I feel like he pouts all the time. I'm stressed too. How do we keep from fighting? We keep wanting to be by ourselves. His just locked himself in the bedroom to be alone. Serious answers only, please.
2007-04-17 13:30:47 · 8 answers · asked by Topanga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
usually about money, this time I asked him to keep the lid on the pot of food. seriously, big freakin deal.
2007-04-17 13:35:20 · update #1
time outs are great. They allow you to think about what is said.
It is time to start listening though and not get upset wehn he speaks, give him time to air his view,s & calmly & rationally air yous.
Here are some tips I was given & if you try to work them out they do help
They're called Rules for a Happy Marriage (and I don't know who actually wrote them)
01. Never be angry at the same time.
02. Never yekk at each other, unless the house is on fire.
03. If 1 of you has to win the argument, let it be the other.
04. If you have to critisize, do it lovingly.
05. Never bring up past mistakes
06. Neglect the whole world ,rather than each other.
07. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
08. Atleast 1x a day say something kind & complimentry to your partner.
09. When you have done wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
10. It takes 2 to argue, the 1 in the wrong usually does most of the talking.
The other thing there are a many marriage counselling books out there, find some read them & you start to change (eventually you will see your hubby change as well)
But it will take time & consistancy to do this.
2007-04-17 13:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by ozraikat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET ME TELL YOU, MY HUSBAND POUTS PROBABLY EVER 5-6 MONTHS, AND YOU KNOW WHAT I JUST IGNORE HIM. THEN AFTER A FEW DAYS HE'S BACK TO NORMAL. MEN CAN BE BABIES AT TIMES. ASK ANY WOMAN. DON'T GET STRESSED ABOUT THAT. AS FAR AS THE FIGHTING, MAYBE YOU GUYS CAN GO FOR COUNSELING, ALSO TRY DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT, LIKE MAKE A SPECIAL EVENING FOR HIM. COOK HIS FAVORITE MEAL. MAYBE RENT A GOOD MOVIE. IS IT POSSIBLE TO GET THE FAMILY INVOLVED TO HELP GIVE ADVICE, LET THEM KNOW HOW IMPORTANT YOUR MARRIAGE MEANS TO YOU. EVEN IF YOU GO AWAY JUST FOR A WEEKEND, SOMEWHERE SPECIAL. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK. KATHY
2007-04-17 21:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by kathy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek a few sessions of counseling, hon, to learn how to get your needs and wishes out there without trouncing on his ego, and having it fall to the floor in an argument..... very destructive. You'll be surprised how when something is worded correctly, no one gets their feelings hurt, and you each come away with knowing what the other wants, and how to solve it....!!!!!! We don't teach that in hs, and few people take those classes in college. It's a skill, few of us have. You would really get your money's worth if you took a few sessions, Good luck, hon.
2007-04-17 21:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel what you are going through. It seems as though you always fight about this that don't really matter and I understand the whole shutting yourself away from him. The best advice I can give you is to see couples counsiling, and see if they can help you. If you love him and want this to work then I would recommend really trying to get through this tough time. Good Luck!!
2007-04-17 20:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IVE IS HE WANTING TO B ALONE OR JUST AWAY FROM YOU DUE TO THE FIGHTING TRY THIS WHEN YOU ALL GET HOME FROM A LONG DAY SAY HELLO FIX HIM A DRINK AND A SNACK ASK HIM ABOUT HIS DAY ACT INTRESTED GIVE HIM TIME TO UN WINND NEVER START THE AFTER NON OFF WITH STRESSFUL THING LIKE BILLS KIDS IN LAWS ECT ECT TRY BEING NICE TO HIM AND IF HE RESPONSE BADLY THEN PRETEND YOU DIDNT HEAR HIM AND STAY NICE HE WILL HAVE NO CHOSE BUT B NICE TOO ITS CONTAG..
2007-04-17 20:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because two people fight and argue , it doesn't mean they don't love each other, And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.. Welcome to the reality of Marriage........ Marriage is like a funeral, only you get to smell your own flowers....... A groom is a fella who gives up a barrel of fun for a peck of trouble........ Lighten up you two, interject some humor in your relationship......... Laugh, Live, Love and be Happy......... It is not possible to fight all the time........ When you do listen to yourselves and the other person........ Someone has to compromise... Take turns.......Best Wishes..
2007-04-17 21:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dud! It takes two to fight, very difficult to have an arguement with yourself. LOCKED HIMSELF IN THE BEDROOM??? How old is this guy, 10?
2007-04-17 20:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You not to communicate and that is how humans do it...they talk and they listen.
I'm sorry that I yelled at you I am stressed and I am a jack ***
and I shouldn't have yelled.
2007-04-17 20:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by bubbba2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋