2007-04-17 15:10:32 · 19 answers · asked by Caroline 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me rephrase.. would you consider a relationship (not just casual "dating")!
2007-04-17 15:23:29 · update #1
It depends on your situation. I would probably not. I do not like dealing with baby mommas they're always a problem.
2007-04-17 15:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Momof2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a happily married woman, but if I wasn't, a "recently" divorced man with children would not be my first choice. Please.....who needs the emotional baggage. This is not a date-able man. He needs to find his way as a divorced father and I would have tons of questions for him even if he was on his own for a year.
2007-04-17 15:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and no.
I would not date a recently divorced guy because he would still be caught up in all the emotions from the marriage.
Secondly, kids don't want their parents to split up, and unless you've been on the dating scene for well over a year, the kids won't like anyone you are dating.
2007-04-17 15:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if i was single I would date a divorced man with children. Not like I am going to marry him right away. He might turn out to be a good guy. Now, if I was young, and wanting security, I would not want nothing to do with the man with children because he would put his kids first before me. Well, anyway I am married to this wonderful guy who happens to have 4 kids who is not afraid of work. He is the most hard working man I have ever met. I married him because I fell inlove with him, the person that he is, always caring, etc. I married him and he doesn't even have any money. I married him because he is my partner and him having kids is not a threat to me because I know how it is about choosing kids first. I have one too. I can support myself financially without his help, I guess I married him for love. Now that we are married, we own a business, we both have a regular job, so i guess I difinitely married my partner. The down side about dating someone with small children is that it would be hard to decipline them because it's not yours, and you would have to deal with it with your man, and that can be ugly.
2007-04-17 16:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried about whether he was ready to date again, yet. He should spend some time just being by himself, taking stock of his life, figuring out how he was going to navigate life as a single dad & co-parent. Only reason why I think it *might* be a good idea to get right in there is to help teach him how to parent on his own, give him the confidence that he needs to do it. But, those kids have got to come first in his life at that time - not a girlfriend.
2007-04-17 15:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not if he was recently divorced as more then likely he is on the rebound and this is not good. I would say he would have to be divorced for at least a year and not be on the rebound for me to even think about dating him. I would not expect a guy to want to date me if i was recently divorced either.
2007-04-17 15:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! Tough ?...since I have a grown daughter of 25yrs. I do love children, but also like to see them go home. I guess it all depends on how your looking at this relationship. If your single are you willing to share almost everything? I mean your home, your fine china, your white carpet, your pristen bathroom, etc.....if so GO FOR IT! But, before you leap, are the children respectful, polite, raised with quidelines? Understand the word "NO"...IF your not sure, take them to a resturant, you'll find out first hand!
Oh..one other ? Are you sure he isn't looking for a sub-mother? Watch out for that one! Good luck!
2007-04-17 15:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Pixie48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me, seriously no. it would be hard to even have a relationsip when there are small children around, because what does the m an want, and what about his children, it's just the whole attachment thing for me, i don't think i'd get along with the mans kids.
2007-04-17 16:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, dating isn't a commitment, it's not "for ever" dating is going out with someone who's company you enjoy who shares some of the same interests that you have. It doesn't mean I'm going to marry the guy.
2007-04-17 15:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How recently divorced? I'd be more concerned about his emotional closure on his marriage, and whether or not he was ready to date or get involved with someone, than I would be the fact that he had kids.
2007-04-17 15:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the guy was mature, I would. I am divorced and have kids. I'd hate to think that a man wouldn't want to date me because I had kids.But he would definately have to be a good role model for them, as I would to his kids.
2007-04-17 16:16:40 · answer #11 · answered by duwinallrite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋