2007-04-17 21:58:56 · 23 answers · asked by sammu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for the very important question.
I don't agree that much with the content of the question.
The real fact in here, the men after getting married hold alot of responsibilites and kids who need care from him. So the care level become more in addtion to the parents. Also, as some people mentioned that the men priporities have been changed to the new family with keep the relationship and good attitude towards the parents. Actually the human being has limited time, in that when get more responsibilites, he will distribute the time share accordingly. I agree that some people were nerve and got worst with the parents, so they wait until they get married to have the new persons who cares about him and forget the bad situations with the parents but this is absoluately wrong becasue the parents exerted their best efforts to group the kid up and care about him until he became an adult. The gift from the man should appear when he get married and treat his parents kindly.
Thanks for reading my statement.
2007-04-17 22:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by besiraqieen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though some of them might be doing so, it is generally a perception just because of the fact that after marriage a considerable part of the time is shared with the spouse and this is seen as no attention instead of diverted attention. The matter gets even worse when the issue is tackled in an immature manner.
It is humanly possible that a person would pay more attention to the new realtionship to develop and for that he might take some out from the pre-existing relations. In case of marriage, it is rather more conspicuous because the 'spouse' relationship was non existance and the 'spouse' is an outsider for the other relatives.
2007-04-17 23:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when a man gott married, he has to face different life, priorities already. That priorities evolved in building his own home now with his wife and with his own children. He dream of sharing his life with the person he chooses to be with, and will share the life and values his parents has teached him. The effect of the sudden change depends on how parents and son communicates, when the time comes that they have to face seperate lives. Communication would be a very important factor to that...Its how the son will explain ..why would it be a different thing now, and how the parent will understand the situation. Nothing is permanent in this world than "Change". Its just how we'll going to accept it, amd how to deal with it.
2007-04-17 22:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by rhona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good question, I like it. I am very sure you are not one of those men whose attitude changes towards their parents after getting married. Why it so happens, very simple a newly wed wife is like a beautiful Fairy coming from fairyland where as old parents are just like stinking, dirty, hugged personality people poking nose in every thing the young fellow wants to do for his beautiful Fairy. This is so irritating for him that he even sometime tell them to just shut up & mind your business otherwise I'll move to a new house, near my in-laws' one, as suggested by my beautiful fairy. So my dear friend this happens only when the marriage is new & what happens when marriages gets old, check other questions here or check my profile where I have given reply to all such masters of such beautiful fairies.
2007-04-17 23:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When men get married they are adults and start to think more like their parents. They start to realize that their parents were right about many things, especially after they have children of their own.
2007-04-17 22:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all men do that.It depends how the parents attitude is after DIL comes to their house. If they are good to her I don't think anyone needs to change.
But if things go wrong then I think every one change I have even seen the attitude of parents change.
2007-04-17 22:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Nanu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont agree,even parents have a lot of change in attitude after the childrens get married.
2007-04-17 22:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by toploser 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think spouse is the only close one with whom one share all moments in a way a human can do. All relation will have all sharing except physical. So spouse has special bond with the partner. So the importance of spouse will be always there than anybody and so one can feel some differentiation in dealing with spouse and others be it parent or others..
2007-04-17 23:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by m_cyberfriend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have only seen our Grand son once since our son got married, he doesn't connect with any of his family anymore, only hers. It hurts knowing that he connects better with his Mother in Law better than us, he is very distant to us now and to his sisters, we are not made feel welcome, so we just backed off, we have 2 other Grandchildren, besides if we pester and act needy, we would lose all hope of a reconnection later. But it does hurt when you see pictures on FB of them all being a loving family and we are never asked to be involved, he was never like that pre marriage. However, we have moved on and are enjoying being empty nesters and living a full life of work, ministry and hobbies, we have filled our void, rather than dwelling on it, and we are massively proud of all our kids.
2016-10-19 18:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by Carole Pallier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true, its just a psychological phenomenon on the part of Parents and some times kids do change but may be it is for good only.
2007-04-17 22:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋