I'm 14 weeks prego, why does everyone make such a big deal about....?

Question

me getting the baby things already. My husband feels that we should wait until the 3rd trimester to start getting the baby things. My family think I am rushing into things. It is never too late to be prepared for your little one. I have already gotten pj's, 3 pks diapers, bottles, t-shirts, 6 cans formula, towels, bibs and that's about it. Does anyone think I am crazy for doing this stuff so early. Again, I am 14 weeks prego and due in October.

The reason I can't breast feed is due to health issues.

Answer 1

I've had three children. I found it's best to get everything and prepare for the baby while you still have the energy. During my pregnancies, I had the most energy during the second trimester. I made sure to have most everything ready before the third trimester because at that point, it took so much effort to do things...I was so tired!

No one really thinks about how much work is involved...setting up the car seat, pre-washing clothes, blankets, car seat and bouncy seat covers, etc. My advice is: good planning now makes for less stress later on.

So what if your family or husband thinks you're "rushing"? They're not the ones who will be carrying a growing baby around inside their bodies for close to a year and then experiencing some form of sleep deprivation for most likely a few months afterwards.

I sure was glad I had everything purchased and set up, and had the house sparkling clean before I gave birth...cause I didn't feel like doing anything at all the last two weeks before as well as the two weeks after.

Besides...it IS exciting! Have fun and don't worry about it.

PS you might want to bake a couple of casseroles and freeze them before you have your baby. It really helped me.

Answer 2

I felt really silly buying anything before my third trimester, but if I had to do it again, I think I would have done more during my second trimester. I had so much energy I felt like I could to anything. By the time my third trimester came around I was so tired I hardly had the energy to shop and look at items and decide (of the millions of things out there to choose from these days) which car seat was the best and what store had the best deal on the co-sleeper I wanted and so on. It made me very anxious at the end when (the week before my due date) I still didn't have everything ready. Thank goodness my daugher was a week late!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

No not at all crazy
You're excited and you shouldn't let other people make you feel as if you are being silly by wanting to celebrate your baby coming by buying things
I mean it's going to be bought anyway and would you rather do it now when im guessing you would have more energy and ability to do it than in your third trimester
Only thing is my brothers gf did the same they went and bought little clothes and loads of diapers and spent alot of money only to find that their baby when he was born he was10lbs 8oz and couldn't fit into anything they had bought lol
But im sure it is a rare case of that happening
If everyone else tells you its a big deal or makes you feel that way, just tell them that it's your baby you are getting ready for not theirs and unless you buying things early is affecting them directly in a negative way, then they have no business in judging
you and if they still insist on making it a big deal, just casually mention to them that if this is the biggest issue they are dealing with in their lives then they should consider themselves lucky to have such good lives themselves that they need to concern themselves with yours.

Sorry for the rant like answer, i hope you got what i originally meant lol
And congrats on the baby =)

Answer 5

Nah, you're not crazy. By the time my first was born we had a closet full of diapers (hubby bought a package a week throughout my pregnancy). It was awesome to not have to go out and buy any or worry about running out for the first 9 months.

I'd caution you not to be quite so quick on the formula though. After our second was born, we bought a year's worth of formula to get ahead (I can't breastfeed because of severed milk ducts from a previous breast surgery, not that I should have to defend myself, but people on here make you feel aweful about formula feeding). We found out a month ago when our daughter was 4 months old that she has eczema and its triggered by milk based formula. So now we're sitting on $400 worth of formula that we can't use because we had to switch to soy.

But hey, its fun to buy baby stuff and getting ahead is a great idea. Just remember that grandma might be a little hurt if she wants to buy cute little outfits for the baby and you don't need anything.

Answer 6

I don't think you're crazy about wanting to get stuff for the baby. You're excited and you want to be prepared. I don't see anything wrong with that. It's not like you're painting the nursery and filling the closet to the brim with clothes. Just be careful though...you might start buying one outfit and end up getting a million of them because they are too cute!!

I was the opposite of you when I was pregnant...I waited until I hit 25 weeks to even make my baby's registry! I didn't buy anything for my baby until I was even 8 months!! I was just superstitious about it though. I know too much about what can happen because I'm a neonatal nurse and I see all the things that can go wrong. I had to remind myself that the stuff I see is only a small percentage of all pregnancies.

But have fun...buy some stuff for the little one. Just don't go too crazy!! You might break the bank!!

Answer 7

It's great, it just means you're excited. And besides, when you're on maternity leave and you're broke, you'll be so glad that you started stockpiling diapers & stuff.
If you put it off until the 3rd trimester, you'll probably feel a big financial crunch- I don't think men realize that babies need a bazillion little things that will nickel & dime you to death if you wait until the last moment.
Watch out with the formula, foods & medicines though, since they have expiration dates.

Answer 8

You'll find out quickly when you have the baby what you forgot lol:) be careful with the formula tho it's only supposed to be stored for a year... only open for a month then thrown away... I believe it's supposed to be because of bacteria growth... congrats on your pregnancy... I think alot of people think you are rushing because it's early and sadly things can happen.. I think it's great you are getting prepared... Try breast feeding it's great for your baby:)

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH FORMULA FEEDING!!! either by choice or by medical reason... I Enjoy breastfeeding:) it's great to bond with baby... but it's just a suggestion:)

Answer 9

I did the same thing and it is fine but people fuss about it because they say that babies grow really fast and people will buy you everything you need at your baby shower but i still bought things i wanted to buy when i saw them and don't regret any of it! do what you wanna do girl because it is your baby and you can do what you want! I would watch out for the diapers because the sizes of each brand differ and will also depend on your baby. Also the formula too because some babies have allergic reactions but you will find all that out as you get to know you baby!

good luck!

Answer 10

i think u r fine. i did the same thing.

the only thing i wouldnt buy is the formula because i just wouldn't want to risk it getting old. sometimes your baby may not be able to drink the particular one u bought or the dr. may suggest a different type of formula.

maybe they want to throw u a baby shower and think u should wait. who cares what everyone thinks!

sometimes if u wait till your 3d trimester u may feel too overwhelmed trying to make sure u have everything u need while carrying 30lbs or more in front of you.