great until the past 6 months, Hes become very possessive and jelous and its driving me nuts. We have always been complete opposites where he is very anti social and I am very social but I have never given him a reason to be jelous. I went for a girls night out with friends on the weekend and I spent more time answering my mobile phone to him. When I got home he was sitting in the dark waiting for me. It was really weird. What the hell is going on with him? What should I do because I have absolutely had it.
2007-04-17 14:35:39 · 8 answers · asked by khaismummabear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've been with this man a long time, I would hope you would be comfortable enough to sit down and have a little chat with him. Let him know your feelings, without being accusatory, and try to find out his feelings. Unless you talk about it, nothing is going to change. Maybe even counseling is necessary if you two can't work it out yourselves. Good luck!
2007-04-17 14:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You sound like some one in much trouble. First you need to re-evaluate your own actions, for example you said that you never did anything to cause his jealousy; but you might be doing something and not being aware that you are doing it. on the other hand lets suppose that you are absolutely right and that there is no reason for his jealousy, this is where your trouble begins, because it can only get worse if you don't take action now. I find that most of the time it is our lack of understanding each other that causes us to feel insecure, and a lack of our confidence in our selves remain that way.
after evaluating your situation, I find that if you invest some time praying about your situation and pray for your companion while you're at it you will encourage Gods Holy spirit around you which will chase away those jealous spirits that are making your life a night-mere. Next, a family that pray together stay together so you should invite him to pray with you. then your family needs to go out to church and in such environment you will see so many people enjoying the company of each other knowing well that the church family are all brothers in gods name with nothing to fear of each other.
2007-04-17 22:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by emerald 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you said partner, not spouse. I'm not sure why you never married if I read that right. Someone who has a radical change in their behavior has had a radical change in their own life or has a medical condition that is causing it. But since you know he has never been a compliment to you in socializing, this probably isn't errant behavior. You have been living with it for all your life. This just didn't happen in the last 6 months. If you can't discuss this with him or you find you can't get into counseling, I'm not sure you have much to go on to move forward. Try your best to find out what is motivating him to track you down and if not, well, I guess you might have to consider leaving him.
2007-04-17 21:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont know much about u or him, but if u have always been with him and havent gone out much without him, maybe hes just not use to sharing u now with ur freinds, men can become possive this way, and needs to just adjust to it, but if, on the other hand, u do go out often with friends, maybe hes not getting more of the attention, its hard to say where, like i said earlier dont know anyting bout ur relationship, some men just get jelous, thinking u might encounter someone and it could start as freindship or lead to more, men are ok when there out with guy friends but when it comes to woman, there always on the defenece side, they have to trust more, like were to do with them, just talk with him about this, communication is the key, and perhapes its noting, maybe hes just having a bad, either way u need to be open and get it over with, no sence in speculating, talk him and see whats troubling him. it also seems like something is when he been calling u all night while u were out. i hope u can find ur answer, but the real answer lies with him. good luck for u both, and i hope all works out.
2007-04-17 21:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Christine H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is insecure about your relationship. Has anything changed about your relationship in the past six months? For instance, have you started going out more with your friends recently? It could be that he's feeling excluded, and that could be causing his jealousy. I would sit down and have a heart to heart with him about the whole thing. The fact that he was sitting waiting for you in the dark sounds kind of frightening. Try and get to the bottom of it, it could be that he needs some type of psychological help.
2007-04-17 21:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm sounds like you need to stop answering your cell phone and make him respect your space.
It appears he is trying to cross controlling boundaries with you. The simple solution is sit and talk about the respect and trust.
2007-04-17 21:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe just maybe he feels guilty for something he has done and he thinks you are doing it too
2007-04-17 21:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mellycat123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM WHY THIS CRAZY STUFF TELL HIM YOU TRUST HIM AND HE SHOULD TRUST YOU IF YOU HAVENT GIVEN HIM ANY THING TO WORRY ABOUT AFTER THIS LONG WHAT IS THE PROMBLE
2007-04-17 21:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋