I am an singer, writer, actor but really a day professional (to pay the bills). Being 'on stage' really does a world of good for me; being in the Entertainment field, you have to have a certain amount of verve coupled with confidence. My wry sense of humour in writing is well appreciated by most yet my close friends will take it upon themselves to judge what I'm doing. Believe me, I appreciate & welcome constructive criticism but when not asked for, it's just unsolicited advice.
My friend is a good one, yet at times she can be unappreciative, a tad hypocritical and a little harsh. Those are her 'bad' points and I know no one is perfect. I guess I was a little perturbed how she commented on my latest blog like gangbusters. She complimented it and said I was a good writer but stated it was narcissistic in nature. I told her everyone is entitled to an opinion, even when it's free. Is this a possible jealousy talking or is it the need to tell me things from lack of tact?
2007-04-17 21:37:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Frankly, my dear, you do sound a tad narcissistic. A touch of modesty would be more becoming. Perhaps your friend simply recognizes this and doesn't know any other way to tell you.
2007-04-17 21:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can stop unsolicited advice from your friends. The real question is how to handle their remarks. I understand how you feel because I also have this problem. I think you just have to take it (unless it's really abusive and mean spirited) and accept that this is their opinion. Of course, you are also free to respond to their remarks in a friendly way.
As far as your friend saying your blog was "narcissistic", I really don't understand her point because your blog is about you - so of course, you are the center of your blog or your universe - then everyone is guilty of being "narcissistic".
I write poetry and my poetry is about me and my experiences - am I "narcissistic"? And even if I am, I don't care because that is what I want to write about and that is what I can do.
Perhaps your friend is using her criticism of your blog to tell you that your behavior towards her is "narcissistic"? If so, then maybe you can have a heart-to-heart talk with her to see what is bothering her concerning your relationship with her. So actually there may be two issues hiding inside your question. The first issue are your friends criticizing your art and the second issue is your personal relationship with them. I guess that they are critiquing your art as a way of critiquing you indirectly. I don't know if I am right or wrong, but that is what I have come up with and I hope I have given you something to think about that may help you.
2007-04-18 06:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend takes you for granted. She feels superior to you and is irked by your creativity. She is toxic and is slowly poisoning you by wearing you down and draining you.
Your biggest clue is you are not being inspired by her.
You will be inspired by people you inspire, they will reward and reinforce your creativity.
Try to spend a month without this person and see your energy levels and creativity jump in bounds.
2007-04-18 04:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by crr_rndy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are famous and a public figure, you have to take on the bouquets and brickbats with cool attitude.. Let them say what they want.. You do what you have to do and excel in each of your activities.
2007-04-18 04:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like one of those people that has to have an opinion on everything even though she doesnt do anything...is that true?
2007-04-18 04:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Luke 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋