will my baby be happy in this situation?

Question

My 7 mons daughter and i living wit my husband's famil. It's not the reason we want to save money or anything but my husband wants a big family wit them. His parents fighting a lot, fighting about money, cooking almost about everything. I've had enough and now I'm bursted, i can't hide my feelings anymore. I feel so bad when they asked me to bring my daughter to them " bring her here" his parents said. His younger sis walks to my room my bring my daughter out of my sight, even her bf does this. I told my husband how unhappy i am but he is trying to treat me nice so i'll wouldnt ask him to move out. I really have no privacy, my husband is still being controlled by his family. I understand he loves his family, i love my family 2, i left my family whe we married. My family is in north, ca and his is in south, ca. Even 5 mins away his family is too far to him, only under a same roof would be near to him. He helped them a lot already, car, house, bill...thank you

Answer 1

I dont think thats good. You guys have your own family his sister and bf shouldn't be taking the baby from you. I would be highly pissed if that were me. I really think you, your husband and baby need your own home. If you had to leave your parents so should he.

Answer 2

YOU are the mother. He is the father. If i were you I would be furious about this. You need to step up and tell his sister and her boyfriend "No. that is my baby. You don't take my baby without my permission" and you need to tell the parents that she is your baby and you don't like them taking control and getting in between your parenting. It would reallly just be better if you and your husband got out of that house and had your own lives. They are going to feel like they can be involved cause you are living in their house as one family. They are the heads of households there. Yall need to move out and take responsibility of your lives. I know being a parent is hard, but you three are a family and this is your chance to raise your kid and be the mom you want to be. And he needs to take charge of the situation and be the father. If 5 minutes away is too far for the family, then they need to get over it. You are adults and you have your own family. They can cope with you moving to your own place.

Answer 3

Dear unhappy if you want to keep your marriage.you need to tell your husband that when you got married .you and him became a family .Two family's cant live in the same house together. me and my wife have been married for 12, years .We have 3, kids and living with my mom .their is no privacy when we were their. We always got ask were we were going. we never had any time together. our problem was not having any money .We had to move out of state . I miss my mom .but a man has to do what he has to do. to keep his marriage.I did not have to leave .but their was no good jobs were me and my family lived.It was breaking up our marriage.

Answer 4

I'm gonna say the main reason me and my ex husband didn't make it was because of something like that. But we lived with my family and I was only 15 no job and couldn't get one and he liked bieng able to spend his money on what he wanted, 2 family's cannot and I mean CANNOT live together it just doesn't work. Tell him though u Love his family u just don't feel as though it's your home and they had him to theirselves for a long time and now its you and your daughters turn. GL

Answer 5

Looks like someone wanted to grow up, but still remain a child.

He married you and you are his priority now. He left the nest and made that dedication the day he said "I do".

If someone takes your baby with out permission or gives rude demands. You say "No, she is fine where she is". and you stand your gaurd about it. If she still tries to pick her up, you intervin and say "I am her mother and I said she is fine where she is!" on a nice, but strict tone. The sister might storm out but she will get over it! Same with the parents, you let them that "I don't hand my child to people who demand her". they might get huffy about it but guess what, it was rude in the first place to demand it.

You have to learn to stand up for yourself and the baby to be able to be a parent. If you don't like what someone is doing when involving your child, you tell them straight up.

I would never allow someone to talk to me that way nor take my child with out my permission. Especially a baby or toddler when they have no say in it themselves.

Discuss with him about moving out plans. It is time for you two to have the family unit still at home, but not in their home. Your children still can benefit from a loving family, but they don't need that based on living under the same roof.

Set a date to move out and with that, plans of spacing money to pay for it. That means, no more help to his family other than normal rent cost on your half, not paying theirs.

If he doesn't like it, tell him straight blank what I said above. He left the nest and it is time to raise a family not under their roof.

If he refuses, then you and the kids move. If he wants to have that family unit, then he will too leave. You had to leave your family unselfishly. It is time for him to cut the string and gain his wings.

He has to learn he can still have his family, but doesn't mean they all have to be under one roof.

Answer 6

FOR ONE U ARE MARRIED TO EACH OTHER AND
NOT TO EACH OTHERS FAMILIES. HE NEEDS TO
BECOME THE MAN U NEED HIM TO BE. HE HAS
A FAMILY OF HIS OWN AND THAT SHOULD BE
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN HIS LIFE RIGHT
NOW....... GOOD LUCK....................... OH YEAH
DON'T LET OTHER PEOPLE RUN UR LIFE. TAKE
CONTROL........................