Q for married women??

Question

did ur man lose interst in sex about 2 or 3 years into the marriage? did he start taking u for granted and treating u crappy? just curios ...

Answer 1

I'll bet you lost interest in him first....and I'll bet you are taking him for granted to.... what go's around starts with you lady. treat him better and he will do the same.....

Answer 2

wow...umm i dont want to get you down but i have been married for almost 3 years now and i cant get my husband to go down if you know what i mean. is there alot of stress or possibly a new baby? It could be many things. If he has alot of stress at work or if you guys are having money problems, this is a definate strain on a relationship. we had problems similsr in the beginning of our marriage. They say the first years are the hardest. we are still having a little trouble but now it is because of the Army stress. With his unit on call, it is becoming a reality that he could deploy any time. It may just be simply him realizing that marriage is something you have to work at. you need to both sit down and have a calm disscussion about how you feel. It wont hurt to let him know. I wish the best of luck to you and just be happy that he is there. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

No, we will be on our 4th anniversary in August and he still treats me like he did when we first married if not better actually. I am the one who could do without to be honest he could go every night if I would let him. We are very close and we talk about everything with each other no matter what it is or how hard it is to talk about. When a couple communicates (calmly) and shares how they feel about things that usually helps any situation, however if he is a jerk who refuses to listen and treats you badly he probably was not worth marrying and may need some professional help. If you know some guy or it is your guy who does this, he is probably cheating.

Answer 4

Sorry if I interfere your q. I'm noy yet married but in my opinion, man should not lose interest in early marriage. There's just no great reason to do that. If he is a gd husband, he should not take for granted nor treating you crappy..

Answer 5

We've been together for 7 years, married for 2.5, and he hasn't lost interest yet. The only thing that has stopped is all the fighting we did in the first year of our relationship. Now if we have two fights a year, that's a lot.

Answer 6

10 years and counting... My husband is as horny as ever, although I sometimes wish he would just go to sleep...

There have been incidents few and far between where he was less than gentlemanly and treated me in a manner I did not appreciate... When these times have come up I have always been quick to call him on his behavior... Usually with the words "Are you planning on keeping your head up your *** much longer?" or "Oh my God how did you get your head so far up your own ***?"

Before we got married we agreed to always call the other one our quickly should either of us start acting the fool... We always have so things never get a chance to grow into big problems they are fixed when they are still small and easily managed...

Answer 7

I was 23 when i married and he was 28. I was having alot of problems initially so i pushed him off quite alot in the 1st year and i was inexperienced in sex. Its been 5 years now and whenever i try to get close to him, he pushes me and yes takes me for granted too. When i try to reason it out with him, he blames me for the way i behaved in the 1st year. I have given up and control my urges now, i guess im paying for what i did. Makes me sad.

Answer 8

he hasn't lost interest in sex, but sometimes I feel like he takes me for granted a little bit. I cook his favorite meals, clean the house, keep myself looking pretty for him, and do all kinds of special little things for him just to let him know that I care, and sometimes I feel like he doesn't appreciate it. it hurts my feelings. and about the time I go and feel that way, he will tell me that he appreciates what I've done! he's a great guy and I love him very much.

Answer 9

You should be asking men this question not women. I would tell you it is time to spice it up my lady. This is what I think you should do:

You can't solve a problem at the same level of thinking that created; that being said, you both need to start seeking out new understandings about sexuality and is starts with your individual sexual persona.

If you want a long term solution start taking stock in your own sexual perception and learn how to step out of your usual box. Take a close look at your beliefs especially where it concerns your religion, culture, and family even friendships. It should be only two people in the bedroom you and your husband. Your only goal should be how to please each other but you have find out what that is first. Start taking to each other openly and honestly. Through trust and honesty with full disclosure is the path to deep intimacy and sexual passion.

Leave behind the ghost and skeleton of limiting past beliefs learned from anywhere else throughout your life. Marriage is an adventure that can lead to the most satisfying relationship of your life. You both have to become courageously real with each other to unleash the sexy beast hidden deep within you. This require you being real with yourself and sharing it with your mate. As you begin to open up with each other your real adventuresome selves will come alive. As you discover your wild side sex will be made fun no matter where you are.

What most people don't understand couples make love to each other in every thing they do in life. Sensuality and sexuality is slowly diminished through other issues in the union and this happens under our radar in most cases. If your relationship is stagnant start looking for the hidden secrets your mate might be hiding or be willing to share yours if you are the culprit. Hidden secrets will kill romance and intimacy in the union in the long run. Start the journey of understanding all areas of your life. Talking and arguing can be a very healthy aphrodisiac when couples are really listening to each other and willing to take real steps to solve issues. None action will equal the loss of intimacy and eventually the union.

I will say this, women must feel and men respond to images when it come to sexuality. Ask your hubby what kind of sexy things he would like to see you wear daily around the house. Go out, get them, and wear them whenever you can!!! As a woman this will also make you feel sexier. Get rid of all underwear when you enter your intimate space / home. There is nothing sexier than catching glimpse of your partner’s privates that are given just to you…playfulness if very important to the sensuality of the union. I spontaneously smack my girls but to send the message she is still sexy to me. I just love it when she is in her cute housedress without underwear and flips me a shot of her sexy butt. Use pet names with each other that are only shared intimately together. Take the time, without distraction, sit in a room your feel most sensual and light some candles and just be with each other. You can also use this time to read material on new positions, pleasure techniques, or just play like to little kids. Satisfying sex takes skill so do not expect fireworks right away. Have fun looking silly in front of each other. This will also improve how you get along in other areas of your relationship. Remember your home is your union's intimate space so together create it in to something wonderful that represents the love and appreciation you share for each other. Positive memories are the biggest turn on in the long run.

You have to find what works for you and your precious hubby. So start communicating and discovering and practicing. Become experts on the subject of each other.

Answer 10

NO!! My hubby and i have been married for 2 yrs and he still wants sex almost every night and it drives me crazy.. i think maybe twice a week would do me!! Dont get me wrong we have out arguments and disagreements but in general hubby is great.. He buys me flowers for no occasion, writes me beautiful cards, showers me in gifts - he even brought me bed socks the other day!!!

Answer 11

everybody has different sexual urges. i suffer from early burn out personally (too much too young) now i can do without i my husband (14 years) would ave it for breakfast lunch and dinner LOL. Perhaps your husband may be tired or stressed. as for taking you for granted, its easy to do when you feel comfortable, but i urge you not to let that happen, if it bothers you now, it will bother you more later.