She is my best friend although she is my cousin. we have at least 10 years together. But since i got a boyfriend, she has been so selfish or maybe jealous, I don't know. There is this guy at school that she likes very much, but he doesn't seem to be interested in her. She is so crazy about him that she is being obsessed. I told her that but she didn' accept it. She says that what she feels about him is "love".The problem is this: My mom doesn't let me go out alone, so when I wanna meet my boyfriend I ask mu cousin to come with me. She always says: If Andy(the guy she likes) isn't there, I won't come. This drives me crazy, because I've done so many things for her and this is the way she repays me. She thinks only for herself. When she was down I tried everything to make her feel better. The opposite she did with me. I was very sad and all that she did was: I got other problems to think about. I don't know if she has changed, but to me she is selfish now. I really hate her. help me!
2007-04-17 19:37:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are right, she is jealous and she is being selfish because of it. Maybe try talking to her crush and putting in a good word for her. I know that you probably don't want to do anything for her right now - but you would really be doing yourself a favor, because if they hooked up then ya'll could all go out together.
Another thing you could do is to ask one of your other friends to go with ya'll or one of his friends.
Talk to her and tell her how her behavior is making you feel. It might snap her out of it and if it doesn't then limit the time you spend with her. But don't pick your boyfriend over her. She is family and will always be there. He probably will not.
Try to work things out.
Good Luck!
2007-04-17 19:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might be jealous of you as you got yourself a boyfriend but she isn't got hers....you should understand that in reality people do change and that she might change right now because of jealousy but you don't have to be angry with her you should still be there for her understanding her and making her realize that Andy will not be the reason for you two be not close anymore....make her realize that there are a lot of guys out there who will be worthy rather than that Andy who you said might not like her....let her show how important your friendship for you and that she's important to you..talk to her and understand her...
2007-04-17 19:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Selfie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you hate your cousin it's sounds more like fustration to me. Have you not got anyone else you could call upon? abit of solitary might do this girl the world of good,and make her realise how selfish she's been!
It never pays to rely heavily on friends, you will find a solution, good luck :)
2007-04-17 19:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by CLAIRE P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may very well be nuts but you may not know for sure how tat guy feels about her, maybe they have some sort of connection. but honestly, you both sound pretty selfish, you use her to meet your boyfriend and she doesn't want to go now....you cant EXPECT her to do it for you, shes doing you a favor..you cant just be happy for her that maybe shes happy? i think you're more in the wrong here. sorry.
2007-04-17 20:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by puturclotheson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok girl right now i kno how u feel cause i currently f ucking hate my "best friend" right now too like really f ucking hate her or she jus gets me real mad and i know how u feel about doing all this s hit for her and then she just freeloads, uses my personal things without asking me, and gives me attitude even though ive previously treated her with so much respect and acted like a good friend. once again, now im pissed, so the both of us should pick ourselves us, make new friends, and drop those b itches!! good luck! and good luck to me too haha =)
2007-04-17 19:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by neffyiffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u tried talking to her? tell her how you really feel maybe, tell her she's being childish and remind her again how you guys have been bff forever and how ridiculous this guy thing will ruin your friendship ?if she doesn't listen to you prolly u can talk to ur mom about your problem with her? or you can go with another friend of yours since u have no other choice
2007-04-17 19:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by mayer_2816 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is being selfish, and if that is the way she feels about you, then you do not want to be her friend any more.
2007-04-17 19:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her boyfriend and make him realize that she likes him.
Is Andy ur bfs friend then the job is easier
2007-04-17 20:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop her like a hot potato....first let her know how you fell then give her a chance if she doent take your feelings into account the just hang out with her as little as possible and dont tell her stuff anymore...shell get the message eventually
2007-04-17 19:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by puzzled 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're dragging your friend along so that you can see a guy (which means SHE gets to feel like an irrelevant third wheel), and SHE's selfish???
Are you KIDDING????
2007-04-17 19:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋