked how's the baby? I had to explain it over and over again. I'm sure you'll be fine though. Good Luck! So have you thought about names yet?

Answer 10

It's a personal call. My husband and I are not at all superstitious, so we told people right away. If your boyfriend would rather not tell for fear of the jinx, then don't tell. Spread the news when both of you are ready.

Congrats!