I know that it's by no means the only reason, but it just seems that for so many people, it's the solution to every problem. What are some other reasons?
2007-04-17 12:24:32 · 15 answers · asked by x_chynadoll814_x 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think we, as an American society, have become more and more selfish and egotistical. (in general, of course) Everything has to be about us and our "rights." We think we should get what we want when we want it. Marriage is about compromise and seeking out the other person's best interests before our own. Isn't that love? Isn't that why dating was so great in the first place? That the other person put us and our needs first? Then a few months or years after marriage, it's back to being self-centered again. A Healthy marriage takes work, and people who don't think so will end up hopping from one relationship to another.
2007-04-17 12:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by sonshine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that isn't the only reason why the divorce rate is so high. Other reasons are people get married for the wrong reasons like a guy marries a woman because he gets her pregnant but he doesn't love her or a woman marries a man for his money because she doesn't like to work and living off a man is an easy lifestyle and security in the bank
2007-04-17 13:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by diva22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like no one is willing to really try hard to make thing s work anymore. There is also the fact that the younger generation seems to have less and less respect for themselves and others and these two things alone are the major reasons for divorce these days. When I got married my grandmother told me if I wasn't willing to be understanding and patient and respectful of my husband and support him in all things then I shouldn't even be dating him. But really being respectful of each other is something that parents need to teach their children more of because if we all respected each other the way our parents taught us then life on the planet as a whole would improve greatly.
2007-04-17 12:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that people aren't willing to work on relationships. It seems like one little thing goes wrong and it's like... game over. However, I also think that a lot of people don't realize that a marriage is supposed to be for life. It's not something you do on a whim or without thinking it through. Like a starter marriage. Marrying someone to see how it works out and to learn from your mistakes so you don't make them with someone you really want to be with? What a joke.
2007-04-17 12:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so many divorces because everyone wants to lay all of the blame on the other spouse, and they think its easier to just go out and find someone new, it works for awhile, but after a time one finds their self in the same situation with the same kind of person. most divorces are caused by fear, fear of rejection, fear of taking back a cheater, and lack of understanding. marriage is so disposable now, especially when theres always someone waiting in the wings to take someone Else's mate, whenever any problems arise.
2007-04-17 12:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the divorce rate is so high because people are so stupid and insecure. Nobody takes the time to get to know someone anymore. Stupid people rush into marriage anymore. I think people that want to get divorced should. If you have to "WORK" on your marriage to stay married, you are obviously with the wrong person. Staying married should feel and be easy.
2007-04-17 12:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, to many think the grass is greener on the other side and option to end their marriage and start all over..only to find themselves right back into the same situation..of course! If you didn't fix what got you into such a mess the first time, your more than likely to repeat yourself and be in the same mess once again.
2007-04-17 12:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that people are less likely to put up with B.S. We have been taught to NOT let other treat us bad. We just need to learn to read the signs that are usually there BEFORE we marry. We always think things will change. I learned a lesson. I have taught my kids to be sure that they are respected and that they also respect the person before they continue to date or marry them. I hope I succeded.
2007-04-17 12:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was that the ex-hole fell in "love" with someone else after 24 years. I begged & pleaded for marriage counseling & everything...so NOT my fault!
You can't say that people don't try---it takes TWO!
Now I'm happier, and married to a MUCH better man, though.
2007-04-17 12:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people get married for all the wrong reasons!
2007-04-17 12:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋