She left you and a son behind without reason 7 years ago. Now she is a rich woman, she has been trying to get close to her son who has no impression of his mother. Now she has give you a cheque of 50 thousand without a valid reason, will you accept? I am worried that she will fight the child custody with me!
2007-04-17 18:10:08 · 23 answers · asked by TO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am still a single parent and we manage to get by with my pay cheque. but hardly has saving, I cannot live without my son and actually i thinking of keep the money for our rainy days, his education fee and maybe we can go for a holiday.
2007-04-17 18:27:59 · update #1
she owes you back child support doesnt she?
2007-04-17 18:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by carolyn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you be bought? Think of the reasons that she left. You have to be able to find some reason. I have been a single father for over 10 years. I wouldn't take my ex back for ANY reason. Things happen in life for a reason. We may not know the reasons. If you keep your head high and do the right thing without sacrificing what is good and bad, good things are sure to follow. My son just came out and read this as I was typing. He is 16 now and was 5 when I divorced. He says that you shouldn't accept.
2007-04-17 18:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mark M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think after 7 years of not seeing him, she would still have any parental rights but probably depends where you live and the laws. I would leave it up to the child if he wants to see her, he shouldn't be pushed. She left him, he didn't leave her. What kind of a mother could walk out on a child? Take her money, if she is dumb enough to think she can bribe a child. If she hasn't seen him in those 7 years, I don't think she has any rights. Call an attorney, they usually give you free consultations. Good luck to you.
2007-04-25 17:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is trying to give you this money to weasel her way back into your son and your lives. The only way that I would take that much money, is for you and her to go to a lawyer saying that the money is a gift and not a loan, you do not want to end up on one of those TV judge shows. And as far as her trying to get back into your son's life, is a choice that he can make on for himself. I'm sure that he is bitter against her, but she is still his mother. After her walking out on the both of you, I do not see a judge giving her custody, maybe visitation rights. I am not a man, but I just wanted to aswer your question. You see about 10 years ago my husbands daughter just ran out and left our grandchildren and their father. We had the kids for 4 years. And they really hate their mother for leaving them like that, and I don't blame them at all.
2007-04-17 18:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by petersgurl1995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect to your situation and the emotional turmoil you must be going through, I cannot understand why you have not contacted an attorney. Taking $50k, which by today's standards doesn't go too far unless you invest it, is not the answer to anything. Plus, what if she takes you to court after you accept the money for some stupid reason that includes you took the money?
Is she bribing you to get back into her son's life? And what happens after that? This is just a first move from her, definitely not the last.
Please, please, please, talk to an attorney.
2007-04-25 09:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by margot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also am a single parent ..I left my ex when I found out she liked sex with strangers more so then with me...as far as the money goes go seek an attorneys advise- make sure she does not get custody of your son as she signs the papers-make sure she writes the payment as a "gift" and nothing more be on top of the game...wish you luck
2007-04-25 06:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by 8754 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her write you the check. Then read the fine print on it. I have seen checks in the U.S. that have legal clauses written on them (usually settlement checks, ime) and by cashing them you are agreeing to a waiver of rights, etc. While I doubt this would be a legal or ethical way to transfer custody, it seems she would have plenty of money to fight this, while you would be SOL.
Even if that isn't her game, she would have you by the balls for the rest of your natural life. She would be able to rub in your face the money she gave you, etc.
Think about the decision and consult an attorney before cashing any check from her.
2007-04-17 18:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what's her intention... Sure there is a reason for giving 50,000... Talk to her if possible to find out more... May be giving U as to make up for what she'd done 7 years ago... If she is fighting the child custody, that 50,000 might be to [bride] U... Sorry for wrong spelling...
2007-04-17 18:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sound like something my ex-wife would do. I would take the money without hesitation because I would do the same for her if I came in a large some of money.
If the idiot doesn't take it then give it to me.
2007-04-17 18:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have her make the check out in your son's name and open up a trust and invest it for him. She owes you for raising him. I would not allow this to interfere the decision to reenter your lives. If she wants in, she has to start from scratch. Although, i believe she should have access to a relationship with your son (if he wants) but not you. Nothing is free, she has to earn her way back if YOU want.
2007-04-25 07:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Waldo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a woman and i would except that after all those years she hasnt paid nothing towards your son so take it she owes you both and if she does try for custody then its up toyour son if he wants to see her if he stands up in court and says he doenst want to seeher they will not give hera chance fight it all the way mate good luck
2007-04-25 01:04:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋