me and my husband have noticed a belly change in our daughter and not sure how to ask her if she's pregnant.
2007-04-17 14:14:07 · 16 answers · asked by ilovechocolate12345678yeahgo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would do it between her and you alone, in a comforting and non-confrontational way. Some of the best 'mother-daughter talks' that my mom and I have had were in cars sitting in a parking lot during shopping trips.
I think that telling her first that you and your husband love her and always want what's best for her will help to re-inforce that you are only asking out of love and concern.
Then, I would simply say just what you told us. That it seems to you that she is physically changing, and it occurred to you that she may be pregnant. If she is, it's important to get the best medical advice as soon as possible. Then, let her answer you.
Done with love and tenderness, the conversation will go as well as it can.
2007-04-17 14:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by kittyrat234b 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she is sexually active. Or just come out and ask her. Don't make it sound like you are mad or like you will throw a fit if she tells you she is. Let her know it is ok to tell you the truth and that no matter what the answer you are there for her and will help her. If she is then you need to find out sooner rather then later so she can get to a doc and what not.
It might be nothing she just might be eating more and gaining weight.
2007-04-17 21:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Lurinda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. Every mothers nightmare, right? (if she is young/unmarried anyways) Well, I think you should sit her down and just tell her that you love her no matter what but that she needs to be honest with you and that you are her parents and you are here to help. I would not yell or anything like that because what's done is done, right? Also, have you noticed any maxi pads or anything being used? If not, that is a sign that she hasnt had a period. Just love her, thats all you can do. Good luck with that one.
2007-04-17 21:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by wonderlandprincess83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be gaining weight as well you know. sit down with her and ask her if there is anything she wants to tell you guys. try not to make it sound like an interrigation. be understanding , even though if your daughter is pregnant its going to be hard to stomach. she will need you both more than ever if she is. give her the option of what she wants to do. dont force your beliefs on her. thats all i can say about it.
2007-04-17 21:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? If you want to, just come right out and ask. If that's not an option, bring up a subject and "jokingly" mention if she's pregnant and see what her reaction is. Depending on your guys' lifestyle, ask her if she wants a drink. Or, wait a couple months and if nothing happens, put her on a diet. Good luck.
2007-04-17 21:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by parkerpixy84 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, what a toughie. I feel for you - and her. I would suggest you lovingly remind her that you hope she feels she can confide in you and that you are always there to support her. If she needs further prodding, you can ask her if there is anything going on that she would like to talk to you about. If she still needs further prodding you can tell her that you feel the need to ask her a very personal question and then simply ask her. I hope your conversation goes well and she's able to open up to you no matter what her situation is.
2007-04-17 21:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by mennyd 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should sit her down when its just the both of you in the house. my mom never asked me about being pregnant but i knew she assumed i was having sex. she asked me if i wanted her to take me to planned parenthood. she had told me she is not naive and knows its a fact of life but would much rather me be protected and know what is available out there and well informed. she knew she could prevent it in her home but not outside. with that talk it put confidence in me to talk more with my mom. i declined her offer but went down on my own with a friend.
i was 16 at the time with the man i ended up marrying. i'm now 21, married for 2 years, and expecting my first in june.
2007-04-17 23:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by LaRae L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you strongly suspect then I would approach her gently but honestly.
You could start with something like "honey, this is awkward for me to ask, but I care about you and just want to make sure everything is ok...." Then tell her you are wondering if she's expecting a baby.
2007-04-17 21:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know if she is sexually active? Just ask her flat out and tell her she can come to you if she ever needs anything. Don't hesistate to ask her because if she is afraid she may do something drastic to end the pregnancy. Let her know it is ok.
2007-04-17 21:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up with her. Make it clear that you want to help and that she can come to you with this sort of problem. If she doesn't talk to you simply suggest that she go see a doctor if she thinks she might be pregnant. If she is underage, take her to a doctor immediatley.
2007-04-17 21:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by black91stang 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋