when something bothers me from the day, i cant stop thinking about it. it affects the rest of my thoughts and actions-i lack focus and eat more...even if ive resolved the problem to unsatisfactory results, i should be able to move on. how can i get over this?
2007-04-17 17:09:05 · 4 answers · asked by nonphysical 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
nina, not so sure myself. when the world is so unfair, how do we get over that? when bad things happen to good ppl...when someone takes what you said out of context just to stir a bunch of BS...how to get over all of it? Yet, a lot of ppl are able to "let it all slide"...overly sensitive ppl can't "let it slide", WHY? What do we have to do to be unsensitized? Feeling pain & disappointment is depressing enough but then dwelling on it makes it almost impossible to get over! The only way I know how to get over something that just seems to NOT go away in my brain is to give my brain a break from the source of conflict. This is a rut...give your brain a break from it. What gives you total peace of mind? Reading? Therapy session? Go see your favorite movie...rented or just in theaters...this will get your mind off what troubles you. (if only for a little while) How about a small vacation? A get away..."time out" sort of thing. It can be visiting your best friend for a "slumber party". When things are "resolved" unsatisfactory...it's very hard to put closure to it. So the best thing to do is find a different way to give it closure. I'm going thru this myself right now. I need to find a way for closure...I want peace of mind. good luck
2007-04-17 17:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this sounds a little odd, but you might give it a little time -- pay a lot of attention to the problem and dwell over it until it goes away. I'd give this about 10 minutes for a minor problem, and more time if it's a bigger mistake. You should take some time to acknowlege it and grieve if necessary.
But, if that doesn't work, try and move on. I take a nap, or walk around, read a little and try and get my mind off of it. A good project also helps me to focus my mind on something else.
If the problem comes back to niggle at me, I gently tell my problem, "No, I handled it as best as I could. I will do better next time, but I will not beat myself up about it anymore."
If these little measures don't help, you might have an obsessive problem. It's a good thing to seek help. See if you can talk to a therapist, and see if you need more help from a professional.
2007-04-17 17:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Madame M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to regroup....figure out what works for you. Some people work out, others read a good novel, others hang with friends or talk to family. Basically i find what works best is to write what bothers you on paper and why it bothers you and what you can do to get over it to make u feel better.
Once you've done this ACT UPON it and say 'goodbye'. That should give you closure. Understand that everyone has different standards than you own so you do whats right for YOU. Its all about 'finding' yourself and who you are.
2007-04-17 17:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by daisy_ysiad2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would think of what mindset i would want to be in, then surround myself with those kinds of people. even if it would make me sick at first, i tend to act like those around me, as long as it's something i've been accustomed to before, i.e. doing homework, being adventurous, etc., but in no way would i go on a crime spree. when you're weak on your own, there is no shame in getting help from others. even if something bothers me, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal when i'm around other people.
2007-04-17 17:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋