I have been married to a man in the airforce for 6 years we recently separated,well more like he abandoned me,we had been over seas for the past two years and when we came back I went to visit my family,he was sent to another base well the plan was I would visit my family and thenjoin him,he started cutting me off hanging up on me and saying he is going to file for divorce,he put me through that agony for about a year,just recently he has said he has filed and that he owes me nothing after 6 years of marriage,he is also very verbally abusive and has made comments about how much hotter his new girlfriend is .He says once the divorce goes through he will cancel our joint bank account and cut all ties,I was his housewife for six years and now he thinks he can walk away with no responsibilty,My question is how should I handle this who should I contact to make sure he can't get away with this.
2007-04-17
23:36:38
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asked by
kikidee
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➔ Marriage & Divorce
No we do not have children,But I was only a stay at home wife because he was fine with that and I sometimes did part time selling online but other than that I have no income now
2007-04-17
23:57:24 ·
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well, i think that you are entitled to at the very least, alimony for a certain period of time. depending on you personal finances.
in the old service days, when the wife had a problem with the husband, she could go to his commander or first seargent. but since your husbnd has already filed, you may just better get your own lawyer who is familiar with military entitlements for ex-spouses.
family services on base may be able to direct you through the proper channels .
good luck
2007-04-17 23:47:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Unless you've got children, you aren't really entitled to anything. What are you expecting, alimony? Dude's in the Air Force, the last I knew it's not like the guy is rolling in the dough. You can always be advised by a lawyer, but if you don't have any real assets, i.e. a house or investment capital, the military isn't really going to give you much. At most you'd be entitled to the difference of his BAQ allotment between base benefit and the married or +1 dependent increase, which will probably be a hundred bucks a month tops. Take some responsibility for your own life and stop expecting people to take care of you and you wont find yourself in this position again. Why is your husbands fault that you have no ambitions? Cut your losses, GET A JOB, go to a spa and have a facial, find a boyfriend, and move on with your life. And while you're living with your parents, you should take some classes.
2007-04-18 00:33:15
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answered by mixedup 4
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BAH w/dependents will give up as quickly because the divorce is last. The simplest method he's going to hold it's if he has custody of the little one over 50% of the 12 months or greater than ninety days in a row. He will also be required to transport again into barracks if he's E4 and beneath, he can then be eligible for BAH-diff round $2 hundred a month for little one help if courtroom ordered. Or he probably legal to stay out on the town however might simplest get BAH w/o dependents. The little one will stay a based in order that way an ID card, base entry and Tricare. Child help is observed by way of civilian courts identical to the divorce. There will also be transitority little one help if the bureaucracy is filed and authorised. You being simplest married two years and having employment will undoubtedly now not qualify for any alimony in any respect. You would dossier for partner help till the divorce is last however no warranty on that. The navy is not going to aid past requiring him to pay you little one help ordered by way of courtroom.
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answered by ? 4
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SWEETIE, YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE THIS HAPPENED TO. I KNOW PLENTY OF WOMEN GOING THROUGH THIS. MEN CAN'T DEAL WITH THE MILITARY WIFE AND THE LIFE AND THERE FORE COP OUT AND THINK WITH THE DICK. THAT'S GREAT. SO, YOU NEED TO DO YOUR OWN THING. GET A GOOD JOB, AND THEN CLEAN THE BANK ACCOUNT OUT AND MOVE OUT. IF THE HOUSE IS IN HIS NAME LEAVE IT, GET A DAMN GOOD LAWYER AND ONE WHO DOES MILITARY ISSUES. THEN WHEN YOU DO LEAVE, MAKE SURE YOU LEAVE A PIC, OF SOME HOT CHICK, A VIBRATOR ,AND SOME CONDOMS, LAYING AROUND. AND A NOTE. "BABE, YOU WEREN'T THAT HOT ANYWAY. PUSSY IS SO MUCH BETTER. WE LOVED SCREWING IN YOUR BED.BYE, TOODLES!" THEN FIND A HOT GUY AND MOVE ON. OH, AND ISN'T CHEATING IN THE MILITARY AN OFFENSE? HELLO! HIS COMMANDING OFFICER WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU!
2007-04-18 01:14:20
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answered by Anonymous
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sting him for all hes worth hes an air force bloke it probably woz not his first time having fun with you not there or walk away its the best way new area new men new friends just let him live his life and just put it down to a life experance let all that crap just leave you get on and enjoy life you are an inderpendant woman show the world how good you are on your own good luck
ps. dont let a man walk over you
2007-04-18 00:04:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Call an attorney. You can receive spousal support if you are not working. You can receive half of any property that was in both of your names. If you have children, you can receive child support. If the bank account is in your name or his, empty it out today!!
2007-04-17 23:55:36
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answered by PEGGY S 7
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I don't know what state you are in, but only a lawyer can answer your questions. If you have children, he does owe them.
2007-04-17 23:43:17
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answered by supertop 7
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you need professional help,
only a lawyer can advise on you right
it also depends on which country you register your marriage
you should be about to get about half of what he has
if you have kids, than he would have to pay maintainance etc
2007-04-17 23:50:32
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answered by Anonymous
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did u both have childrens? it better for you to consult a lawyer and fight for your rights. there is no way he can treat you like that.
2007-04-17 23:51:33
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answered by TO 2
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