2007-04-17 19:44:57 · 13 answers · asked by nose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to weigh all the pro's and con's of your marriage, and make a decision. But the decision should not be based on the fact that you have 2 children.
Good luck, and you have all my sympathy.
2007-04-17 19:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What has made you suspect that he is chasing other women? Maybe you should pursue that further.
I'd speak to him rationally. Remain calm -- do not confront or attack him. Ask him what you can do to make him happy in life. Ask him he'd like to be with other women.
I wish you the best of luck. I've been through the same. I was with a man for four years when he left me for another woman. And guess what? He came back. He realized that although I could not give him the exciting, teenage love afair that he wanted... I was his support system. His best friend. That I loved him.
It's hard, but you can manage. Your children can manage. If things continue to get worse, I'd suggest professional help. I'm not a doctor, although I'm working on it.
2007-04-17 19:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Vega Lyrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't want to divorce him. That would be what your kids need, but never mind them. Let them grow up in a household where one parent cheats on the other. If they are boys, they will grow up to do the same to their girlfriends and/or wives and will have many happy days ahead of them in various divorce courts or therapist's offices. And if your kids are girls, they will have an even happier future, growing up to be some man's doormat, all the while following mommie's example.
Notice the sarcasm yet?
2007-04-17 21:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to speak with that lady through some well known persons of her als well as you also, convey her lets she should understand the feelings of you so that you can solve/avoid of divorce other wise you both can go and approach family counsilor they will council and advice you asnd your husband, Before that see he have sex with you in full mind or not, then think for divorce
2007-04-17 19:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by vijaya s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could do as one of my friends does in the same situation - act as though you don't know. she doesn't want a divorce either because of her kids and feels that if he knew she knew, he would start openly disrespecting her to her face.
me? i would get a divorce in a situation such as this only because i know i could not be a good mother if i were so unhappy. but then, some women are more tolerate than myself, i guess.
2007-04-17 19:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him what's the problem. Then have it fix before it's too late. Divorce is not an answer it's for cowards (mostly).
2007-04-17 19:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by waldenwarlock 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to divorce him, just accept it. Keep silent. May be eventually he will feel guilty.
2007-04-17 19:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make up your mind to give him an ultimatum. He either stops seeing other women, or you will leave him. That is your only choice. If you don't, he will continue to do this to you forever, and will eventually leave you for one of them.
2007-04-17 19:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Truth is, he probably wont stop. Live with it, try to change it, or leave it. No choice is fun and let him know your choices. Ask him what he thinks you should do.
2007-04-17 19:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by emeralda02 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1ST U HAVE TO CONFRONT HIM
2ND YOU HAVE TO SEE IF HE IS WILLING TO DROP HER
3RD YOU GO GET SOME MARRIAGE COUNSLING WITH YOUR PASTOR OR WHO EVER
4TH YOU WORK ON LEARNING TO TRUST IM BUT ON A SHORT LEASH AND IF HE IS GOOD FOR A LONG LONG LONG WHILE YOU WILL BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM
2007-04-17 20:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋