2007-04-17 15:39:20 · 19 answers · asked by califrniateach 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's because they weren't all that committed to each other in first place. Couples who look at each other and say "I don't know what or who I really want" are most likely to fail. When I met my husband he told me that he wanted to get married. He said he wanted a wife and not a just another girlfriend. He also said he wanted that with me.
2007-04-17 15:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by SunnyMoon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate for people who live together anywhere from 10 years to 25 years before marriage is always higher because the main reason they finally tie the knott is out of boredom. 99% of the couples are happy living together , raising their families , paying morgages , working , and 8 times out of 10 they go out a lot more then couples who get engaged , marry then live together do. They watch their friends get married , they watch their kids fall in love and marry and they run out of things to talk about and usually spend 99% of their time arguing over minute things that dont mean anything , so when you run out of ways to keep the love / romance alive , you marry. There are a lot of websites about this google it you'll find all the facts from specialists and psychologists.The fact you say your proffessors dont know is a scary thing for me though.What exactly are they teaching then?.
2016-05-17 22:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is mainly Christian, Bible following people who don't live together before marriage. We believe that it is wrong to live together before marriage.
Christian's don't view marriage as something to get out of. Once you are married then you are married to that person for life. Richer or Poorer, In sickness and in health, till' death due you part.
Their have been times in which I wanted to divorce my husband but ethically I can't. I am happy that I didn't because we have gotten through the rough patch and have been married almost 8 yrs.
Of course their are always the exceptions... abuse situations and such.
2007-04-17 15:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know tons of people who live together, and no one ends up with a baby . . . and I've known tons of people who lived together, and got married, and are some of the happiest couples around.
I don't think it's because of being unable to truly commit; I think it's because of feeling that it's necessary to commit. Like, instead of just leaving while you were living together and unmarried, you feel pressured into marrying someone whom you've already grown close to and whose life is tangled up with your own.
Also, I have a feeling that many people who live together but have put off getting married do so because one member of the relationship is less inclined to commit than the other in the first place.
2007-04-17 15:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by gilthoniel00 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they don't see marriage as necessary to have a real commitment. It's just a legal necessity and something other people pressure them into ie. always asking them something along the lines of when they are going to get married because that's the only way their relationship counts in others eyes. They are also probably more liberal and less religious - they don't have their religious beliefs to straitjacket them into something. And because people change after marriage. My ex-husband did.
2007-04-17 16:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by dolphins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, you the have honey moon time after marriage.
But if you live together before marriage, your honey moon is already over.
Secondly, two parties live together, because they do not want to make a commitment. If those two are forced into a marriage, it is going to be a fragile commitment !
2007-04-17 16:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because couples who just live together know in the back of their mind that they can walk away when the going gets tough.
They then aren't prepared to stay, talk it out, and make it work when they're married.
2007-04-17 15:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly because they exhausted the love in the free years and all the faults are seen more clear in the marriage time specially when troubles come to them.
Honey moon is not forever;real life yes.
2007-04-17 16:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an equality between the two that helps them each maintain their individuality and identity. Without the proper programming usually one or the other will assume that the marriage is giving one control over the other and when that controversy is over they see no point in it and quit./
2007-04-17 17:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i thought it was the other way around, you wouldn't buy a car without a test drive right? we have been together 8 years and have bought a house and we are just now getting married!
i love her very much ,but we agree that marriage is overrated, if it wasn't for the tax credits we wouldn't bother love is love and a marriage certificate is a piece of paper
2007-04-17 18:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋