I don't know why there is any debate on this. the sibling hit and emotionally abused another sibling never owned up to or apologized or made it right and this sibling is still traumatized to be around them, if it was the same situation and the person wasn't a blood relation, family wouldn't expect that sibling to sit with them at dinner and pretend all was ok...
2007-04-17 19:03:32 · 8 answers · asked by kewtber 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't go and I would make it publically known why I wasn't attending. They need to be reminded of the seriousness of the matter and that you'll stand up for yourself now, even if you couldn't then. Stand by your guns, make and noise and make a difference.
2007-04-17 19:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jodes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
On the flip side, it might feel empowering to walk up to the abusive sibling (sober) and tell them off... politely of course. Just look them in the eye and say, "I know what you did and it was wrong. You've never acknowledged it, but I am now. I feel pity for you. See ya!" By not attending, you're giving them the power. It might do the hurt sibling good to go and take their power back. Just a thought.
2007-04-17 19:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by punchy333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an emotional scenario recalling the trauma experienced and underwent by not one person but of an entire family. So, it requires lot of coolheadedness to appraise the situation. Because of this, may I be permitted to suggest that think of all the people involved and of a relationship for the next 10,20 years or more and take a decision? Forbearance is a great virtue. Also, pl. remember that tolerance is not excuse or acceptance or endorsement of a deed, but, a great virtue and matured personality reflection.
May be, U will take a reasonably good decision and I congratulate U, in advance. Bye
2007-04-17 19:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by shastri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that, as an in-law, he feels uncomfortable with the family members, and only attends the events out of obligation. Sad to say, but true. I have known people like that, and they are the way they are around family for any number of reasons. The most common that I have observed is differences in family customs and mannerisms- a kind of miniature culture clash. I would definitely try to clear things up with him if possible- you have nothing to lose.
2016-05-17 23:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by migdalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be forced to face an abusive person. The abused sibling sounds as if he/she need to get some help, however.
2007-04-17 19:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the person is increditbly uncomfortable around the abusive sibling and doesnt mind missing out on a family event to avoid that discomfort- then go ahead and miss the event.
2007-04-17 19:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by lady26 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no reason for the abused sibling to have to deal with their abuser. i avoid my sister because she abused me (mentally, physically, and sexually). it is never the abusee's fault. and the abuser should never have been allowed to get away with it.
2007-04-17 19:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by roansaga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its yours when it happens agian put them in time out in a corner. let them be aware and let the parent know it also if it creates crap so be it.
2007-04-21 17:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋