Heres the deal...
I am dating the guy of my dreams. We have been dating for 4 years! His mom and my aunt work together and she talks a lot of crap about everyone... and yet.. people find her as a "saint" ... like she's perfect and only a few have saw her TRUE colors. Anyway.. One day, I told my aunt exactly what she had said about her and her friends.. Well, she told her friends (which deserved to know in my eyes) And of of them confronted the "monster in law" and she lied right to their faces!!! Making me out to be the liar. Well this woman is really getting on my nerves!!! What can I do about it?? My fiance' and I have been engaged for almost a year now, and I love him very much therefore i'm trying to keep all of her drama down... but i've ran out of ideas.. can anyone help me deal with monster in law's DRAMA?
2007-04-17 15:58:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stay out of your "monster in law's" daily drama's. Keep to yourself as much as possible and don't get too involved with her or her friends. Keep the relationship simple. If she drags you into her problems, then have your fiance talk to her. The first mistake you made was by getting involved and talking to others about what she said. You are also guilty of gossiping and your best bet is to stay away from all the drama and gossiping and keep to yourself and then she might leave you out of it.
2007-04-17 16:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by MRod 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother-in-law is a manipulative woman and you and your husband needs to get as far away from her as possible. Your husband also needs to grow his own backbone to stand up for you. He made a vow to be with YOU. NOT her. I'm not against being filial to your parents or what-so-ever, but your mother in law is meddling too much in your married life. If this doesn't end, your marriage will fail. Parents on both sides of a married couple should not interfere on in the lives of their married children. They are supposed to watch on the side-lines and give guidance and advice. Not run the household. They already had that chance. The fact that she's spreading lies about you... I think that's slandering right? I also think that your father in law and husband has been growing through years of emotional abuse. She needs help.
2016-05-17 22:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck and may Christ be with you. LOL, just kidding.
I also have a monster in law and the only thing I have learned to do is literally don't say anything.
Just keep your mouth shut at all costs. Even if she is talking about people you love. Let her yap her trap. Everything comes back 3 fold. She will eventually get hers.
2007-04-17 16:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by jmlmmlmll 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u dont want drama? then don't start one! whatever she says, learn how to let it in one ear and out the other. whether she is a saint or not, she is your fiance's mother. PERIOD. don't ever let your fiance choose between the mother and you, it isn't fair and his choice might just hurt you. if you wanna work this out with ur fiance, dont get caught in the mother's drama and just tolerate her until you and your man live your own life. and by "your own life" i mean move away ... and FAR. good luck!
2007-04-17 16:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by emanon 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The good news is that technically, she is not yet your "Monster-in-law." The bad news is she might be. I strongly suggest that you resolve these issues with said Monstress before she really does become an in-law. Good luck.
2007-04-17 16:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... i have one of those myself. i got to tell you that your fiance must support you at all cost vs. monster in law. this meanst that if you have a problem with her now, he must take care of it. in otherwords if you have a problem with her,then your problem is his problem and he must take care of it NOW and not later. if he does not support you on this, and if you intend to marry him, i suggest you move far far far away out of state or country away from your monster in law. i almost did that myself. to your question. just be yourself and be the better person. do not give in to the monster and react to her monsterous behavior. that is the best way to handle it. ive done it and am still doing it. i also do nothing she wants anymore directly, all her request goes through my wife and we discuss it before any agreeing goes on.
good luck!
2007-04-17 16:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by ty808 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want drama, and don't like gossip and talking crap, then don't do it yourself!
you opened a can of worms by repeating what you heard from the mother in law.
ignoring her is your best bet... you can't change someone else.
take care. and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
2007-04-17 16:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is your fiance a mama's boy? if so don't push it. one thing you dont want to do is try and come between a man and his mother. you know the saying the truth is the light. someday he and the rest of your friends and family will see her for who she is and when that happens noone will pay her any attention because they will know how she is.
2007-04-17 16:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by mckinney 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont give her anything to go on. Say nothing but when she asks you questions, keep it short. Dont get caught up in gossip. Concentrate on your relationship.
2007-04-17 16:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop carrying tales. Keep YOUR mouth shut about what she says about anyone...it's NONE of your business. Second of all she is the mother of the guy of your dreams...either learn to tolerate her or dump the boyfriend.
2007-04-17 16:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋