As a man, where can I find help as a victim of domestic violence?

Question

I am a victim of ongoing non-self-defense violence at the hands of a woman, and am having trouble finding resources for men who are victims of abuse.

Any suggestions for where I can find help?

Answer 1

The resource is apartments for rent section of the newspaper. Get out and fast.

Answer 2

At any Domestic Shelter, they also have placement and counseling for men that are victims, Your a brave soul to come forward and I commend you. NOBODY has the right to strike anybody, especially the person that is supposed to love and care for you the most. Please talk to somebody you have no idea how good you will feel. I am a survivor, and I waited 11 years and 4 children later before I left my batterer. So I had 11 years of pent up feelings, I felt like a brand new human being in just 1 week away from that situaiton. Please trust me on this one, the people at these shelters are wonderful, they make you feel whole again. Take care and Good Luck. And what you need the most right now is non-judgemental support. If you need to talk e-mail me.

Answer 3

Get good hard evidence. Photographs, videos, and audio recordings can help. You might keep a hidden tape recorder with you. Once you have the evidence, file a complaint with your local family court or else with the police. Then you can get an "order of protection", often called a restraining order. This is true, even if you are a man. But, a woman needs no evidence, usually, just an accusation will do, for her. A man will need the hard evidence I described above. If you an get the restraining order from the court, then the court can give you a long list of different forms of relief. For example, she is ejected from your residence, required to pay any medical bills, you could get temporary custody of children (which usually leads to permanent custody, by the way), and she could be prohibited from going near you under threat of incarceration, and there are many other things that the court could do to her.

Answer 4

Please bear with me for the check spelling is not working tonight.
Most of you say call police or womens shelter, Well sorry to say not so in my town they always look at it that the man is in the wrong. Quite some years ago I was in that very position my girlfriend and I where in a argument I guess the volume got a bit loud a nabour that did not see anything but could hear some of the things going on phoned the police. they got there and did not even question me but took me in and charged me, there was not even a mark on her at all for I did not hit her at all and would never hit a women, I am totaly against men that hit on women. to make a long storey short she come into the lawyers office and signed papers to the effect that I did not hit her and went to court and said the same thing that I did not hit her.
While being booked and searched the police could see all the cuts and bload on me and they asked how that happened I told them it was from her kicking me, they did not give a dam about me. You would think right there she would have been charged but no way. When released I was put on conditions to stay away from her totaly, meanwhile all my stuff I owned was at her place for we where liveing comman law, I had no place to live now, I tried the womens shelter and they just said no we only help women even the police would not help in any way. It took me a few days to get someone that would give me a room on credit.
Now twenty some years later we have some help for men but very little. This is just to say the man is nearly always looked at as in the wrong, I was treated as if I was already found guilty in a court of law.
Right after all this went down she got a hold of me and wanted me to come home I told her I was on conditions that I had to stay away from her, she even tried to talk to the police about this and they would not drop the charges or the conditions. In the long run this hurt our baby girl the most for many of nights I talked her to bed crying on the phone.
It took nearly a year before this finaly got to court and it was throwen out but in the mean while a child was badly hurt and was not to see her dad, untill we got to court we had to go sneaking around to have a relationship and risk that if I was cought I would be arrested and charged again, where is justice in this.
Not all men beat on women so yes we need places for men to get help for shelter untill it gets to court or untill the man can get his owne place.

Answer 5

Domestic violence can be very dangerous for you. There are centers in your area for help. If you can not get your love one to seek counseling, you need to get away from the abuse.
People that physically abuse you have deep seeded emotional and anger issues. These type can have mental
disorders and are in need of help. If they are in denial of these
problems, the only thing you can do is to leave. With out
counseling they will not stop abusing. The abuse towards you
is not your fault, but you can be the scape goat, the one they
take it out on. Alcohol or drugs may be involved. It would
help you to see a good counselor to discuss your feelings
and find out why you may stay with someone when they are hurting you. Please get help. No one deserves to be hurt
physically or emotionally by another person.

Answer 6

same place the women go. to the police.

Domestic violence laws are the same no matter which way it goes.

Answer 7

Go to a theripist, if you can't afford one, go online, and search for a clinic for men in your area.

Answer 8

cal the police. domestic violence is a crime, as well as assault.

Answer 9

You can call your local women's abuse shelter. Believe it or not, they help men also.

Answer 10

I found this site. Best of luck.
http://www.batteredmen.com/